Sometimes stop after an orgasm in order to enjoy the blissful after-effects, and just be grateful.
Chapter Six: How it is for me now
What is my day like, now that I have mastered the art of multi-orgasmic masturbation?
Initially one of my big challenges was when to masturbate in peace. I am self-employed and have a downtown office. Sometimes I simply lock my office door after 5 o’clock in the afternoon. I sit on a big armchair in my office with the lights off, after undressing completely. It is hard to describe the feeling of peace and happiness that descends on me when I sit there in my office, alone, masturbating while the world outside carries on.
Another time that I masturbate regularly is in the morning early – 5-30 or 6 o’clock. The morning is a very good time to masturbate, because your energy is at its peak, and I often wake up with an erection.
Another time that I pleasure myself is at night. One of the sweetest experiences I have had since starting masturbating this way, is that of waking up in the middle of the night. Before waking up properly I would then start masturbating. I suspect it has something to do with the fact that I am still half asleep, but the sensation of masturbating is completely different. It is as if the sensation penetrates into the core of my being, and also as if I instinctively know that I can go at it as hard and as long as I want, and while I experience the most intense pleasure, I know I will not ejaculate. The combined effect of my normal deep breathing and the complete state of relaxation of my body seems to be to bring about something very special. I do not feel the same way when I get up to masturbate early in the morning. I suspect we are all conditioned to face a stressful day when we wake up, and do not enjoy that sense of deep relaxation of waking up in the middle of the night.
I would like to try and convey something of the pleasure that I enjoy masturbating in this multi-orgasmic way. The sensation goes through stages – both leading up to each orgasm and between orgasms, but also from day to day. Normally I would start a masturbation session in a state of semi-arousal, and would have no problem getting an erection. The reason for this is that I masturbate regularly, so that I am still somewhat stimulated from the previous time. So for example I might have masturbated in the morning between 5h00 and 6h00. By 11h00 I might be able to arrange my affairs so that I can fit in a session in the middle of my work day. (As I say I work for myself, so this helps.) That would have the effect that I would still have considerable sexual energy from that morning’s session. All of this assumes, of course, that I have not ejaculated during my last session. If I have, then all bets are off, and it may be uncertain if I would have enough energy to enjoy the same amount of pleasure than if I had not ejaculated. But I hasten to add that it depends. It depends on how complete my ejaculation was; how long ago it was; how long before that the previous ejaculation was; and generally just how energetic I am feeling at the time. I have found that if I manage to limit the number of ejaculations to, say no more than one in ten days, I have almost as much energy to start having orgasms, even after ejaculating an hour or so earlier.
Normally, assuming no recent ejaculations (the normal state of affairs in other words), I am able to have my first orgasm within 4 or 5 minutes, sometimes sooner. Before that, I am usually able to have hugely pleasurable feelings within the first two minutes. If I want to, I can make that continue for – say – ten minutes before having an orgasm. About five minutes in I normally start secreting pre-cum that starts dribbling down my penis head. This can happen before or after my first orgasm, and is a very important moment for a number of reasons. The most obvious reason is that it is often the point in time that my first orgasm starts approaching or happens. It is also the moment in time that I know that it is the “point of no return”, in the sense that I am likely to have several orgasms before getting tired. Once I start secreting pre-cum, I know that I will most likely maintain my erection indefinitely, and that my orgasms will grow in intensity. That is also the time that my penis becomes very hard, swollen and reddish purple in color. Veins stand out on the shaft and when I stroke up and down there is a pleasurable “bumpy” feeling as my hand rubs over the corrugated surface of my nerve-charged penis.
How to describe the sensation itself? Well, that too varies depending on the stage of the session, the day and the cycle since the last ejaculation. If I have recently ejaculated and am still in the process of building up energy, I would normally touch myself very lightly, and the sensation would be a pleasant, almost soothing one – a sense of playing. As my energy builds up I would start feeling my lower body – my upper legs, my lower abdomen – starting to become a bit wobbly, and experiencing a sensation as if that part of my body is opening up, growing and yet at the same time becoming more vulnerable. My penis itself would start tingling at the base and goose bumps would start forming on my legs and stomach.
Along the shaft of my penis I would now start feeling a warm, deeply pleasurable sensation every time that my hand strokes it. In the mean time my breathing will become heavier and deeper, but all the while remaining slow and measured.
When I come the first time, the climax is not as intense as I know it will become later on. But it is still very satisfying. How I know that I am coming, is that I reach a point where I instinctively know that “it cannot go on like this”, something has to “give”. In the old days that would have meant that I ejaculated. Instead now I would exhale heavily while a wave of pleasure radiates out from my penis to my upper body and into my head, which feels light and open. At that moment a sense of happiness, bliss, takes hold of me – a realization of intense gratitude that I can feel something so beautiful. I also know that I come because I reach a distinct climax. The sensations in my body reach a higher level of intensity than before, and then gradually subside. In the beginning – with the first orgasm – this climax is not only milder, but also shorter. It lasts about five or six seconds, about the same time that an ordinary ejaculatory orgasm lasts. Later on my orgasms last longer, and I have to “work harder” - that is, stroke longer and more persistently, in order to “bring myself down”. Then the orgasm not only lasts longer – eventually as long as a minute or longer – it is also more intense.
Now if you read this you will undoubtedly wonder whether what I describe as an orgasm feels the same as an ejaculatory orgasm. The answer is no. Whilst an ejaculation is short and sharp, marked by contractions and intensely focused on the penis, a non-ejaculatory orgasm is marked by a sense of radiation outward from the pleasure point of the penis. The penis does not contract in the same way. Whilst it may sometimes contract, albeit more mildly, it is the whole body that contracts – slowly and in rhythm with one’s breathing. But the feeling of pleasure is similar, except that it lasts longer and seems to flow through the body.
Another fair question is this: Do I not miss the sensation of ejaculation: that satisfying feeling of pumping your contracting prostate empty of semen, of squirting white, warm fluid through your pulsating penis?
The easy answer is this: If I had missed it that much, would I have carried on the way I do? I must be insane, doing what I am doing while there is something far more enjoyable to be had? There is no doubt in my mind that if I weigh up the brief sensation of ejaculation against the pleasure of what I have now, the latter wins hands down. Besides, I do ejaculate – if only by way of rare exception – and when I do, I still enjoy it. But I know which of the two I prefer as a general practice.