Relax. Carry on doing what you enjoy. Do not be afraid. Enjoy the tightrope.
Problem 3: You feel on edge and jittery all the time.
See problem 2.
Problem 4: You get headaches.
You either suffer from dehydration (for which see problem 5) or do not orgasm (for which see problem 2)
Problem 5: You feel thirsty, headachy, weak or generally tired, or your eyeballs ache.
Drink water, energy drinks and herbal tea.
Problem 6: You cannot get an erection.
See chapter 7. Learn to play with yourself (see chapter 3).
Problem 7: You feel nothing.
See Chapter 7.
Problem 8: You are exhausted all the time.
See chapter 7.
Problem 9: You get cold-like symptoms or an upset stomach.
See Chapter 7.
Problem 10: You get a pain on the pit of your stomach.
Take a break. Massage your intestines.
Problem 11: Penis pain.
Yeast infection or candida: wash with cold water, buy candida cream, avoid eating yeasty foods.
Deep-tissue pain: Don’t grab so hard.
Chafing: Avoid direct touch without lube. Wash. Take a break.
Chapter Nine: Advancing your technique
Anything you can learn to do, you can learn to do better. Over the relatively short time that I have been practicing multi-orgasmic masturbation, I have improved my ability to pleasure myself enormously. After overcoming the basic difficulties that I encountered along the way, I have gradually learnt how to achieve even better orgasms, and how to enjoy them even more. Even so, my masturbation is still a work in progress, and even if practice does not make perfect, it gets you closer to perfect all the time.
Nothing that I am about to say to you, materially departs from the principles that I have set out until now. But I hope that you may, like me, add to your experience of self-pleasuring by following the tips and advice that I give here.
Not all of the tips are likely to work for everyone. But they have all helped me enormously, and are at least worth a try. Trust me, if you succeed, these techniques will make what should already be hugely pleasurable, significantly better. But like every skill in life that is worthwhile, you need to practice this too. Just like learning to perform basic multi-orgasmic masturbation, you can learn to master these techniques. In my case they developed over time, and I did not think of it as work. I enjoyed myself thoroughly along the way, because I had orgasm after orgasm while improving my skill.
Technique 1: Hold your breath for a moment
As stated many times before, it is important that you learn how to breathe deeply and regularly while masturbating. You will also recall that, when reaching a climax, which is marked by intense pleasure and a feeling that “this can no longer go on”, you will release the sexual tension and allow it to disperse, by contracting your core muscles and exhaling.
You will also recall that I said that in this process you should not hold your breath. What I am about to suggest, is a minor departure from this rule. The reason why holding your breath is not a good idea, is that it interrupts the natural flow of sexual energy through your body, and you risk your body finding the obvious outlet: ejaculation. Think of your sexual energy flow as a stream or a river. It flows where it finds the least resistance. By breathing out you allow it to find the path of least resistance by flowing into your body. By holding your breath, that process is stopped, and the water dams up, in a manner of speaking.
When that happens, the pleasure in your groin increases to even greater heights than before. But so does the sexual tension: hold your breath long enough, and you are bound to ejaculate.
Now here is the first tip for enhanced pleasure: If you can hold your breath at the point of climax for just a fraction of a second, and then release it before you can ejaculate, you will definitely have a more intense orgasm. The sexual tension will be more intense, and the subsequent release and satisfaction will be more marked.
This takes some practice, and I suggest you do not try this technique before you have mastered the ability to orgasm by way of regular breathing. It is also important that you remain relaxed and do not become anxious, or you will surely ejaculate.
Technique two: Inhale more than once
The next technique can be tried either in conjunction with, or independent from, the first: try breathing by inhaling more than once before exhaling. To imagine how to do this, think of a child crying. Children often cry so hard when they get hurt or scared that they cry themselves “out of breath”, which then necessitates them having to inhale more than once in distinct, sharp gasps without exhaling in between. Or try this metaphor: it is like a smoker drawing on his pipe in order to get it to burn properly. He would then suck the smoke into his lungs in several consecutive draws without exhaling in between. That is how you should inhale when approaching orgasm, in order to enhance your pleasure. Of course it is important that you should exhale immediately afterward, strongly and completely enough in order to release the pent-up tension and achieve relief. If you hold your breath as suggested in the first technique, then exhale fully immediately after that.
You will recall that your pleasure and accompanying sexual tension rise as you inhale. What you will achieve by inhaling twice or more without exhaling, especially if you also momentarily hold your breath, is firstly to ramp up the pleasure of your orgasm even further.
Another benefit of inhaling a few times and holding your breath for a fraction of a second, is that it enables you to time your release to perfection. You must exhale exactly when you feel that the pleasure reaches a climax, but before you lose control and ejaculate.
Again I want to use an image: it is like a girl who waits to start skipping, while two friends swing the skipping rope. She needs to time her entrance perfectly, or she would trip herself up. For that reason she feints and feints until she gets the timing of her first jump just right. In the same way you must inhale twice or more, until you feel that you are about to come, and then exhale before you can ejaculate, but instead enjoy full-body orgasmic satisfaction.
If you try only one technique in this chapter, then it should be the combined one of inhaling more than once and holding your breath for a fraction of a second.
Technique three: Spread your legs
Your body position is very important during masturbation. Besides the importance of being relaxed and comfortable, there are certain positions that have an immediate impact on the level of your pleasure. You may think that nature intended women to have sex with their legs open, and men with their legs closed. Whether that is so or not, it is undoubtedly so that masturbating while sitting comfortably or lying on your back is more pleasurable if you spread your legs.
Why spreading your legs enhances the pleasure of masturbation, I do not know. I suspect it might have something to do with pressure that is automatically exerted on your PC area because the muscles of the pelvis floor are stretched more tightly.
There is also the obvious physical consideration that it is easier to stroke your penis if your legs are open. As long as they are closed, your hand has slightly less room to move up and down, and tends to clash against your legs. If they are parted, your hand can move a little lower. What is more, you can reach your balls and anus with your free hand if your legs are spread. That in itself obviously gives you more room to stimulate these sensitive erogenous zones.