But I think there is also a very important psychological reason for the success of opening your legs: the moment you spread your legs, you become more vulnerable and exposed. Just like nudity itself is sexy, being exposed in any other way can be sexy. Just like a woman exposes herself to penetration by spreading, a man also exposes himself up by opening his legs. Perhaps it has to do with the in-built constraints of societal rules that dictate chastity in matters sexual. Those constraints mean that spreading you legs while lying naked is a profoundly liberating, and thus sexy, exercise.
Whatever the reason, you will probably enjoy masturbating more if you spread your legs wide. The best position to achieve this effect is, while seated in an easy chair or lying on your back, to bend your legs at the knees while placing your feet at least one meter apart. In order to increase the pleasure of your orgasms, I suggest that when you feel you are about to come, spread your legs even further and thrust your pelvis forward at the same moment that you contract and exhale. That will give you a fantastic orgasm. It feels wild and free. Again, this will take practice. You will need to exercise control by concentrating on the sensations in your penis and exhaling hard, as the risk of ejaculation will increase if you perform this movement.
As a powerful variation on this theme I enjoy lying on my back, lifting my feet off the ground, pulling my knees towards me and apart, so that they come to rest on both sides above my pelvic area. This is a very pleasurable position to be in, as you can then, when you orgasm, pull your knees towards you and wider in rhythm with your contractions. That is bound to let goose bumps ripple across your whole body.
Technique four: Stroke your skin
You will recall my saying that I invariably experience goose bumps on the skin of my legs, torso and arms as soon as an orgasm approaches and takes place. I interpret that as evidence of the spreading of sexual energy through my body. For your sake I hope and trust that you experience your orgasms in that way, because to me it has become the hallmark of the profound pleasure that I achieve masturbating the way I do.
The goose bumps are not the cause of the pleasure – they are mere manifestations of intense pleasure registered by nerve endings in the underlying tissue in my torso and limbs. Eventually, as I carry on masturbating, that kind of pleasure reaches a stage that can only be described as ecstasy. Typically it eventually also comes to a point where it becomes difficult to distinguish one orgasm from the other, and the pleasure simply continues to flow through my body, while the goose bumps stay on my skin.
Now here is the next tip: Use your free hand softly to stroke your stomach, your chest, your arms, your scrotum, the inside of your thighs and your legs. You should try stroking with different parts of your hand, and softly and a little harder, to find out what works best. You will probably find that stroking enhances the local sensation in the area that you stroke. If you experience goose bumps as I do, you will feel an immediate response of sensation in the skin that you touch. I believe it helps with the flow and distribution of energy – and thus pleasure – through your body.
Technique five: Move your body
By now it should be no secret that an important key to the pleasure of whole-body and multi-orgasmic masturbation is the flow of energy through your body. That is critical to avoiding ejaculation and bringing about orgasms that disperse through your body. It follows that anything that you can do to aid your energy to flow freely, is likely to enhance your pleasure.
Besides stroking your skin, another way of aiding the flow of energy, is to move your body. There are various ways of moving in order to achieve this, and you do not have to do all at the same time or any all the time. It is enough to know that certain kinds of movement can work wonders in spreading the pleasure through your body.
One such movement we have already encountered in Chapter Five when you learnt about contracting your stomach muscles. I suggested there that you should sit in an easy chair and tilt and thrust your pelvis upwards rhythmically, like having intercourse, when exhaling. The same movement can be incorporated into your regular masturbation, whether sitting or lying down. It is particularly pleasurable, when you orgasm, to thrust your hips forward hard.
Another movement that you might enjoy is to move your free arm up and down your torso or legs. Earlier I suggested that you should stroke various parts of your body while masturbating. In combination with or separately from that technique, you can, when you feel that an orgasm is close, rub your hand up and down your torso in a fairly rapid movement. This will not only stimulate your torso as described earlier, but also, due to the movement of your arm, allow faster distribution of energy, and with that, a more intense and thorough release of sexual tension. The same type of effect can be achieved by rubbing either of your legs or your upper arm.
Another movement that I enjoy, especially in the early part of a masturbation session and before an orgasm approaches, is, while lying on my back, to move my bent legs by sliding my feet forwards and backwards. This works especially well if I am lying in bed on a smooth sheet.
Another way to move your legs – which as suggested should be spread and bent at the knees – is by bringing your legs closer and apart in quick movements. While sitting in an easy chair, you can also move your legs by repeatedly lifting either or both a few inches off the floor and dropping them as an orgasm approaches.
Finally, when employing the position described earlier in Technique three, where you lie on your back with your bent legs resting suspended off the ground, you can rock forward and backward in rhythm with your contractions. Personally I think that is my most favorite position in which to achieve great orgasms.
It is very important that you do not think of these various movements in a mechanical way. Think of them rather as physical convulsions or jerks that accompany your involuntary contractions. It must almost be as if you lose control over your body movements. Eventually these movements will crop up spontaneously while you masturbate, different ones at different times, depending on your mood, what stage you have reached in your masturbation, your body position and similar factors.
Technique six: Make a beautiful noise
A topic I have alluded to before, is the sounds we make when masturbating. Try and arrange your affairs so that other people will not overhear you (unless of course you want to be overheard!), so that you can make noises when approaching, and having, orgasms. Try and be as sensual as possible. Again take a leaf out of our female counterparts’ book: do not feel you have to groan and roar in a manly way. White men can’t jump, and most men cannot moan. Learn to moan in a sensual, “feminine” way. Listen to the soundtracks of the masturbation videos on the site I have recommended earlier, www.ifeelmyself.com. Let these sounds inspire you. I promise that a number of those girls will make you envious purely by reason of the intense level of pleasure that is manifested by the sounds they make. Then try it yourself. Just relax completely and surrender to the sensation of your orgasms. Use your voice in different ways to see what works best. Feel how the vibrations of your sensual keening ramps up your sexual passion. It really works. Keep it real, and try to make a sound that expresses your pleasure. The more you shed your inhibitions, the more unbridled your pleasure will be.
Technique seven: Take a short break
I have previously touched on the importance of taking a break between orgasms. Sometimes you should simply let go of your penis, close your eyes and relax, while simply enjoying the sensations of the receding orgasm, while continuing to breathe regularly. A good idea is then to allow your erection to subside a bit, not completely but to the point where your penis starts becoming soft, but is still thick and swollen. Then take it in your hand and slowly start masturbating again. At this stage you should immediately feel significant pleasure, even before you regain a full erection. If you then carry on masturbating, perhaps increasing the pace and intensity slightly as you do so, you will probably quickly reach a very satisfying orgasm. I have found that for some reason this way of masturbating is very satisfying and brings about a very good release. I normally feel completely satisfied and relaxed, and often end my masturbation session, having come this way.