Multi-orgasmic masturbation also has meaning as a form of meditation. It so happens that it is the most exquisite form of meditation, but meditation nonetheless it is. As argued earlier, it qualifies as meditation because it is an activity that focuses the mind on one thing to the exclusion of all others.
Why is meditation meaningful?
Here is a good definition of the purpose of meditation:
“When meditating, we learn to eliminate the peripheral forces affecting our minds and bodies. We focus our concentration to help us perceive the world as it truly is. We then apply that perception onto our actions. This is how we become better people so we can best help others and ourselves.” (www.wonbuddhismofboston.org).
Masturbation as a form of meditation helps us to focus on the pleasure of the moment in which we live. We neither flee from the moment, nor do we chase an elusive future. We see life as it is. Now of course we do not live life in a constant state of bliss as when masturbating. But if we honestly appreciate the goodness of life as experienced through masturbation, we will enjoy inner peace. That in turn will help us to learn to extend that peace to the rest of our lives.
Successful multi-orgasmic masturbation is meaningful because it is a form of unconditional bliss, in the moment. Perhaps the pleasure makes it easier to observe the moment. When masturbating there is no reward for looking forward or backward; at that moment life just is. It is very pleasurable, but it just is.
Masturbation helps me to see that life is beautiful. That insight makes me immensely grateful.
To me the spiritual essence of the experience of masturbation is gratitude.
Because of my gratitude I have no difficulty helping others. I want others to experience joy and bliss. I also want to help others who are unhappy or unfortunate.
This gratitude also helps me to see how unimportant most of our struggles as human beings are. Life is too beautiful to be unhappy.
The Dalai Lama once had this to say on the purpose of life:
“I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy. From the very core of our being, we desire contentment. In my own limited experience I have found that the more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Cultivating a close, warmhearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the principal source of success in life. Since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. The key is to develop inner peace.”(www.care2.com/greenliving/dalai-lama-the-purpose-of-life.html)
Now you may say that masturbation is the very opposite of what the Dalai Lama preaches here. How can we be concerned about others if we perform the act that above all is the very metaphor not only of acting alone, but also of seeking your own happiness first?
The first answer to my mind is that what we are dealing with here is not an either/or scenario. The question so put, wrongly presupposes that others will be excluded and even suffer because we give ourselves pleasure. The question is rather whether self-pleasure will enhance or reduce our ability to care for others.
If self-pleasure fills us with such gratitude as I know it does if practiced correctly, why would it not inspire us to help others?
When last were you truly in love? It is a good feeling, is it not? Most people who are in love have boundless energy, they laugh a lot, and they feel well-disposed towards the world. They want others to enjoy the happiness that they feel. They want harmony with their fellow human beings, and to them being kind comes easily. Because they are so happy, it is easier to make others happy. The pleasure of multi-orgasmic masturbation is a bit like being in love. In love with life, if you like.
With Spiderman we should say: “With great power comes great responsibility.” It is our responsibility to channel the huge emotional energy of pleasure released by this process, into gratitude, and that in turn into love for our fellow human beings. That in my experience is one path to true happiness.
We have a choice. We can be like Scrooge, who tried to grow happy by sharing as little as possible, including of his time, his company, his wealth, with other people. Or we can be happy by spreading the love around.
Pleasure is meaningful. Intense pleasure is intensely meaningful. I wish you as much pleasure – and happiness – as I have had and still constantly have, and as you wish for yourself.
Pleasure in the form of masturbation is meaningful for its own sake.
It is meaningful as a form of discipline.
It is meaningful as a form of meditation.
It is meaningful because it enhances our capacity for gratitude and service to others.