Control Your Submissive Boy
150 Ways for the New Domme to Master Her Man
By Raven Michaels Lockhart
Tell your partner that tonight he is not allowed to orgasm because the sex will be all about your pleasure. Then, ask him to strip naked and tie him to the bed. Use your hand to make him erect and then get on top of him. When you can sense he is close to climax, get off of him. After he has calmed down, ride him again. Keep repeating the process until you are satisfied. Then, untie him, cuddle up and tell him that perhaps tomorrow he will be allowed to orgasm.
Have a sensual massage night that is focused on you. Tell him that he will have to keep his clothes on all night and may not touch himself. Buy some massage oils and light some candles. Then, take off your clothes and order him to massage you everywhere. Explain that if the massage is good enough and if he is able to provide you with several orgasms using his fingers, you “might” be willing to make love with him later in the week. Make sure he rubs you the right way!
Your man needs to be constantly reminded that he belongs to you and that you have control over the relationship. Why not throw out all of his masculine underwear and buy him panties? Insist that he wear them at all times under his pants. If he objects, point out that no one but you should ever see him with his pants off anyway. This will remind him of his submission to you even when he's at the office.
Far too often, when we want to watch a movie or a television show, our lovers want to watch a game. Why put up with that? The next time there is a big game on, rent a movie you want to see. Tell him that his choice is to submit to you today or give up all access to your body for a month. Watch the movie when the game should be on. For extra spice, you could have him be your footstool while you watch!
If you want to really be the leader in your marriage, you need to manage your man's orgasms. To be blunt; the more climaxes he has, the harder he will be to control. Why not make an agreement that for every 15 orgasms he gives you, you will allow him to orgasm exactly once. You'll be amazed at how hard he tries to please you!
One of the most common problems associated with managing a male is that they will often simply resort to masturbation if you try to tease him. You don't have to put up with that! Instead, there are many male chastity belts available on the market. If you hold the key, you will control exactly when he is able to orgasm – and make masturbation a thing of the past. Most women start out slowly, keeping their man locked up for a week at a time. Over time you can build this up to between three and five weeks, depending on your needs.
Even if you are unwilling to go the chastity belt route, you should still try to manage his orgasms and masturbation. Make it understood that he is always to ask permission before he orgasms or masturbates. It should be understood that this rule is in place even when you are having intercourse. It is you – and not his body – that should decide when he deserves release.
Not to be gross, but men have very poor aim in the bathroom. Aren't you tired of him making a mess every time he pees? Don't put up with it. Insist that he pees sitting down. This will help in two ways – he will feel submissive, because society has taught him that only girls sit down to pee; and your bathroom floor will be cleaner than it's ever been before. Obviously, if you ever catch him peeing standing up, there needs to be a penalty of your choosing.
Have a day of teasing: Wear your sexiest outfit. Make sure you rub against him all day long. Bend over to pick things up in front of him. Sit on his lap. Let your breasts bump into his shoulder when you “accidentally” bump into him. At night put on your sexiest lingerie. Then undress him and very gently play with his penis. When he's close to his climax, stop and tell him to perform oral sex on you. After you are satisfied, cuddle with him until you both fall asleep – while sweetly telling him that today is not his day for a climax.
Your lover needs to constantly demonstrate to himself and others that you are the head of the household. Why not have a bunch of your female friends over and have him be in charge of everything, from cooking snacks to opening bottles of wine to making drinks? You could have him wear a tuxedo or suit to really play the part of the waiter. Obviously, he is not allowed to share in the festivities. He is there to serve you and your friends. After they have left – and he has cleaned up – you may reward him with manual stimulation and/or a long make-out session.
The problem with many men is that they really don't understand how women feel during intercourse. Some men may need a crash course. Now, this isn't for everyone; but if you are brave, you could purchase a strap-on sex toy. This will allow you to penetrate him. Many of these toys are designed to stimulate you as well during the sexual act. You'll have to use lots of lubrication and go slow at first; but when you are on top and penetrating him, it will be very clear to both of you who exactly is in charge in the bedroom. Be warned – afterward he may want and deserve to cuddle for a while.
One fun way to ease your lover into the submissive side of a relationship is through role play. Beginners can do this by switching genders for the evening. Make him shave his legs and dress up in a skirt, blouse, bra and panties. You can even do his hair and makeup. Then, you could rent a tuxedo or wear one of his suits. Now, you spend the evening being the “man” - making the first moves, pushing his head into your lap, etc. When you are ready for sex, push up his skirt and get on top. Tell him he's beautiful and the best “girl” you've ever had.
While more often than not guys can be close-lipped about their emotions, they tend to open up when they are sexually excited. Take advantage of this. Tie him to the bed one night and then slowly and gently play with his penis with your hand. Start asking him questions about how he feels about you. Get him to tell you how beautiful you are. If he hesitates or says something you don't like, stop playing with him. When he is saying what you want to hear, start playing with him again. If he starts to get too excited, stop. Do not let him orgasm until you have gotten him to admit that he is your slave for life.
This one is a little devious, but can be fun for advanced couples. If you have him wearing a chastity belt, you can find dildos that are specially made to be attached to them. Get one that is as much as possible like his penis. Then have him make love to you with it. You'll get all the fun of being penetrated by your man – but the chastity belt will keep him from getting stimulated. Plus, the dildo will never go soft!
Sometimes it pays to be subtle. A simple way to instill submissiveness in a man is to give him a feminine nickname that you always use when the two of you are alone together. If his name is “Jack,” call him “Jackie.” There are a million possibilities, but simply having your own girly pet name for him will subtly reign in his masculinity.
In any wife-led marriage, intercourse should be a rare event. Intercourse itself implies sexual equality, which is the last thing you want him to feel. Still, there will be times when you want him inside you. Afterwards, it's important to make sure he still understands his role. If he has ejaculated inside you, why not make him perform oral sex on you as soon as he's finished? If not, find some other ways to bring him back to his sub space. Have him give you a long backrub, for example. (Obviously, he sleeps on the wet spot.)