Of course, some men are under endowed, quick shooters or in some other way lacking in intercourse skills. If that is the case, there is no reason why you should ever permit him to have intercourse. Intercourse should only ever happen if you want it and he is able to perform to your expectations. There is no reason why he can't satisfy you with his mouth and fingers while you – every once in a while – use your hand to stimulate him to satisfaction.
An important part of any wife-led marriage is your sexual freedom, while his sexuality is controlled by you. A good way to establish this bond is to make him think you may take lovers from time to time. Don't worry – you don't actually have to have an affair if you don't want to. Simply making sure he knows you could will do the trick. Make comments about cute guys at work. After a night out with your friends, mention that an attractive man was flirting with you. Come home a little late from a girl's night out and be intentionally vague about what you were up to. Your hints will drive him wild!
The next time you want to go have a girl's night out with your friends, have him dress you up and get you ready. Make him shave your legs for you in the bath. Have him brush your hair. Ask him to pick out your bra and panties. Make him be your houseboy and tend to all your needs while he helps make you look beautiful for a night on the town without him!
This will take some practice on his part, but eventually can be a fun submissive exercise. Have him give you a pedicure and do your nails. Of course, he'll do a horrible job the first time around. But, if you give him enough “incentive” through orgasm denial and teasing, he'll become a quick study!
Given the wide variety of sex toys on the marketplace, there is never any need for your lover to have any sexual stimulation while he satisfies you. Purchase a variety of toys and have a night where he stays fully clothed but uses all of them on you for as long as you want. Have him penetrate you with vibrators and such while you tease him and ask him if he wishes that he was “man enough” to be allowed to enter you.
Any woman serious about living a wife-led marriage should own a set of ping pong paddles. Face it - men are like children and no matter how dedicated they are, they will screw up from time to time. You may catch him masturbating. He may forget to do the dishes. That's when you need to take him over your knee and give him a good spanking. Ping pong paddles are perfect for this. They hurt just enough, without risking any real injury.
Everyone woman loves a beautiful pair of boots – but they can get so dirty in the winter! Why put up with that when you have a submissive partner? Make him clean your boots – while you are wearing them! And, if you are wearing a skirt, you could always have him finish up by going down on you. After all, he'll already be down on his hands and knees!
I've said it before and I'll say it again - men need to be constantly reminded of you and your place in their lives. Sometimes he'll want to go out with his friends. Tell him that's fine with you, but he has to perform oral sex on you first. Then, forbid him to wash his face and send him out with your scent reeking from his pores.
The longer you deny him an orgasm, the more willing he will be to serve you. Men are slaves to their penises. After you've let him build up steam for a week or two, tell him that he has the chance to earn his relief. Make him draw you a hot bath. Tell him that while you’re in the bath, he is to cook and serve dinner. Come to dinner in a bathrobe. If he's done everything perfectly, you may choose to give him a hand job after he has gone down on you as his “reward.”
Bring the teasing to the next level by renting a porn movie. Tell him that you are going to watch the film together, but that he is not allowed to touch you or himself sexually. Cuddle with him while you watch. Make him give you a backrub – without touching your breasts. While he rubs your back slowly, pleasure yourself in front of him. The combination of the porn and your orgasms will drive him to a state of frenzy. Then, tell him to take a cold shower.
Does the name Pavlov ring a bell? Lots of the components of loving female authority are about training. You can't go from a traditional marriage to one where your man is wearing a chastity belt and doing the dishes overnight. You need to slowly train him. You can start out by giving him simple chores around the house and giving him manual stimulation when he's performed them correctly. Then, slowly stop giving him the rewards. If you do it right he'll keep doing the jobs, because he associates them with your sexual attention.
Most women in female-led relationships choose to never perform oral sex on their partners. There are, however, a few women who enjoy going down on their man and don't want to give it up; but they worry it will make their man feel less submissive. A good way to avoid this is to make him share the experience. After he has ejaculated, don't swallow. Instead, give him a big kiss and push the ejaculate back into his mouth. Make him swallow it – and you'll destroy any dominant feelings he may have developed.
If your man has been particularly bad, he might deserve more than just a spanking. For serious indiscretions, the “ruined orgasm” is a woman's ultimate punishment tool. Have him lie down on the bed and start to give him manual stimulation. Then, right before he is about to pop, rub ice on his penis and balls. He'll lose his erection – and ability to climax – but be stuck at a point of peak sexual frustration. He may never disobey you again.
If you have some adventurous female friends, enlist them to help you tease your husband. Tie him naked to the bed before they come over. When they arrive, have some feather dusters or similar items handy. Take turns going into the room and tickling him and laughing at him, while he is helpless to resist!
To keep your man happy, there always has to be the chance of him getting a reward. But, you can control the chances. Why not do a variation on the “job jar?” Write down on pieces of paper about 30 jobs you would like done around the house. Then, write down five different ways you would be willing to provide him with sexual relief. Tell him that he's allowed to pick one piece of paper out of the jar at random once a day. If the paper gives him a job, he has to do it. If he gets lucky and picks out one of the sex acts, you will do it for him. Make sure there are at least six or seven times as many job papers as there are sexual papers, so the odds remain in your favor!
The naked partner in a relationship always feels more vulnerable than the clothed partner. Why not have a weekend where he has to remain naked at all times, while you keep your clothes on? You could even order a pizza and see how he manages to pay for it when the delivery boy shows up!
Men are funny creatures. While they constantly want to penetrate us, they find it demeaning to be penetrated themselves. There is no need to put up with that attitude! You can purchase an inexpensive butt plug and insist he wear it while he's at home. It will strip away an essential part of his masculinity and turn him into putty in your hands!
Insist that he keep up on his personal grooming. Some women like their men to be completely hairless below the neck – yes, even down there. This will make him feel less manly – and make it almost impossible for him to ever have an affair.