Teach him that intimacy isn't merely sexual. Tie him to the bed and blindfold him. Then tease and touch every part of his body for an hour or more – while never, ever touching his penis. Play with his nipples. Run your hands up and down his legs and chest. Finally, straddle his face and ride it to your own orgasm.
Take your man to a tattoo parlor and arrange to have the words “Property of (Your Name)” right above his pubic hair. He'll be embarrassed, but left with a permanent mark of his love and devotion to you. Tease him that you might have mentioned the tattoo to your girlfriends!
Men crave the intimacy of women and their secrets. We crave the ability to avoid housework. You can help establish your authority by getting him to do traditional tasks around the house, like the laundry. If you insist that he wash your lingerie by hand and then fold it and put it into your underwear drawer, he'll be both turned on and submitting to you at the same time!
Wearing heels at work all day can hurt! But there is no reason for you to let your tootsies ache at home. Part of any wife-led relationship should be regular foot massages from your man. You can make him buy the creams and lotions and turn your foot rubs into a nighttime tradition. Since many submissive men have foot fetishes, you may also be able to turn this into your ongoing teasing of him!
Speaking of foot fetishes, another common fetish for submissive males are stockings. Sometimes you may want to grant your lover some form of release, but feel like he has not earned full intercourse yet. A wonderful way to tease him to orgasm is to put on some very feminine stockings and then order him to rub his penis against your stocking-clad legs until he orgasms. Of course, once he has made his mess, it’s his job to hand wash your stockings!
The following tip is certainly not for everyone, but some of my friends swear by it. If part of your wife-led marriage involves long-term orgasm denial, you need to be careful about your partner’s health. Men need to ejaculate about once a month – but that doesn’t mean they need to orgasm. With a pair of rubber gloves you can use your fingers to stimulate his prostrate through his “back door.” This will cause him to ejaculate without orgasm. Many women refer to this as “milking.” It is a little gross – but can allow you to deny him orgasms for months or years at a time!
There is nothing wrong with making your man a little jealous – if nothing else, it will make him work harder to please you! The next time you know that a plumber or cable guy will come to visit, why not tie your husband to the bed? Then, when the workmen are there, flirt with them outrageously so that your hubby can hear, but can’t do anything about it! When they leave, you can always tell him how wet they made you and then ride his face to heaven!
Your man needs to acknowledge why it is right and proper that you are in control of your relationship. Tell him you want him to make a list of 100 reasons why you are superior and why he is happier this way. Tell him that once you approve of the list, he will be allowed “relief.” The first time he shows you the list, cross off at least 10 items and tell him they are not good enough. Continue this for two or three days before you decide to “approve” the list and allow him sexual pleasure.
As the head of the household and the boss of your sexual relationship, your body is a gift. Just because he is married to you does not automatically give him the right to see you naked. Obviously, you have the right to see him naked anytime you’d like! Unless he deserves a reward, ask him to leave the room while you are changing or getting dressed. Even if you want him to pleasure you, you can blindfold him or keep the lights out. Save the view of your naked body as a “reward” for exceptional behavior!
A little bit of humiliation can go a long way to breaking down his perception of himself as a dominant male. Do you have a good female friend you can really trust? If so, why not call her up and make him listen while you tell her about your new relationship? Knowing that it is no longer your little secret may rev his engines. Plus, every time she stops by for coffee he’ll be humiliated knowing that she knows his role in the household.
Husbands can make great shopping buddies – after all, someone has to carry the packages! Bring him on a shopping trip and make him help you pick out some new clothes. For extra spice, take him lingerie shopping. At one point pick up something sexy and ask him if he thinks “John” (or whomever he may be jealous of) would think you would look good in it. Then, don’t elaborate. Remember, you don’t really need to play around on him – but it’s always good to remind him you are sexually empowered enough to do so if it strikes your fancy.
This sexercise requires a bit of care, but can be fun torture for your man. Tell him that if he does a particularly good job around the house, you’ll reward him with oral sex – on your terms. When you are ready, have him strip and start to play with his penis. When he’s fully hard, light a cigarette and hold it just by his inner thigh. Then, tell him you are going to pleasure him, but he’ll have to restrain himself – because if he bucks his hips forward he’ll get burned. Of course, you don’t really want to burn him, so be ready to pull the cigarette away if he gets out of control. The fun here is watching him trying to control himself while you get him hotter and hotter.
Whether it’s calls from work or just when your mother-in-law rings you up, there can be times when you are simply stuck on the phone forever in a very boring conversation. Develop a signal for your partner when this happens. When he notices the signal he is required to provide you with oral pleasure, while you pretend to listen to the person on the other end of the phone.
Every so often you’ll want to let him watch a game or have his friends over. After all, he is allowed to keep some of his identity. But, don’t make it easy on him. Tell him that the next time he wants to have a poker night or watch the World Series, he can do so, but only if he wears panties and a camisole under his normal clothes. He’ll squirm knowing that he’s feeling just a little bit less manly than his buddies – and he’ll make sure that he only invites them over when it’s really important!
One of the many problems with men is they are convinced that their own opinions are more interesting than ours. Silly boys! You need to train him to listen. Make a deal with him – from Friday until Sunday night he is not allowed to say a single word. If he can go the entire weekend without speaking – while listening to everything you have to say – tell him he’ll get a reward Sunday night that will more than make it worth his while!
Make up a contract defining the rules of your wife-led marriage. This will help clarify in his mind what his true role is. Make it very specific – including what punishments you will impose for indiscretions and what rewards he will receive for good behavior. Make him sign it – and tell him to keep a copy with him at all times.
Being in control of your relationship is not just about sex – it’s also about the romance you deserve. Insist that he bring you flowers on a regular basis. He should be instructed to notice when the flowers start to wilt and immediately replace them – or face the consequences!
While many men are willing to worship your vagina, some get a little squeamish about “going lower.” If this is something you want, don’t stand for it. The anus is full of lots of sensitive nerve endings – so there is no reason to not ask him to literally “kiss your ass” when you are in the mood. This is one of the most submissive acts a man can do for you – and will remind him of who is really in charge of the relationship.