There is a myth that as men get older, they naturally become less in shape. That’s only because their wives allow it! You don’t have to. You deserve a man with the body you want. Insist that he go to the gym on a regular basis. As an added incentive, you could offer him either one night of intercourse or, if he’s in a chastity device, one night of freedom if he loses a certain amount of weight. Clearly, if he does not meet the goal, it may be a long time before you allow him to climax!
Men can be very, very irresponsible when it comes to financial decisions. All too often, the temptation of a new toy can override their common sense. This is why it is a good idea for you to be in charge of the finances. Have all of your combined income put into an account that you control. Take away his credit and debit cards and give him a reasonable weekly cash allowance. Some women prefer to let a man keep one card -but only allow him to use it to purchase gifts for them.
It’s never a bad idea to mix a little bit of pain with his sexual pleasure. Obviously you don’t want to hurt him, but there are many toys out there that can help you. Nipple clamps are particularly popular, because they won’t damage him and inflict just the right amount of sexual pain; that is the price for his eventual pleasure.
Sometimes, you will want something other than oral sex – but may feel that allowing him to have actual intercourse is going too far. Why not try outercourse? To do so, you’ll have to be on top – which is where you should be anyway. Then rub your clitoris and vagina up and down and around his penis without ever letting him enter you. With practice you’ll get feelings that are more intense than actual sex – without the bother of letting him be inside you.
Men love porn, but the type of porn he chooses may not be to your taste. Why not use his love of porn to teach him what you like? Find a female-friendly adult video and watch it together. When you see a guy on the screen doing something you like, point it out to your husband and ask him to do it for you. Keep this up throughout the tape – and insist that he remember his newly learned moves!
The bedroom is your domain. Feel free to make it as frilly and feminine as you like. There is no need for him to have any say in how your bedroom looks. If he insists on some place of his own, suggest that he decorate the guest bedroom – but remind him that he may end up sleeping there if you are not happy with him!
In a successful wife-led marriage, your husband needs to respect your privacy. If you are in your bedroom, insist that he knocks before entering. This establishes that you are allowed to keep your distance from him and reinforces that you are in control of the bedroom – which is as it should be.
Keeping him a little bit jealous and on his toes is the cornerstone of any wife-led marriage. Every so often when you get a phone call from one of your friends, take it in the next room – behind closed doors. Refuse to tell him who called or why. Point out that it’s not really any of his business and let his imagination run wild!
There are plenty of companies online that will let you design your own underwear with any logo or slogan you like. Why not get a couple pairs made up with slogans like “No Entry” or “For Oral Only” or “Ask First” printed on the crotch – to remind him of his enforced limitations?
One of the pitfalls of a wife-led marriage is that during the course of orgasm control, your man may worry that you are not attracted to him. It’s important that he always feels loved and excited by you. During his workday, why not send him flirty and suggestive text messages, letting him know that you are thinking about him – and ensuring that he’ll want to come home to you? Of course, just because you’ve been flirting with him doesn’t mean you have to do anything to relieve his sexual tension when he comes home!
While you should feel free to come and go as you please, your husband should always have to ask permission to leave the house for any reason other than work. It should be understood that you have the right to say “no” at any time and for any reason. He is not allowed, under any circumstances, to question your feminine judgment.
Normal alarm clocks are loud and annoying – and the worst way possible to wake up. Why not insist that he be your personal alarm clock? You can insist that he wakes you up in the morning in any way you see fit. Some women like to be woken up with foot rubs. Others would like to wake up with their man’s face between their legs. It’s your choice!
Create a submissive game to keep the spice in your loving female authority. At game stores you can buy non-traditional dice that have as many as 64 sides. Have him make a list of 64 submissive things he can do for you. Once a night have him roll the dice – and then perform whichever act you are lucky enough to have him roll!
For your man, the sweetest smell in the world should be your own natural perfume. He needs to associate your scent with his submission and love for you. One afternoon while he's at work, touch yourself a bit, but leave your panties on. Get yourself just worked up enough to make sure your panties are full of your pheromones. When he comes home, hand him your panties. Tell him you want to watch as he inhales your scent on them. Then, walk up, kiss him and tell him how much you love him.
I've said it before and I'll say it again – the most important lesson for your man to learn is to never question anything you do or say sexually. One afternoon, masturbate in bed - and leave an obvious “wet spot” from your efforts on the covers. If he mentions it or asks you about it at all, provide an appropriate punishment. His is not to wonder why – it's to accept you or cry.
This exercise is particularly cruel and should only be used for major transgressions – for example, if you catch him looking at porn or masturbating. Put him in a chastity belt and then make him take a Viagra pill. Tease him all night long. The little blue pill will make his body strive to get hard. The chastity belt will make it impossible. The sweet torture will keep him on the edge of his seat for hours. For extra fun, make him perform oral sex on you while he struggles with his predicament.
Taking a lover should be your choice. You may if you want to, but you may not if you don't. But, as I've said before, it is essential for him to understand that it is your right to find a boy toy if you so choose. One night when you are out with your friends, come home an hour or two later than expected. Mess up your hair and make your clothes look a little disheveled. You can even muss up your makeup a bit. Whatever he says, refuse to answer his questions. Look at him slightly dismissively. Let his mind make up any scenario he wants, while he understands that he has to accept whatever has happened.
One of the most annoying parts of chastity belt play is that your partner may constantly bother you about when you are going to take it off of him. You need to put a stop to that! I recommend that your partner always be told how long you expect to keep him locked up. But, I also suggest having enforced penalties should he bother you about it. For example, you could tell him that he will be in the belt for two weeks – but that every time he mentions the belt or bothers you about it, you'll add another week to his confinement. Be firm and you'll never have to worry about him hassling you about it again!