Unless your mate is psychic, it will take him a while to learn how to please you. After all, every woman is different. It's sometimes helpful to provide him with some gentle instruction in how you like to be touched. Start by undressing for him. Then touch your breasts or nether regions in a way that pleases you. Ask him to do it to you. If he does it right, give him a kiss. If he makes a mistake slap his hand away and tell him he's a “bad boy.” Keep doing this until he has mastered everything he needs to know. Then give him a kiss and a cuddle!
Hiking is a great activity for couples in a wife-led marriage. It allows him to exercise and stay in shape, but also allows you to lead him on the trail. As an added bonus, you'll probably get fairly sweaty and musky, particularly “down there.” After a few hours of hiking, find a secluded spot and tell him to provide you with oral pleasure. You'll taste particularly fragrant and he'll be forced to wear your musk for the rest of the hike! Just make sure you don't get caught!
As you know, when it comes to the television, the man always seems to get territorial about the remote control. It drives me crazy! My advice is to make sure you almost always have control of the remote - after all, you are going to watch what you want anyway, right? Still, you could allow him to “earn” the right to hold the remote once a week or so. Just make sure he understands that this is a privilege – and that you expect many non-reciprocal orgasms in return. You could also make him choose - does he want to command the remote that night, or else have the chance to have sexual release? Watch him squirm!
Men, on vacation, can be a drag. They rarely want to do the same kinds of things that we do. So, why bring him along at all? After all, if he stays home, he'll have lots of free time to make sure the house is clean! Instead, go on vacation with one of your female friends – and send him lots of text messages about how much fun you are having. You can even ask him to text you back pictures of your home – so you know he's keeping it immaculate!
Your vagina should be the center of your man's sexual world. It should be what he lives for. So, he might as well help you pamper it. The next time you are in the bath, invite him in. Tell him that he will be in charge of your intimate grooming from now on. Then instruct him on how to shave your intimate area. It will bring both of you closer together.
Create a point system in order for your man to earn your sexual favors. Create a list of things you'd like him to do – from leaving you love notes, to doing the dishes, to giving you foot rubs. Allocate a given number of points to each loving act. Then tell him that when, and only when, he has earned a given number of points will you allow him to be intimate with you.
If you decide to take a lover, make sure that he both understands and accepts your choice. Have him help you write an affectionate email to your new boy toy. Or, have your lover over for drinks and insist that your husband treats your lover with all of the respect he deserves for helping you have as happy and fulfilling a life as possible.
Men need to express their feelings, even though it's often hard for them to do so. Why not instruct him to start a blog about the dynamics and progress of your wife-led marriage? Insist that he write his feelings about what's going on each and every day. He'll probably hear back from other men in similar situations and then can trade ideas on how to make each other's wives happy.
It’s always good to let your husband know you love him and why. That is the foundation of any successful wife-led marriage. Make sure he's comfortable and knows your love by writing down a list of the things he does for you that make you happy. Let him know that these are the things that make you respect him and want to be intimate with him.
On the other hand, men also often have no clue about the things they do that disappoint you and make you want to withhold their eventual sexual release. Make a second list of his “problem areas” that he needs to work on. Over time, as he improves, cross items off the list and reward him with increased physical affection.
One of the odd things about submissive men is that they tend to be very interested in our footwear and our feet. Use this to your advantage! One day, tell him that he will get a special treat if he shines all your shoes and organizes your shoe closet. Have him purchase a shoeshine kit and get on his knees and start shining. You may be amazed at how enthusiastic he is for affection when he is done!
Another great way to tease him is to use your feet! The next time you are watching television together, put your feet in his lap. When he's paying attention to the show, start slowly moving your toes up and down his crotch. Don't go too quickly – just do it enough to keep him teased and stimulated. See how long you can keep him in a heightened state of arousal and how much you can distract him from the show!
A big component of a wife-led marriage is the man's symbolic submission to you. Some wives enjoy holding a “collaring ceremony” once her husband accepts her superiority. Simply purchase a collar – either online or at a local sex shop – and then plan a romantic evening, at the end of which you will put the collar on your husband. Obviously he can't wear it to work or when your friends are around; but you may insist that he wears it at all other times, as a symbol of his place in the world.
The symbolic nature of your relationship is not limited to him. Many wives, once they have established their role as the head of the relationship, choose to ask their husband to purchase them a gold anklet. This is a symbol in the femdom community that the wife is not only in charge of her relationship, but also free to take lovers when she so chooses. You should reward your man with some form of relief when he purchases the anklet and puts it around your ankle for the first time.
Many women in the wife-led marriage community also use their gold anklets as symbols of their sexual conquests. In other words, after they take a lover they add a small charm to their anklet. This further cements their sexual freedom. Of course, you don't really have to take a lover to add a charm to your anklet. As soon as you add one, your husband will think you have, and his acceptance will deepen his submission to you.
In today's busy world, sometimes you may be asked to do some work from home outside of office hours. If so, why not make your life easier by turning your husband into your personal assistant! Have him kneel beside you as you work. Should you need a drink of water, tell him to get it for you and then return to his place on his knees. You may want a foot rub while you work. He'll be there for you. Keep him there the entire time at your beck and call.
So much of the process of a successful wife-led marriage is breaking down your man's “natural” sense of masculinity. Since he'll be doing the dishes and cleaning the house anyway, why not purchase him a frilly, feminine apron for him to wear while he does his chores? This will make him feel less “manly” and help him delve deeper into “sub space.”
Sometimes your husband will commit a minor infraction. He won't have been naughty enough for a spanking, but you will want to correct his error. A simple way to do this is to insist that for one night he sleep at the foot of the bed instead of at your side. This will let him feel like he's “in the dog house” without actually hurting him. It is one of the most effective “minor punishments” possible.