Everyone has at least a slight bisexual side, but men are never able to admit it. In fact, one of the most humiliating things for a man is for a woman to think he has any homosexual tendencies. Use this to your advantage. When you are out shopping with him, point out guys and ask him if he thinks they are attractive. Rent gay porn and play with his penis while you make him watch it. Make subtle comments about him being “a little gay.”' Enjoy it when he squirms!
Taking a lover expands your abilities to humiliate your husband and make him feel submissive. If you really want to take it all the way, have your husband hide in the closet and then bring your lover home. Insist that your husband watch through the door while you and your lover have sex. Make a point of being extra loud and enthusiastic to give him a sense that you prefer your lover.
While smoking is bad for you, a little cigarette ash won't really harm you. If you are a smoker, you could always have your man be your human ashtray for the evening. Have him kneel beside you at all times and gently flick the ashes into his mouth. Be careful not to burn him. The point is not to hurt him, but simply to make him feel useful.
Don't you hate it when you are in the middle of a project and the phone rings? It can be such a distraction! Never let this happen to you again. Make your husband screen all of your phone calls for you! Give him a list of people you are willing to talk to. If anyone else calls, make him make your excuses for you! You'll quickly find that you have a lot more free time!
A great way to motivate a submissive man if you are regulating his orgasms is to constantly keep him up to date on his progress. Get a blackboard and some magnets. Start the magnet at the bottom of the board. Every time he does something good, move it up slightly. Every time he does something bad, move the magnet down a little bit. He's only allowed release when it gets to the top of the board!
One of the reasons you married your husband probably is because of his looks. Yet, many men stop taking care of themselves once they get married. Don't stand for this! While he may consider it feminine, insist that he use a moisturizer to keep his skin looking young and soft. If he is getting older, make him put on a light amount of makeup to disguise his aging (not enough to get him in trouble at work; be subtle!). You go out of your way to look good and so should he!
When you take your man shopping with you, you may want to involve him in making your choices. On the other hand, you don't have to. If you don't trust his taste, or feel that he does not have the right to an opinion, you could order him to stand outside the store and wait – with your bags -until you are done with that store. Better still, you could ask him to stand in the corner of the store and wait for you!
You never, ever want to let your man become too confident in his ability to satisfy you. Otherwise, he might stop trying or become complacent – and that's the last thing you want. Therefore, it can be a good idea to make sure he's never quite certain he's doing a good job. The next time he performs oral sex on you, why not pretend to read a book or a magazine and act bored – no matter how good he is doing his job. It will make him work harder and turn him into a better husband!
This is a little dirty, but it is an effective way to control your man. Many sex shops sell cock rings that contain a small electrical charge. What happens is you make your man wear it at all times. Then, if you want his attention, or if he has been naughty, you can hit a button on a remote control and it will give an electrical shock to his penis! It won't be enough to damage his goods, but it will make him aware that you can and will punish him at your discretion.
Every man has his limits and it's your job to discover them. That way you can always punish him, but never worry that you are going too far. Over the course of the first few months of your wife-led marriage, try to push the punishments up a little bit and pay attention to his reactions. Some men can only take a paddling. Others can be spanked with a belt. You never, ever want to draw blood, but letting him get a little bit bruised from time to time is not a bad thing, if it's within his psychological limits. Test him constantly so that you manage the perfect balance between pleasure and pain.
Over the course of training your husband, you may discover that he has some basic bisexual tendencies. Many submissive men do. If you have a lover, you can take advantage of this. On adult movie sets there are women, called “fluff girls,” who are hired to make the male actors hard with their mouths before a scene is shot. Make your husband be your “fluff boy” for your lover. You could even ask him to guide your lover's penis into you at the start of your lovemaking!
We all know that men make great footstools – it's one of the main tenets of a wife-led marriage! But did you know they also make great coat racks? Take advantage of this and use him to hang your clothes on when you get home from work. It won't take a lot of effort on your part, but it will be highly objectifying!
The goal of any relationship involving loving female authority is to bring a man to his knees – psychologically, at least! But, you could also turn this into a real physical activity. Plan a weekend where he has to be on his hands and knees and crawl at all practical times. This is a great way to make it clear where he “stands” as far as you are concerned!
One of the most powerful ways to control a man is to make him think you have secrets. Never reveal too much of yourself to him. The best part is that he will always think your secrets are sexy or about him. The next time you have a female friend over, spend some time whispering and giggling with her. At least once, point at him and giggle together. It will drive him crazy!
High heels are popular with many submissive men, particularly stilettos, though it never occurs to them that while the heels can give pleasure, they can also give pain. Have your man lie naked on his stomach on the floor one night. Then, slowly walk all over his back with your highest stiletto heels. Let him feel pain and excitement at the same time!
This game will only work if you are friends with other couples who participate in loving female authority. If so, why not have your husbands put on a girly fashion show for all of you? Have them dress up in their sexiest, most feminine outfits, do each other's makeup and strut their stuff while you and the other women hoot and holler and show them how it feels to be objectified!
Hiring a pool boy can be very expensive, and you really don't need to if you have a submissive husband. The next time you and your friends want to hang out by the pool, why not have your husband be your pool boy? He can be in charge of watching your towels, bringing you drinks, taking care of your suntan lotion and moving your umbrellas around, while you relax, gossip or read a book!
You can never tease your man enough. Remember, the goal is to keep him in a constant state of arousal. One night, have him strip and get into bed. Then spend about an hour rubbing your breasts over every part of his body except his penis. Tell him he is forbidden to use his hands to touch you. When he can't take it anymore, or you get bored, sit on his face and ride his nose to orgasm.