But there were two things that worried me: Sex and Death.
You see, years ago, I had actually dated a couple of Englishmen. Unfortunately, both had tried to kill me—one by "wave-jumping" ten-foot waves in Australia in a twenty-five-foot Chris Craft, which he then crashed into the dock (he was drunk); and the other by suffocating me with a pillow (he was sober). Indeed, when I called Gerald the Suffocator to tell him that I was coming to England, his response was "Good. Now I can finish the job.”
My second fear was, naturally, sex. Over and over again I had heard how horrible Englishmen are in bed. The conventional wisdom was that they failed miserably on three counts: One, their willies were really small. Two, foreplay didn't exist. And three, they came in about two minutes. In other words, they were all premature ejaculators, and if they lived in New York, some sensible woman would have put desensitizing cream on the tip of their willies and then made them have sex for three hours, which would probably cause the poor man to go running to his shrink—but, hey, that's not our problem. But maybe they don't have desensitizing cream in England. Or maybe they don't really care that much about sex.
I decided to begin my "research" by staying at the home of a man known as The Fox. The Fox was one of London's most prominent theater directors, and also one of the most notorious womanizers in London. Years earlier, The Fox's wife, whom, I was told was known in London as The Saint for putting up with him, had divorced him for something like egregious adultery and outrageous behavior. The outrageous behavior including turning up at four in the morning naked and clutching an American Express card over his privates. And so, on a Tuesday afternoon, I arrived at The Fox's house with three Louis Vuitton suitcases, stuffed, rather inexplicably, with Prada, Dolce & Gabbana, and Gucci evening clothes, plus one pair of combat pants. The Fox wasn't there, but his housekeeper, a woman who didn't speak English and was ironing towels, was. Through a series of hand motions, I began to understand that, as there were only two bedrooms and the "guest" room was, at that moment, occupied by a large man and an even larger case of wine, I was supposed to sleep in The Fox's bed.
Aha.
Luckily, as I was about to open a bottle of wine and proceed to get drunk in order to deal with the situation, The Fox's assistant, Jason, arrived. Jason was twenty-five, cute, and of some sort of indeterminate nationality, although he claimed to be English. When I quizzed him about the so-called "sleeping arrangements," he grabbed me and said, "Don't have sex with The Fox. Have sex with me instead. I'm sure I'm much better in bed.”
"Jason," I said patiently. "Have you ever even had a girlfriend?”
"Well, I'm having some romantic trouble right now," he said. Then he proceeded into a longwinded story about some girl he was in love with, whom he'd had sex with once, nine months ago. He met her at a pub, and even though she was a lesbian and with her girlfriend, he had somehow convinced her to go off to a hotel room with him, where she handcuffed him to the bed and had "amazing" sex with him. The next morning he realized that he'd never felt this way about a woman before, had fallen madly in love with her, and since then, hadn't even looked at another woman although the object of his affection refused to take his phone calls and refused to see him. And then she'd changed her cell-phone number.
"So what do you think I should do?" he asked. For a long time, I just stared at him like he was insane. Then I said patiently, "Jason. You had a one night stand. You don't fall in love after a one-night stand with a lesbian sadist.”
“You don't?" Jason said.
"No," I said. "Why not?”
"Because," I began, but at that moment, the door flew open and The Fox himself arrived. He ran across the room to the window and looked out fearfully. "You're late, boss," Jason said.
"Late? Late? I'll give you late," The Fox spluttered.
"My life is a fucking nightmare. Doesn't anyone understand that? Miranda's following me again. I had to run all the way around Picadilly Circus to get her off my tail.”
It seemed that The Fox was being stalked by his most recent ex-girlfriend, a woman named Miranda who was an actress in one of his plays.
"Look at this!" he said, brandishing a creased piece of paper. "She faxed this to me this morning. She says if I don't comply by midnight, she's going to have me arrested.”
I removed the piece of paper from his hand and examined it. It was a list of items she'd left in his apartment and wanted returned. It contained entries like "kitchen sink,”
“lightbulbs," and "Julia Roberts videos.”
"Like I want those fucking Julia Roberts videos. Doesn't she know I can't stand Julia Roberts?”
“Lightbulbs?" I asked. "Why can't she buy her own?”
“Exactly!" The Fox said. "Finally, someone understands why I had to break up with her!”
That night, I went to Titanic for The Fox's birthday party, where Grasshopper learned Lesson #1 about Englishmen: They won't shut up. The Titanic is a perfect London restaurant—loud, full of drunk people, and so large that you basically have to scream to have a conversation. Of course, this isn't a problem for the Englishman. Let me explain: In New York, women have to "entertain" straight men. We have to read newspapers and magazines or go to movies so we can have "conversational gambits." Otherwise, the man will a) just sit there, b) talk about his psychological problems, or more likely, c) winge on and on about his career. On the other hand, American men are great in bed, and Englishmen supposedly are not.
In fact, I'm convinced there's a direct correlation between talking too much and being bad at sex.
At the bar, I met a man named Sonny Snoot, an extremely good-looking hairstylist.
"Great color," he said. When I looked at him blankly, he said, "Your hair. You must be American. From New York. They just seem to know how to do that great ashy blond.”
"I'm just happy that I have all my hair," I said.
And then I laughed, "Har, har, har," and he laughed, "Har, har, har," and before you could say "blow job," he was yapping about sex.
"This is the way it is," he said. "If sex is number one in Italy, ifs number seven in London. If sex doesn't fall a man's way, he'll go off and do something else. But men talk about sex all the time. In fact, one of the reasons to have sex is to talk about it the next day. And we talk about it in minute detail and make the story really good.
"Sometimes," he continued, "you get the urge to talk about sex while you're actually doing it. For instance, if you're doing a weird position, you kind of want to call your mates on your cell phone and say, 'Guess what I'm doing now?' “
"Oral sex," I suggested.
"Oh no," Sonny said, shaking his head. "The Americans, they're all very horny. But we don't do that here.”
At dinner, I sat next to Peter, a magazine editor. Peter's girlfriend had just moved in with him, and he couldn't stop talking about how happy he was. "We've known each other for ten years, of course,”
he said. "But one morning, when she was going back to her apartment, she just said, 'I think we should move in together.' And as soon as she said it, I knew she was right. So now we've bought an apartment together. Englishmen don't patently object to marriage or commitment the way American men do," he said proudly. "If s very easy to find a relationship here.”
Yeah, if you've got ten years.
"Of course, I don't know what it would be like for an American woman," he continued. "You know, American women are neurotic about their careers, while Englishwomen are only neurotic about sex,”