“My dear husband became aware of these students who dropped by the house, but he was the typical absent-minded professor and never realized what the studs really wanted. 'These fellows keep missing me, dear,' he told me once. 'Try to hold them for me if I'm not going to be out too long.
“This made the situation weird. A muscular stud named Garry actually did want to see my husband for some reason, but he also wanted the use of my mouth. He arrived at the house an hour before Thomas and we went into the bedroom where we removed our clothes. Garry had a great body and one of the biggest pricks I had ever seen. When I mouthed him, I almost choked myself to death trying to get it all in. He shot his load and I felt as if I were drowning in his manly fluid.
“After I had sucked the young man off, he tried to mount me. Usually all I had to do was tell the stud to stop but this one was almost out of control. He got the head of his partially erected penis into my vagina and I clawed at his back so hard that I made him bleed. He screamed and slapped me. Once he lost that driving urge he apologized. 'I'm sorry, Pamela,' he said, 'but you really turn a guy on with that mouth of yours.”
“I was flattered. 'My husband will be home any minute so I'd better fix your back up first,' I told him and applied Band-Aids to his cuts which weren't deep at all.
“By the time Thomas came in, Garry was fully clothed and was sitting there with an innocent expression on his face. He talked with him for a half hour or so and then left. It never failed to amaze me that my husband never got the hint that his students were more interested in me than in him.
“But I'm afraid that he will find out sooner or later and that's why I want to stop my oral need for young males. In the past few years I've fellated over thirty men! I'm sure some of them have spoken to others about me, but I've been lucky since my reputation around the campus is still good. How good will it be if my secret is ever discovered? How much longer can this go on?
“Poor Thomas. He means so much to me. If I had a choice of having empty sex relations with an unlimited number of studs for the rest of my life and my middle-aged, sexually indifferent husband, I would pick Thomas. Championship is more important than sex in the long run and I don't want to lose a man who likes me for myself and not my mouth or my money. No man since my father had ever been so kind to me and, if I lose Thomas, I doubt that I will ever find another. I live in fear that one day he will find out about my affairs with his students and I will be cast out into the world again. At my age I can't afford to be an orphan. Once was enough.”
DIAGNOSIS:
Pamela may be in her thirties, but emotionally she is still a very young girl. When she lived alone and taught school she could not take it because she needed someone to lean on. After her mother died, she went to live with her father under the guise that he needed her care. Actually it was the other way around; Pamela needed the care and affection of her father.
As long as Pamela had a man in her life she was not bothered by her strong sexual drives, but once he died, these feelings came to surface. The young woman couldn't act upon these feelings because she was still too immature to face the world alone so she sold her house in order to have enough money to love on. This prevented her from going out and looking for a job. Yet she still needed a man and this need overpowered his basic shyness. Once she discovered the joys of sex, she went from man to man.
Martin, the con man who took all her money, was a traumatic shock to Pamela. She realized that she had been a fool and retreated from her new-found joys of sex. In Thomas she found a father she could center her life around once more because those had been the happiest years of her life.
The older man provided her with the companionship her father had given her, but he did not provide her with the sex she craved. If Thomas had been as virile as one of her studs had been, she would've been happy, but as it turned out, the professor was low-keyed as far as sex went. He probably had avoided marriage until he was forty-two because he was afraid he would not be able to satisfy the demands of a wife. In Pamela he thought he had found a like mind who was as low keyed as he, and was disappointed when she proved to be far more sensual than she appeared.
Benjamin Morse, in his book, MODERN MARRIAGE MANUAL, claims that many undersexed men have a deep fear of not meeting the demands of women, so they usually avoid marriage altogether. Men like Thomas, however, who find that they must have someone to live with, make sure that they pick a mate who doesn't seem to be sexual or demanding. When the professor thought that quiet Pamela filled this bill, he proposed, not knowing that she was quiet only because she had had too many sex affairs as was in seclusion from being hurt again by a new one. It was a case of mistaken identity when the pair met and married.
Pamela, however, wanted to relive her life with her father and so was able to take her husband's lack of sexual attention in stride… to a point. When a young student provided her with the opportunity to express her long-repressed sexual needs, Pamela let herself go. She turned to fellatio instead of fornication out of a belief that oral sex acts did not constitute adultery. Even in her most pressing needs, the woman could not hurt her husband.
The woman also picked fellatio as her form of sexual expression because she wanted to avoid repeating her former bout with near nymphomania since it had brought her so much unhappiness in the end. By mouthing men this time instead of fornicating them, she could feel that history would not repeat itself since she was not repeating the same kind of sexual sessions. In oralism, Pamela thought she found a way to release her longings and yet stay faithful to a man she really loved. When I made it clear to her that fellatio was adultery, Pamela wept. She realized that she had been kidding herself all along.
Today Pamela has made a good adjustment to life and marriage. Once she stopped rationalizing away her guilt about fellatio by claiming it wasn't really adultery, she stopped having lovers. Although her husband hasn't become more passionate, she is willing to accept what love he can give her. While young studs are very virile, none of them have given her what she values even more than sex… the security of an affectionate mature man. Emotionally, the thirty-four year old woman is still a little girl in need of a father despite her many affairs, oral and otherwise.
Chapter Three…
Case History:
Name: Dorothy S.,
Age: 50
Dorothy is a plump woman with bright brown eyes and expensive clothes. She is married to a well-to-do contractor who made her come to see me after discovering her with another man. From the onset she made it clear that she was only seeing me to please her husband and spoke in a crisp and bitter way.
“Arnold thinks I'm crazy because I've had other men. Well, he's had a lot more girls than I've had boys so what the shit is bugging him? But since he's paying for these shrink sessions I'll go along with it. After we're finished I'll get him to see you. Yes, and I'll pay.
“I shouldn't kick about Arnold; he's a good provider if anything. He's not much to look at but he's got a brain. We've been married to one another for twenty-seven years and we're grandparents nine times over so you can see we're not going to jump into a Divorce Court without a damned good excuse. That's the real reason why I'm here in the first place; my husband wants to cure me of making it with other men. He thinks I'm sick. I think he's sick for believing that for a second. Shit, what's so sick about having guys lick your body? I'm sure he's had more than one girl do that to him.