We went to the bar and he offered me a drink.
‘Well, only water, at the moment. I never drink alcohol before or during a performance because I like to keep my wits about me to listen to the music. But I’ll have a drink later, if the offer is still there.’
‘It will be a pleasure, and I’ll hold you to that. But for now we will have water. I myself can never understand people who come to hear beautiful music then dull their minds with alcohol.’
After the concert, Dr Hyem said:
‘Do not forget you are going to have a drink with me, and would you like a little supper also?’
‘That would be perfectly lovely. Thank you!’
Dr Hyem and I had a delightful supper in a small restaurant in Upper Regent Street. He, being diabetic, had to be careful about what he ate, but I had no such constraints, and ate more than he did. He watched me, I thought, with amusement, because his eyes were crinkling at the corners. Then he said,
‘You have never been hungry?’
‘Me? Don’t you believe it. I’m always hungry. I eat a huge breakfast most days, cakes or biscuits if I can get them at eleven, a huge lunch with two puddings if possible, tea with more cakes or biscuits, supper at seven – and I’m still hungry. That is why I can eat a second supper now, at eleven o’clock.’
The moment I had spoken I was aware of my callous insensitivity to a man who had lost his entire family from starvation.
‘I’m terribly sorry.’ I faltered. ‘That was a dreadful thing to say. Please forgive me.’
He smiled. ‘There is nothing to forgive. It is only natural that the young should follow their instincts and I’m sure I was always hungry when I was your age. Would you like another pudding?’
My cheeks were burning with embarrassment, and I suspected he might be mocking me.
‘No. No, really. But I must go, it’s getting late and I will be on duty at eight o’clock.’
‘Then we will leave together.’
He paid the bill and held my coat for me to slip my arms into.
Over the next six months or so we attended many concerts and recitals together. It was delightful. He introduced me to the rarefied world of chamber music. He obviously had an extensive and detailed knowledge of the subject, and it enhanced my enjoyment if he analysed a quartet before the performance. But he sometimes looked so sad, and once, after a Schubert quintet, he just sat for ages with his head in his hands. The lights had gone up and everyone was moving about. He muttered to me:
‘You go to the bar, Jenny. I will join you in a minute.’
But he didn’t come, and when I returned he was still sitting in exactly the same position, and I knew that he was thinking of his wife and children. My heart ached for him, but there was nothing that I could do or say, so I sat down and took his hand, and he gripped it fiercely. Such depth of suffering and loss cannot be shared; it must be endured alone.
That night Dr Hyem and I travelled back together on the tube and bus. We did not talk much. He was locked in his thoughts and memories, and I did not know what to say. What can you say to someone who has suffered and lost everything? I fell asleep, and was wakened by a voice.
‘Time to wake up. We have reached the Blackwall Tunnel.’
His eyes were smiling as I tried to adjust myself to the waking world and he took my arm to steady me. We stood on the pavement as the bus rumbled off. I looked across the road, and the church clock said a quarter to one.
Just at that moment the clouds parted behind the spire and the moon appeared in all her silver glory. My hair blew across my face.
‘Isn’t that just beautiful,’ I said. ‘Have you ever seen anything more beautiful?’
I stood gazing at the moon, and he was looking at me. Then I suddenly remembered that I would be on duty at eight o’clock.
‘I must go. I’ve got a long day tomorrow.’
I held out my hand to shake his and say goodnight. He took my hand, and then pulled me towards him.
‘Come back with me … Don’t go … Come to my flat.’
I stiffened with surprise.
‘Just for a little while – I need you so.’
I tried to pull back.
‘What do you mean?’
‘You know quite well what I mean.’
He pulled me closer and tried to kiss me, but I didn’t want it, and turned my head away.
‘Don’t turn away! Why did you take my hand in the concert then, if you were going to turn away from me now?’
I should have said, ‘From pity, nothing more, just pity’. But I didn’t. Feebly I said, ‘I don’t know.’
‘Well, I do, so come with me now. Just come. I can’t go on like this. It’s been fifteen years since I’ve known a woman. I shall go mad.’
He pulled me tight to his body and I felt him hard against me.
I tried to pull away.
‘I’ve got to get back to the convent. I will be working in a few hours.’
‘You prissy little convent girl,’ he snarled. ‘You have no understanding of the needs of men.’
‘That’s not fair!’ I shouldn’t have said it, but I added, ‘I just don’t fancy you, that’s all.’
He jumped back as though I had shot him, and a strange, strangled cry came from his throat. I freed myself and, sensing my power, I had the cruelty, not to mention the bad taste, to add, ‘Anyway, you are too old for me.’
I walked away without turning. It was twelve years before I saw Dr Hyem again.
Judith, aged seventeen, died of a brain tumour. Her mother writes:
‘That night, as I prepared for bed, Judith said – “Mom, why don’t you put the light on? It’s getting so dark.”
‘“I can manage, dear,” I replied. I didn’t tell her that the light was on. As usual, I pushed my bed alongside hers and lay on the top in my dressing gown. We held hands, and with a soft pressure on mine she said, “You’ve been a lovely Mum.” Shortly after she drifted into a last sleep and a blessed unconsciousness.
‘During the night Cheyne Stokes breathing took over and, as day broke, I crept into my husband’s room and switched off his alarm clock. He stirred and looked up enquiringly. “You won’t be going to work,” I said. “Judith will die today.”
‘Later in the morning, the rhythm of her breathing changed. Quickly, I knelt beside the bed and slipped my hand into hers. Her fingers curled automatically around mine, like those of a sleeping babe, and she suddenly became so very young and vulnerable, like a creature emerging from a chrysalis into a new life. It was a beauty so fleeting I held my breath in wonder – and in the room there was no breathing at all. The dying need only a hand to hold and a quiet in which to make their departure.’
— from Nurse on Call by Edith Cotterill (Ebury Press, 2009)
1963-64
THE MARIE CURIE HOSPITAL
In the early 1960s, I was ward sister at the Marie Curie Hospital in Hampstead, London. It was part of the Royal Free Hospital, and was reserved for specialised radium treatment. It had originally been built as a cottage hospital around 1900, and was small, consisting of only thirty beds. The hospital was divided into two halves, a twelve-bed ward and three small side wards for the men, and the same for the women. A similar amount of space was occupied by the radiotherapy machines, which were huge, and required a lot of room. We dealt only with radiotherapy – all operations were carried out at the Royal Free. We also had our own dispensary. A matron was in overall charge of the hospital, and I was ward sister in charge of therapeutic cases. I had two staff nurses, five or six student nurses, two ward orderlies, and a ward maid.