Many years ago, the Viceroy of Naples, the Duke, visited Barcelona, Spain. At that time, there was a galley (a warship or boat in Europe that was rowed by slaves, convicts, or prisoners) in the harbor (a convenient place for ships to stop and come and go by the sea), where the oarsmen (rowers of the boat) were convicts. The duke went on board this galley and went through all the prisoners, asking each about the crimes that had brought him to the galley, and listening to their sad stories.
The first man said that he was only here because the judge had taken bribes from his enemies and sentenced him unjustly. Another, his enemies, said he paid off a witness and gave false testimony against him in court. To the third one, his best friend betrayed him, escaped from justice and sacrificed him for money. Finally the duke listened to the confessor: «Sir, I am here because I deserve it. I wanted to get a lot of money and stole a wallet. I deserve and am ready for what I have to endure.»
The duke was surprised. He turned to the captain of the galley and said, «All these people are innocent and have come here for an unfair trial, but there is one criminal among them. Everyone else is white, innocent, innocent, and this criminal came here with his corruption, so let’s release him as soon as possible before he infects others with his sin.» The person who confessed his guilt and mistake, agreed, was released and pardoned, and those who tried to justify themselves and chose excuses remained in the galley.
This is a story that actually happened, and interestingly, it reflects exactly what is happening in our lives. We make mistakes and instead of admitting the mistake, we spend our whole lives making excuses. We blame others (the environment), the situation, why don’t we say instead: «I have led my own life.» I am the only one in control of the thoughts in my head, and who I am right now, what I am, is what I have created for myself.»» The moment we understand this truth, we will be freed from the slavery of this life in the galley and will be able to return our life to our will and live a different, truthful and worthy life. look at your own life. understand yourself and life, regulate, discipline. learn to forgive and love yourself despite your mistakes. accept your mistakes. forgive and love yourself for these mistakes, and then you will be released from the life of slavery in the galley. you will be able to live the way you are meant to live: happiness, peace, and excellent health. It all starts with taking responsibility for your past, present and future.
Is there a book where you are sitting or standing right now, whatever it is? If «yes», if you find it, I have one request for you – pick up the book. It doesn’t matter what the book is about: just pick it up and look at it. Now try to see it from a different point of view than yours. Imagine that this book, which you are holding in your hand, has been washed ashore by the waves of the sea on an unknown island. Do not think that the book is water-water. It is still dry. The inhabitants of this island are intelligent and culturally developed, but they have no idea about the alphabet and letters.
What do they do now? They pick up the book and see the beautifully crafted paper. They look at print and see the complex structure of letters and punctuation. They think it’s a very interesting art form and appreciate the book from that point of view.
Do they understand the book? Will they really benefit from this book? I think not. Of course, the paper and printing marks are only a small shadow of the actual content of the book. And the actual content depends on how well you understand it. The inside of the book is important, not the outside, because the inside of the book is a world full of ideas.
Isn’t it the same in our lives? We look at the paper and ink of life: breathing, eating, working, sleeping. We look at the ordinary scenes of life and say «this is life». It’s like looking at the paper and the labels and saying «this is a book». But our life, like a book, has a meaning, and of course we all know that the purpose of life is not in paper and ink, but in its meaning.
Our life should first of all be meaningful. Take another look at the ink and paper of your life. Today you send the children to school or go to work, which is very good. Without paper and ink, we would not be able to express the idea of the book, try to look beyond the known, surface meaning of everyday little things in your life, understand their real content, otherwise you will not see anything beyond your nose for the rest of your life. Feel the real meaning of what you are doing. Are you dealing with the meaning of life? you came into this world to learn to realize your purpose. every person does not come to this life in vain, a mission is assigned from above, but unfortunately, many people are unable to fulfill their mission and die. destiny is in your brain. You have the right to imagine your brain as paper and write your own destiny. make this your goal. this is your life book.
Apply this purpose, beyond the surface meaning of your life, look further and see the meaning of the past that you have lived before, see the meaning of the future plan.
Everyone talks about happiness, but few understand its meaning, because it is an abstract concept. only with this idea will you seek to understand the whole book of life. you cannot interfere with the general book of life, but remember that the book of your life is in your own brain. when you find a little meaning in life, it prompts you to search for a deeper meaning. this search will never be fruitless: it will lead you to more detailed answers to the questions that bother you, to a deeper and more meaningful life.
What do you say when you see someone make stupid decisions, act erratically, run wild and gradually lead to emotional and mental breakdown or financial ruin? Are you one of those people who, when you’re stressed or down, turn around and say: All I can say is, he dug himself a hole, he’s to blame, of course, then…”? I think we all say that, and the funny thing is, we think it’s true because we’re digging ourselves a hole. Why all the troubles in our life? Because we asked them. Sometimes this can be very difficult to understand, but it is true.
Prayer, a deep desire, is a much more powerful force than most of us realize. We want something very much, and the intensity of our desire brings us closer to its realization. But if we wish badly, then this intensity will bring us despair and pain. Evil is not human, and we tend to cling to it instead of avoiding it.
I think it’s dangerous to focus too much on getting certain things out of life.
Emmett Fox once said, «Be careful of your desires, for you have all the freedom to make them come true!» said.
I think he was right. the desire of our heart moves in mysterious ways that no one can fully understand and sooner or later manifests itself in real life. therefore, we must be careful and understand what we are getting into. you see, our wishes can be a white elephant with the theme!
When rajas (rulers) in ancient India wanted to impoverish one of their subjects, they would give him a white elephant. the need to feed him, wash him and dress him every day would reduce him to poverty, because he would have absolutely no time to earn money. they do it for fun and it’s the same in our lives. many elements of our desires become white elephants, under the influence of evil. and against it, I think that life itself hides many of our unreasonable, bad, negative, negative, negative prayers and desires, because it (Allah) wants to protect us from white elephants (trials of poverty, disease, etc.).
Maybe instead of how to give anything away, we should be looking for more wisdom. It is much safer to seek wisdom because you have the equipment to look at other people and their problems intelligently and humanely. having reason (useful, necessary, necessary information), you are not in a hurry to make an unreasonable decision, such a decision will inevitably lead to people turning away from you and saying: «All I can say is that he did not get what he wanted, he wished for himself received.»