Do you know how to communicate with people? I don’t mean if you can get on the podium and speak to a large audience. I am asking for your normal daily routine. let me answer for you. Of course you can speak and communicate. Everything you say affects your listeners. What impression do you make on others when you speak? If you have a sense of humor, people will probably laugh. if you are an angry person, you can instill fear and resentment in others. if you are kind and well-intentioned, maybe other people will feel warmth in their souls after talking to you. If you complain all the time, you may be helping other people to make judgments about you.
Every word you say affects the listener. I’m sure you believe that. you think about all the people you interact with, and you have to agree that words have an effect, no matter how small or large the effect of your words. I want to expand on this idea: there is only one person who will hear everything you say, and that person is you! Others hear only part of what you say, but you hear every word you say. Therefore, no matter how you affect others, it will only be a part of the effect, the whole effect, from what you say, will be received by yourself. Think about it: the power of your words and their impact on your life is immense.
If you want to be successful, don’t make cheap promises. Otherwise, people listening to you will sooner or later feel deceived, and your words and false promises will have a negative effect on you. If you don’t feel well, don’t bother others by constantly talking about your health. Everyone you talk to will feel a small part of the shock, but your body will get a full shock from what you say. We have already agreed that our words affect people, so if you want to, you can improve someone’s life with a kind word. If you speak from the heart, you will surely improve your life because you will take everything you say. In this way, you will make your life much more useful than the lives of your listeners. Whether you say it to your children, coworkers, or guests at your house, you affect everyone, but you also get a share of every word you say. can you see a greater truth than this? influencing others with your help, with your words, will change you too. Do you understand that the way you treat others is how you are treated? As you shape your life, you influence your life with the power of words, so remember to listen to every word you say. because every internal word is a thought. and the external word is language.
Centuries ago, people used dueling contests to resolve the issue of honor, and dueling scars (scars) on a man’s face increased his attractiveness in the eyes of women. if he had many scars on his face, he was considered beautiful. The great statesman of the 19th century, Bismarck, was an outstanding duelist: he could solve any problem with a duel. Once he was very angry because the scientist, professor Vikhrov insulted him. Bismarck was furious and challenged the professor to a duel. The eminent scientist was a little surprised by this, because even if scientists were duelists, they were usually not in the military sense. But after Bismarck called Vikhrov, the professor had only to choose a weapon. The gray morning of the appointed day came, and the duelists arrived in two crews (chariots), their seconds (companions of the duelist) and doctors to the place of the duel. They got off the carriage and met in the middle of the dueling arena. Bismarck: «The choice of weapon was your choice, sir. What did you choose?» he asked. Professor Vikhrov produced two delicious juicy sausages, and explained to Bismarck that, being a scientist, he chose these sausages as weapons. The first sausage is filled with deadly germs, the second is edible. The professor turned to Bismarck and said, «Choose your weapon, and we’ll have breakfast together.» Bismarck looked at the two sausages, realized that one of them meant a painful death, turned in anger and left the duel field with a red face, admitting defeat. I always laugh when I think about it. Duel with sausages! The duel was resolved not by violence, but by offering a choice between life and death.
On this day, you will also be invited to a duel. Today you will fight a thousand times, most of them with yourself. Today you will have many choices – what to say, what to answer, how to act, and in front of you there will be two sausages: poisonous and harmless. Your thoughts can be negative and toxic, leading you slowly into the mire of disease, loneliness and poverty, or they can be kind, positive, uplifting, and lead you to eternal life, love and happiness.
Whenever you are faced with a choice, what to do today and what to say etc. – remember Professor Vikhrov and think about those two sausages. Choose good, choose good thoughts, let go of jealousy, anger, rejection, doubt, fear and guilt. Think of a happy life, love and happiness. Speak words of love, cheerful life and happiness – and all this will fill your day and life.
Have you ever wanted to get away from it all? Did you want to give it all up? Have you ever dreamed of an isolated island of bliss in a distant ocean? Or have you dreamed of a mountain cave where you can hide from all the troubles of everyday life? I think we all want it (island of happiness). Conflicting desires seem to eat away at us all the time. On the one hand, we want to be in the center of success and achievements, and on the other hand, we want to retreat to peace and solitude. Maybe it’s because we’ve lost our inner sense of balance? Or have we turned against the river of life that flows with us? You know, our arrogance and the need to get the job done at all costs takes a toll on our minds and health until we feel the need to rest and heal. Periodically, we need to take a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Have you ever seen an old pendulum clock? The pendulum swings back and forth, the same distance in each direction. This is necessary for it to perform the task well and it is the balance that we need in our lives. We push ourselves too hard, not giving the mind and body time to rest and recover. We need time to «recharge» mentally, spiritually and physically. We need a state of balance that evolves with our inner being. A few minutes of solitude and peace of mind with ourselves, with our true selves, restores our strength and will.
You don’t need to go to America to get an education or buy a house in Turkey to achieve a happy life. I believe that if you cannot achieve peace and harmony (balance) within yourself, then you will be unhappy wherever you are.
Due to our busy daily life, we think that we don’t have time to relax and take care of ourselves, but if we want to be like successful, happy and successful people, we need to find time. you know, we are not completely self-sufficient creatures. so we are always dependent on the creator. with an «infinite power» and patience that is absolutely superior to us, we can learn to keep our minds open – so that our everyday souls are freed from stress and enter into inner peace. It doesn’t require much effort or time from you. we just need to come to our senses, solve the conflict between the soul and the body, and achieve balance and peace. because the passions of the soul (say/do not) and the passions of the body (eating, sleeping) are always fighting for power inside you. even today you can find a mountain cave to hide in or an island of false happiness.
Remember: the true happiness you need is within you. And the key to it is maintaining the balance of self (soul + body).
What do you do when you take the food you want to eat out of the fridge, reheat it, and suddenly someone invites you to lunch somewhere else? You’re unlikely to go back and put food in the fridge again, you’ll skip lunch and eat the food from the fridge because you’ve reheated it and don’t want to waste it. I think we should keep these things in mind even when we think about our own lives.