If a person does not do something, then he is accused of inaction. If a person does something, then he is blamed for this action. The same people may praise us for our actions or criticize us every now and then. When we try to please others, we must remember that no one person can please everyone, because everyone is different. I doubt that anyone, including me, has ever made at least one person, including themselves, truly happy in their lifetime. That’s why I write books about happiness.
Are you always happy with yourself? I’m ready to argue. No matter what you pursue, there will always be someone who asks why you don’t do something else. Therefore, the best thing we can do is to understand ourselves, others, life, the Creator with our mind and heart, and act according to our beliefs based on real truth. We should always be willing to admit that we are wrong, but hope that others will forgive us for our mistakes. If we expect tolerance from other people, then we must be tolerant ourselves. And we should always remember the words of the wise Montaigne: «a man needs strong ears to hear a free opinion about himself.» If your loved one tries to judge your actions, remember these simple words: «I can’t please everyone.» If you try to «blend» into the crowd, you’ll never have a chance to be your true self to everyone.
Go ahead and know who you are, know and fully understand that some people will definitely criticize you (criticism). Keep praying for them and doing your best. If you live authentically, you will always be criticized.
Have you ever had to replace your car’s ignition switch? It’s very easy. You come to the garage, the mechanic opens the hood of your car, leans over, disconnects the electrical wire, unscrews the ignition key with a wrench, plugs in a new one, connects the electrical wire – and within five minutes you can drive. Replacing the ignition switch is pretty easy, isn’t it? Let’s say you walk into the garage, ask the mechanic to change the ignition coil, and he immediately starts to remove the right front wheel from your car. You might think he’s a little out of his mind. You get angry and protest and say that only the ignition coil needs to be replaced, not the wheel.
One day my friend came to see me. He has a new sports car and he explained to me that he had to remove the right front wheel to replace the ignition coil! And it turned out to be true. Can you imagine the owner of such a car coming to the mechanic for the first time and asking to replace the ignition switch, and the mechanic calmly begins to remove the front right wheel and his reaction? As I said, the owner of the car may protest angrily. However, my friend assured me that the procedure for removing the wheel (dismantling) takes no more than two minutes, and when it is removed, it turns out that it is very easy to remove and replace the ignition coil.
This is a lesson for all of us. We see things like removing the front wheel (dismantling) and wonder why our lives are the way they are. We solve the problem, but the solution begins to take shape in a way that is completely incomprehensible to us. We expect the solution to come into our lives in the most obvious way, like someone lifting the hood and removing the ignition key, but sometimes the solution is quite different.
We are looking for a way out of family problems, but the way is, for example, to change jobs. we start taking care of our health, but basically we just need to change the way we think and act. The point of the spark plug and the front tire is that we shouldn’t judge the solution to our problems or how good things come into our lives because we don’t know the easy way, and we need to learn it. The universe is a large and complex system. We can never understand the complexity of the paths of universal causes in our universe, and so is our life.
We can say, «Great, I accept that life is on my side. I embrace all the good things in life, no matter where they come from, and I look forward to the end result.» Here, my brothers and sisters, is a great and vital Truth in a nutshelclass="underline" Do not expect YOUR PROBLEMS TO BE SOLVED IN ANY WAY YOU KNOW. It is best if you let go of your preconceived notions and open up to the inspiration of the Universal Mind. It may mean disassembling your front wheel of your life to get a faulty ignition switch, but the result will be better than you think. Trust your inner guidance, let the solution come in any form – and your problems will be solved simply and without difficulty.
Are you happy or do you consider yourself an unhappy person? I think that each of us can decide for ourselves which category we belong to, without paying attention to the opinions of others.
History knows many examples of people who achieved great success on the outside, but were complete failures on the inside. For example, Alexander the Great, who conquered the entire known world at that time, but he could not cope with his harshness, and because he wanted it so badly, he considered himself an unfortunate person.
Napoleon was loved by millions of subjects, but the only person he really wanted to win was his wife, Josephine, who denied him this feeling. Although Napoleon loved Josephine very much, his wife never truly loved him. That is why Napoleon considered himself unhappy.
Think of Goethe: he was one of the great poets and writers, but his desire to be an artist was greater than anything else. At the beginning of his life, he was engaged in painting for many years, but never achieved the results he wanted. In the end, he considered himself a miserable person. Imagine: Goethe considered himself unhappy!
In turn, the great artist Whistler wanted to become a poet, but, as luck would have it, he realized that he had no poetic talent and returned to painting. but in the field of poetry, from his point of view, he remained unhappy.
Finally, think of Hans Christian Andersen. his fairy tales were respected in the world of children’s literature, but he could only communicate with children through his books. in personal meetings, children did not like him, and in this sense, Andersen considered himself an unhappy person.
I gave you an example of unhappy people, now look at yourself again and ask: are you a happy person or an unhappy person? If you’re honest with yourself, you think you’ll only find happiness in those areas where your God-given talents are displayed. However, talent is different, ability is different. Talent is just a person’s belief, and ability is learning. When you deliberately try to challenge your ability, you will be unlucky (or so you feel). There are many opportunities to express ourselves in this world, so many people are fighting for it. You are not given a talent that no one else has, everyone is given the same abilities, so you can discover your abilities without looking for talent. Why do you turn your life into a struggle for self-expression? Everyone will see you, but do not chase this goal, remember that there are higher goals. Abilities only unlock if you learn, so you need to learn, not fight. Most people don’t know how much hard work and time goes into each side of the fake word called «talent». They are just amazed by the results.
Don’t think, «If I use my God-given talents, I’ll always be happy.» All this is a false belief of your own invention or acquired from the outside, and it also prevents you from discovering your abilities. You can achieve great success in life only when you discover your abilities.