Evolutionary biologist David Buss explains that children raised without the presence of a father, “suffer from the absence of his teachings and political alliances,” which have irreparable effects on their lives.795
No matter how “good” of a mom a single mother is, no matter how much she loves her kids, and no matter how hard she tries, the fact is that not having a father in the home dramatically impacts the development of the children. The same is true if the child is raised by only a father without a mother in the home, which is rare because mothers get primary custody of the children in the vast majority of cases.
What’s worse than parents who get a divorce while their children are growing up is the situation of women having children when they’re not even married at all. Often these children are fathered by men who they’re just casually dating and with whom they don’t have the necessary commonalities required to maintain a stable and happy longterm relationship.
There are countless problems caused by not having a father in the home, like missing out on learning the father’s technical skills and seeing the day-to-day interactions of how a man and a woman relate with each other. But there are even more devastating effects. Most mass shooters grew up without a father in their home.796 ISIS often recruits members for their terrorist organization from homes with no father.797
It’s impossible to argue that the lack of supervision, guidance, and discipline a father living in the home provides children doesn’t dramatically impact the psychological wellness of the children and without it they are put at risk for a wide variety of potential dangers.
But Democrats love single mothers for multiple reasons. First of all, it’s because they often rely upon the government for assistance in raising their kids, and are thus inclined to become lifelong members of the Democrat Party and keep voting Democrat which grows the Nanny State larger every year. As Tucker Carlson once said when Democrats were protesting the separation of parents and children who were detained after sneaking across the U.S.-Mexico border, “You think any of these people care about family separation? If they did, they’d be upset about the collapse of the American family, which is measurable and real. They’re not. They welcome that collapse, because strong families are an impediment to their political power.”798
Our culture is in a downward spiral because of the collapse of the nuclear family. Even friendships seem to be a thing of the past for many of the younger generations who now “talk” with their friends on Instagram or Snapchat since face to face interactions (and even talking on the phone) seem old fashioned.
Most young men today wouldn’t even know how to approach a beautiful girl in person, chat her up, and ask for a date. Instead they sit on their phones and “swipe” through Tinder profiles as if they’re scrolling through a magazine or a menu.799
Dating is seen as strange to them. “Going out” has been replaced by “Netflix and Chill” which is their only idea of a good time, and Millennials are having less sex than previous generations because they are afraid of real intimacy due to their stunted social skills from spending too much time living in their virtual worlds.800 Many of those who are having sex see one-night stands or “friends with benefits” as the norm and sleep around with multiple different people within their group of friends without entering into long-term or serious relationships.
There are core principles that happy couples have practiced for thousands of years, but unfortunately today many people shun the long-held traditions thinking they can reinvent the wheel and come up with odd new ideas about what relationships should be, which only lead to disaster.
So many people are starving for human affection in our online and isolating world that a new industry has been growing: Professional Cuddling. People actually pay money to cuddle with complete strangers. One business in Portland was booked for two months after it first opened. It’s called “Cuddle Up to Me” and they have an office with six different “cuddling rooms” where customers pay up to $80 an hour.801
This isn’t a front for prostitution. It is literally a place where people go to cuddle with someone they’ve never met before and pay for it because they are so lonely and desperate for human touch.
Many psychologists also believe that too much porn and video games are causing a “masculinity crisis” for the younger generations since they have an endless supply at the tips of their fingers.802 Many boys now turn to porn instead of pursuing relationships with girls because they’re so afraid of getting rejected since they don’t have the adequate social skills to confidently communicate with someone they’re attracted to. Porn addiction is a real problem, and it literally rewires the reward centers of our brains and over time actually causes erectile dysfunction when in the presence of an actual naked female from what’s called “porn-induced erectile dysfunction.”803
Unprotected sex is a danger too many people continue to ignore which is also part of the problem. The term should be “safer sex” not “safe,” because condoms often break or aren’t used properly, and birth control pills can fail or are forgotten, and even the combination of the two can, and does fail. Most people have sex with someone they’ve known just a few hours, and with whom they don’t have enough in common with to enjoy an hour-long lunch, but they jump into bed with each other putting their entire future family tree at risk of becoming dysfunctional.
Having a child with a woman who your interests, values, and goals aren’t compatible with, and who you won’t partner up with to raise the child is automatically putting the kid at a tremendous disadvantage in life by forcing him or her to grow up in a single parent home.
Of course there’s the financial burden of being a parent, and the incredible amount of time they have to invest in raising the child. So don’t ruin your life, and don’t ruin your child’s life by having one with a person you’re not in love with and know you won’t marry. Does this mean no sex until marriage? That can be pretty tough, but at the least it should mean no sex until commitment, and even then, be extremely careful and always use condoms, birth control, pull out, and throw in some spermicide too!
While relationships and marriage can be difficult, liberals often exacerbate these difficulties because they keep doing the fundamentals wrong. Many now are openly calling for an end to marriage altogether. Feminist Merav Michaeli is hoping for a “paradigm shift” regarding marriage, and wants society to “cancel marriage.”
In 2012 she gave a Tedx talk saying that marriage is out-dated and “unevolved.” She clarified, “Not only religious marriage… also civil marriage. I want all secular states to totally eliminate all registration and regulation of marriage. I want to cancel the very concept of marriage.”804
Feminist poet and novelist Robin Morgan agrees, saying, “We can’t destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage.”805 A lesbian activist and author named Masha Gessen once admitted that the real goal of getting gay “marriage” legalized was to eventually eliminate marriage and monogamous relationships altogether. “Gay marriage is a lie,” she said, while on a panel at the Sydney Writers Festival in 2012. “Fighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we’re going to do with marriage when we get there,” she admitted. “It’s a no-brainer that the institution of marriage should not exist,” she concluded, which caused the audience to break out in applause.806