They move to an apartment across town — he insists. Costs them twice the rent and for less space, but the hell with it, he couldn’t live where they were. “It’s the only way,” he told his wife, “plus giving away just about everything she owned or used, that I think I can make it, or for the next couple of years or so.” He sees girls her age in the new neighborhood. He expected to but hoped his reaction wouldn’t be the same. One girl he thinks looks almost exactly like her. If he saw her from maybe ten feet away but didn’t know his daughter was dead, he’d at first think it was her. The long light hair well-brushed, same solid build, tall height, style of clothes, bulging forehead, high cheeks, eyeglasses with big eyes, skin, neck, little nose. He follows her awhile, imagines he’s following his daughter for fun though isn’t so out of it that he really thinks he is, then says to himself “This is nuts,” and turns back.
He can’t pass schools once he knows where they are on his routes. Can’t even stand hearing kids shouting from classroom windows. Almost every time he sees girls her age laughing, he starts to cry, or stops whatever he’s doing — walking, reading — and closes his eyes to give himself time to get over being choked up. He doesn’t know what to do. “Maybe I can get a job somewhere else. You could do your translating anywhere — out in the country, let’s say, and maybe even in a different country where I don’t understand the language. Though kids’ laughing and giggling and stuff would be the same anywhere, I think, and I probably couldn’t get the same kind of work anywhere but in a city and in this country. But I could commute to the city. And we of course should start making love again and have another child if it’s not too late.” “We can try,” she says.
They try, and she can’t conceive. It may be something missing in him or her. They take tests to find out what might be wrong, and nothing shows up. “Maybe it’s my disposition,” he says, “or ours. I’ve never heard where that has anything to do with it, but it does affect some illnesses, doctors have said, maybe even cause them, so it could with this.” He’s always sad, or close to it. One night while they’re in bed he says “You know, I don’t think I’ve smiled once since Lynn died. Oh my God,” and he cries, and when he comes out of it he says “That was the first time I’ve said her name, or even said the word ‘died’ when I was alluding to her, since that thing happened. That thing, that thing,” and cries some more. “I cry as much as you,” she says. “I don’t mean for this to be competitive grieving or anything, but I want you to know I still think of her almost all the time and get very little sleep because of her, like you,” and he says “I assumed that; I really did,” and kisses her and turns off the light on his side.
A few months later he says “Maybe I should begin facing it, talk to people about it, even bring it up out of the blue sometimes. Not to a professional but just people who have wanted to express their sympathies to me for months but I’ve fought them off. Yeah, I’ll try that. I think I can swing it.” She says “If you think it’s a good idea, do it. But I still feel you should see a therapist, even mine if you want. He’s wonderful — smart, sharp, caring — and he already knows from me how you feel and what Lynn’s murder has done to you. And maybe he would even see us together about it, at other times, which is also what I’ve been wanting. And you remember, I was never a great believer in it before this, but he’s certainly helped me.” He says “Nah, what’s good for you might not be for me. For now, just regular people.”
At work he says to his closest colleague “Sven, if you want I’m ready to talk about my daughter now. You know, Lynn. There. You can’t believe how tough it is to even say her name aloud; even in my head, if there’s a reason for it. But there, I’ve said it and I’m not falling down, am I? What I’m actually saying is I have to talk about her, have to, do you mind?” Sven says “You know how I felt about it and still do — heartbroken — and you can come to me anytime. But probably the best guy to talk about this to is Boris Lehman in Sales. He lost a son a few years back when some crazy kids started shooting up a subway car. His son was going to school, though, not coming back.” And he says “Maybe he would be a good person to speak with.”
He calls Boris, and they meet for lunch. “How’d you get over it,” he says, “or at least where you could begin functioning like a semi-normal human being?” and Boris says “For a while I didn’t think I ever would. But I came out of it a little when I found out there were at least three other people in this organization who’d lost their kids this way, or maybe one lost his wife, who got it in the grade school she taught at. But anyway, to these deranged spontaneous shootouts or just individual slaughters. One was the guy who still cleans my office — Hudson. His kid was out roller-skating and got caught in the cross fire when two teenage drug dealers started popping off at each other with automatics. Fortunately for Hudson, he had three kids and a wife who was pregnant, not that it still didn’t nearly kill him at the time, he said. Like you, I only had my one, and that little fellow took eight steady years of mating to get. And then Clarence Fangel in Publicity downstairs, ten years ago his daughter was stabbed to death. Something about some other girl in her high school who thought she was trying to steal her boyfriend away…”
He speaks to Hudson and Fangel and learns there are a few more people in the building and the ones around it who lost their kids or younger siblings this way: shot, stabbed, pushed in front of a train, thrown off a roof after being gang-raped. There’s even a lunchtime support group in this business district for such people, and he goes to a few meetings, but the stories he hears, instead of helping him, make him feel even worse. “You got to give it time,” the group leader tells him, when he says he’s thinking of leaving it, and he says “I’m sure what everyone here’s going through is as inconsolable to them as I am to what’s going on in me, but something chemical or whatever must be in me where the feeling can’t be reversed. But I’ll give it its due.” Finally at one meeting some new woman, a copywriter in his building, tells the group of her two-year-old twins a few months ago when she was making a phone call on the street from a public booth, and he rushes out with his hands over his ears, goes home, pulls down the shades in his bedroom and later, when his wife comes home, tells her he doesn’t know if he’ll ever leave. “Forget the country. Forget another country. From what I heard in the group it’s not a lot better anyplace else, and there’s more and more of it every day. Also forget about having another child, with or without my sperm, or even one we adopt. The times just aren’t right for bringing kids up.”
He quits his job. His wife tells him he has to do something else besides stay in his room, “For this way you’ll get even worse than crazy. Maybe you can work in some way against the kind of violence that killed Lynn. Get a job teaching kids in school, or after school, or with an organization that fights such violence, or just work at your old job to have enough money to give to places and schools that fight or just study such violence.” He says “Best I can do is just to be talked about as someone whose grieving for his daughter totally disabled him for anything but staying in his room. Maybe that piece of information will filter down to people who are violent and prone to killing other young people…Nah, who am I my kidding? I had a daughter, loved my daughter, lost her and now grieve every waking second for her. Maybe one day I’ll come out of it, but right now I don’t think I will.”