It was at this daughter’s wedding that I saw her last — about three years ago. The wedding was in Calcutta, on Madhu Roy Lane. She had sent me a printed invitation card, to my Delhi address, along with a couple of handwritten lines to my wife: “My dear, how happy I’d be if you could somehow make it.” She had met my wife a couple of times. My wife is a convent-educated woman, she found Pakhi rather rustic, but Pakhi had found an opportunity to tell me, “Oh, you’re a fortunate husband.”
It was just at that time that I had to visit Calcutta on official work. Debating whether to attend the wedding or not, I finally decided to go. Calcutta had long become a foreign land to me; I would visit for a day or two, stay at a hotel, spend evenings at the movies, never meet anyone but government officials. This time there was something else to do, somewhere else to go besides the Writers’ Building. The thought was not unpleasant. I had remembered the date, and thought I would go early and finish the thing off before the rest of the invitees turned up. I didn’t have a dhoti to wear, it was no longer a part of my wardrobe, so I went in my less-suitable western garb.
It took quite some time to locate Madhu Roy Lane in Bhawanipur. Calcutta had changed a lot, and I seemed to have lost my bearings. Carrying a Benarasi sari as a present, I arrived at the wedding venue after evening had set in. Lights, decorations, shehnais, overdressed young women and men, the faint smell of food being fried — I was confronted by this utterly Indian environment after ages without it. Just as I was feeling hesitant, as though I didn’t belong there, a young man I didn’t know welcomed me in, saying, “Please come in.”
I said, “My name is so-and-so, I’m here from Delhi, if someone could just. .”
In a few minutes, a boy of fifteen or so escorted me upstairs. Pakhi’s son, I hazarded a guess.
Pakhi was genuinely surprised to see me, and seemed almost improperly pleased. After a few pleasantries I said, “I can’t stay long.”
“All right, all right, I’ll make sure you aren’t late.”
Pakhi deposited me by myself in one corner of a room and disappeared. But I wasn’t alone for long; elders from another generation gathered around me, one by one. Old men, old women; some without hair, some with blurred vision. An entire lifetime seemed to have passed since I had met them last. One by one, they began to speak — they appeared a little inhibited, but I could clearly make out that they were happy to see me after all these days. I was happy too. They had known me when I was young, when I was a child — how much longer would such people live? It would soon be that only those who thought of me as an old man, or an older person, or, at the most, a contemporary, would remember me. I forgot the weight of my years for some time, in this family gathering. I was surprised to see it wasn’t difficult to converse with them. “Where’s he? How is she? What news of so-and-so?” These led to more memories, old memories, some amusing. I had never realized I remembered so much.
Pakhi appeared again after a while. She was carrying an enormous plate, small bowls arranged on it in a semi-circle. Oh dear. “I won’t take no for an answer, you must eat,” she told me at once. The old men and women joined in and I ate almost like a bride, head lowered, taking small mouthfuls, ending up eating most of it.
I stayed much longer than I had meant to. I met the bride, heard praises sung to my gift, and met countless children who had arrived from all directions to pay their respects. Eventually I felt that the wealth of kinship I had experienced in those two hours would comfortably last me a lifetime.
Then, when it was time for the groom to arrive, the entire household animated, the shehnais playing afresh, I took my leave. Pakhi walked with me to the door, a few people behind her. We probably exchanged some words like these standing at the door:
“Well, at least we met again.”
“Yes. Couldn’t stay for the wedding, please accept my apologies.”
“You go back tomorrow?”
“Tomorrow.”
“Take this,” said Pakhi finally, handing me a biscuit tin.
“What is it? It seems quite heavy.”
“Some sweets for your wife and children. Remember to take them with you.”
“Of course I will. Calcutta’s sweets are famous all over. Unmatched around the world. They’ll be thrilled.”
“Why don’t all of you come over to Calcutta for a holiday?”
“Yes, let’s see. . this job. . all right, goodbye. .”
As soon as I turned to leave, I heard a comment — probably from a grandmother type. “Oh, you’ve got gray hair!”
I was about to come up with a light-hearted riposte when Pakhi softly touched my shoulder and said, “Yes, our Gagan Baran, he too has gray hair now.”
Casual words, a casual incident, but will I ever forget the way she said those words! Never! In those words, in that little touch of her hand, I realized clearly that evening that Pakhi still loved me — it was probably the only time that I realized, fleetingly, what love is.
Out on the street, the strains of the shehnai made me melancholy. “Nice story. Ve. . ery nice,” the contractor said, sighing loudly.
The writer said, “But the moral is clear. You get the one you lose and so on. Love is somewhere else, in the distance, even if maybe it’s only a wish for love, only imagination — not real at all. Many people have propagated this point of view over the ages, I don’t subscribe to it.”
“Look, I don’t know of any points of view,” said the Delhi man. “I don’t think about such things either. Eat, drink, and be merry. I have no other viewpoint.”
“We’re unanimous about that,” the contractor smiled.
“But both of you told us sad stories,” the doctor smilingly quipped. “How about a happy one now?”
“Of course, of course.”
“The story of my marriage. Barring those who die before their time, everyone — fine, maybe not everyone, but most people — eventually ends up marrying someone or the other; there’s nothing unusual about that. Still, there was something interesting about my marriage, it’s not a bad story.”
“Never mind the modesty. Let’s hear the story.”
The doctor began. .
Chapter Four. DR. ABANI’S MARRIAGE
I had been practicing barely a year when I got married. I hadn’t thought of getting married quite so young. Having gotten myself a chamber in Dharmatala and a telephone connection, I even had a small car, but no clients to speak of. According to my calculations, the estate my late father had left for his only son would last five years or so — if I couldn’t build a practice by then, shame on me.
I had decided to not even think of marriage until I was earning at least a thousand a year. All those people who got into their wedding finery the moment they got their sixty rupees a month jobs gave me palpitations. It’s all very well to get married, but what about things like children, illnesses, the wife’s whims, your own demands? And even if you managed to provide for all of these, there were the tiffs, the heartache, the conflicts. All that was not for me. Or so I had thought. But things turned out differently.
The year I graduated from college my mother passed away, which meant I had no real family anymore. Unmarried young doctors normally tend to live slightly undisciplined lives; being the person I had become, with no roots and no need to answer to anyone, it would have been easy to become debauched. But I succeeded in restraining myself — not through some extraordinary strength of character, but simply through my searing ambition to become a great doctor. After dinner, I’d study till midnight or one in the morning, and then, tired of medical textbooks, go to bed with a novel and resume reading the same novel in bed for a while upon waking in the morning. This was my habit at that time, but it didn’t last.