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CONSENT
I have used the terms consensual and non consensual slavery and it requires me to give some explanation of these.
A consensual slave is one who has agreed to serve his Mistress as a slave.
Possibly a contract will have been signed and limits agreed. However it is open to the slave to decide what he will and will not do. Thus he is in fact ultimately in control of the situation and his Mistress can only do what he will allow. He may at times question the actions of his Mistress, become surly or behave in a grudging manner. He may argue and show disrespect.
All of these traits are not what a Mistress wants to see in a slave. He could decide to withdraw from the relationship in which case he might at worst loose his partner. But that would be the sum total of the consequences. The Mistress may well feel restrained or restricted in what she can or cannot do, how far she can go etc, wondering if her slave will draw a line or show dissent. A friend of mine met a situation where she required her slave to eat his meals after he had served her and cleared the table. He moaned about his food being cold. I had to ask her whether he was a slave or not. What does he expect? My slave would not dare to show the slightest dissent. His food is often cold; so what? ‘He gets food doesn’t he?’ I replied. 'Cold food is just as nourishing as hot food'. She agreed but went off into a sort of sob story about keeping him happy, pandering to his wishes. I think I set her straight but it is typical of the problems a Mistress can encounter with this consensual slave relationship.
A non consensual slave is one who has given up his rights completely and serves because he realizes that he in fact has no choice. For this to work there has to be an element of compulsion so that the slave serves as an abject and total slave because he would not like to suffer the consequences of not doing so. In times past the consequences were all too obvious because slavery was perfectly legal and any escaped slave would be hunted down and punished. He might even loose his life. Perhaps one might think that non consensual slavery in these present times is therefore unachievable and would be illegal. Well let me assure you that it is neither.
For the submissive male the mental image of being a non consensual slave is extremely powerful. It shakes him to the core and unlocks his desire to submit to the superior Female. The wife that society proclaims to be the weaker partner rules the submissive husband, controls the submissive husband, enslaves the submissive husband and humiliates the submissive husband. She ascends in power and authority while the husband sinks to new and greater depths of submission. This signals that the Mistress of such a slave is not only superior to the male but she is far superior. She will not only rule but she will crush the male so he can never rule again.
There are fifteen women in our group, seven have slave husbands and eight have slaves they are not married to. Of the fifteen, thirteen are now in the happy and rewarding situation of owning a non consensual slave. Some relationships started as consensual and progressed to the non consensual whilst others were non consensual from the start. Strangely enough the division does not tally exactly with those who are married and those who are not.
So how do we impose the element of compulsion and it is really legal?
What we have done in our group is to explain to the slave that if he agrees to move from one situation to the other there will be no backing out, there will be no rights for the slave and his servitude will be as near to old fashioned legal slavery as one can get. Once the slave has agreed to the change his Mistress will insist on absolute slavery on pain of public exposure, humiliation and possibly ruin.
We have collected together evidence of the slave’s private servitude; revealing personal photographs and potentially damaging material and informed him that if he ever changes his mind about the situation henceforth then that evidence will be made public. This will be done by posting a profile of the slave with full details of his name, age, location, photos etc. on a gay male BDSM sites (there are many on the internet). Few men would want to face the appearance, of a photograph of him kneeling naked in a collar and chastity belt with whip marks all over his chest, on a gay slave site. You can believe it.
This information could be viewed by anyone and the beauty of it is that the slave would never know who had seen his profile. Even if the Mistress told him which site/s she had used he could do nothing about it without the login details. This perceived threat of public humiliation has proved to be a very effective tool in creating the conditions of non consensual slavery as the idea of being exposed as gay (let alone as a gay sex slave) is quite abhorrent to the heterosexual male. I don’t think any slave of mine would want his personal secrets so displayed for anyone to see.
And of course it is not going to expose anything about the Mistress. She can deny all knowledge of her husband’s clandestine activities. Why should she know about them? But the slave would be left wondering if anyone has recognised him. She could even use it as a device to encourage more effort saying ‘I have posted your profile and if you want it removed you will have to demonstrate a vast improvement’. And of course she may not even have done it at all.
We have thirteen non consensual slaves in our group and during the past ten years only one has decided he wanted out. Well he got his wish but he lost his job and finally had to move away from the area. The humiliation was too great. It was a very salutary lesson for the remainder of the slaves in the group and since then there have been no dissenters. The Mistress concerned has a new slave.
For a married Mistress wanting to proceed along these lines I suggest the following course of action:
With the slave on his knees in front of you talk quietly about what you want and the change you want to make. Point out calmly that you are not satisfied with the current situation and his level of servitude. Explain the concept of non consensual slavery to him emphasizing that, if he agrees, then his freedom of choice disappears. In future he will have to serve and obey because he will be compelled to. There must be no dissent in the future and his ultimate right of veto will be taken away.
Phrase the question so: ‘It cannot be right that you as the slave have the right to determine what I can and cannot do can it?’ It cannot be right that I, as Mistress cannot be sure that you will obey can it?’ Be quiet, calm but firm.
If he is any sort of a slave he will inevitably reply ‘no Mistress’.
Tell him that you feel that the move would strengthen your relationship as conflict and doubt would be removed. Explain that, once agreed, he cannot go back on the decision as it will be enforced by the threat of something which will cause him considerable embarrassment and which he will definitely not like.
Say to him ‘you do want to be a real slave don’t you’?
Explain that this threat is necessary to ensure his behaviour as a real slave.
It is unlikely that he will agree straight away so you can give him as long as you like but impress upon him that you are very serious about the change you want. If he needs persuading you can say that he should do it to show how much he loves you. After all there is no better way for a submissive man to demonstrate his love for his dominant wife than to submit as a non consensual slave.
If and when he agrees your mood should change. You should now be firm with him, curt with your orders, much more demanding of his servility and uncompromising in what you accept. He needs to see a change in your expectations of his subjugation.