Since I gave up as a professional Domme and adopted the lifestyle for real I have known very few lifestyle slaves who, when faced with the choice, did not accept the non consensual status and only one who, having agreed to it, later backtracked. That is not to say that the slave is always happy being forced to serve in this way. He will certainly not be and why should he? That is the very essence of slavery. But if he is a true submissive the element of compulsion will be a powerful motivator in his search for true slavery and deep down his fervent desire to submit to the women he loves will consume him and the idea that he has any sort of control will disappear. There are no risks associated with this strategy because fundamentally it is what both Domme and slave desire and all of the married Mistress/slave couples I know who have embraced this change in their relationship have reported a strengthening of the love between them.
Obviously it is a decision that must not be entered into lightly without considerable thought on the part of the Mistress and the slave but the rewards are momentous. It is quite amazing the change that overtakes a slave once he realizes that in reality he has no choice but to serve with perfection and obey absolutely his Mistress or suffer extremely humiliating consequences. The change for the Mistress is equally momentous but not at all surprising. The feeling of absolute and unquestionable power is totally addictive and something which, once experienced, she will not want to give up. The one question remains and that is whether the Mistress really wants to effect the change which brings me back to the first question in the questionnaire. Is he a husband or a slave?
And here is the reason why I would never marry a slave; I have no wish to be faced with the dilemma described above. In my view a male is an inferior being who is fit only to grace my presence as a full and abject non consensual slave. It is clearly much more difficult for the Mistress who is married to move from the consensual Mistress/slave relationship to the non consensual one. There are all sorts of conflicting feelings particularly if she has been married to her slave for some time. All I can say it that the rewards are tremendous and if she doesn’t make that step change she will never feel that she owns and is served by a real slave who serves because he must and she will never experience that ‘power rush’ of total control.
Six out of our seven married group members have made the change and they are all delighted with the ‘new woman’ found within themselves and the new found subservience of their slaves. As a final thought only the Mistress knows whether she would actually carry out the threat she has imposed but for the slave the threat is real enough and sufficient.
From this point forward I will assume that the reader has moved or wishes to move from the consensual to the non consensual state. If not she may well consider that what follows is too extreme for her. All of my experience tells me that it is not in the least extreme but is the natural consequence of a true non consensual Mistress/slave relationship.
Throughout the book there are times when I use the word never. This is not because I wish to dictate how a Mistress should run her life. It is because over the years I have identified certain points in a slave’s training or certain conditions of his servitude that will lead to problems if the guidelines here are not adhered to and from time to time in each section I shall attempt to describe what these might be.
I have included a number of lines within each section entitled ‘my slave’ where I explain how the situation described has been applied to my own personal slave. This is not meant to imply that these rules must be followed to the letter for a successful Mistress/slave relationship but rather to set the ideas in a practical context and help with training ideas.
My slave:
An ad placed in several magazines brought me a flood of applicants and it took many months to sort the wheat from the chaff as it were. There were the usual wannabees setting out in detail what I could do to them. These went straight in the bin. After extensive sorting I narrowed it down to a shortlist of five and interviewed each of them for several hours over a period of a week. I introduced them to my ways of thinking, my rules, my expectations and my whips and canes and I questioned them closely about their desires and their understanding of slavery.
It was interesting to see the reaction to the question as to whether, having been collared and having signed a slave contract they would give up their rights entirely and become a non-consensual slave backed up by the threat of public exposure and humiliation if they ever backtracked. I made it perfectly clear that this was a non negotiable condition. Those who agreed immediately were dismissed as this is a really momentous consideration and could not be made on the spot; (More wannabees). One guy particularly impressed me. When presented with this question he enquired further about the conditions I required and asked for a few days to think about it. I agreed and it took him three days before he was back at my feet. He came to live with me for a one month trial after which, I made it clear, he could back out or submit totally. At the end of that month I was not in the least surprised when he crawled across the floor, kissed my feet, begged permission to speak and agreed to all of my conditions.
I had him pierced, ringed, and tattooed. Fitted him with manacles chains and a chastity device and took numerous photographs. Later that week I showed him the portfolio of pictures and stated what would happen if he ever decided he wanted out. I could see that he was somewhat shaken by the realisation of what he had done. For several minutes he knelt in silence. I still had doubts about what he would do. Then he bowed his head to the floor, crawled to kiss my boots and prostrated himself at my feet. I knew then that I had my slave.
He moved in immediately and a few weeks later gave up his job. He has served me now for over 15 years. I have only occasionally had to remind him of the conditions of his servitude and he understands well enough to know I would carry out my promise to him, if he ever faltered, just as quickly now as I would have done 15 years ago.
6
CONCERNING MARRIAGE
Most commonly difficulties occur in relationships where the consensual slave is also the husband. Feelings of conflict can arise in the Mistress's mind. She cannot distinguish the husband from the slave. This is entirely understandable since society has conditioned her to recognise the Wife/husband relationship as the norm. The Mistress frequently wishes to treat her husband normally, i.e. have a normal conversation with him or have him sit beside her and cuddle her. So she drops the Mistress/slave differential. Then sometime later she expects to find her slave bowing and scraping and grovelling to please her, obeying her every command with the respect due from one who is owned and controlled. She may be well able to cope with this but the slave definitely will not. Of course the Female brain is far more complicated than that of the male which may explain why this is so.
After all he is the slave. So what can one do in this situation?
One approach is to inform the slave that she wishes him to act as a husband for a time. To make normal approaches as any husband would. She may allow him to wear clothes in the home during this time. She may allow him to sit on the furniture next to her or leave the room without permission. Or go to the toilet without permission. On the other hand she may still expect him to address her as Mistress. This is a complicated situation for the slave/husband and it is no wonder he is confused and cannot cope with it. He will not know which rules apply and which don't and he will be in a position where he is making choices for himself which is not the prerogative of a slave. The situation is unstructured and quite unlike his conditioned role of obedient slave. The first thing a slave must understand is that he has no rights to make any choices for himself so it is not surprising that his servility suffers when he has to make some.