If a Mistress adopts this strategy she must lay down rules. Tell him exactly what he can do and cannot do. And just as important she must inform him when his role will revert to that of slave. It may be possible for a slave/husband to cope with this but in my experience this is rarely true. As Mistress she should appreciate that if behaviour falls below her expectations it is probably because the slave can’t deal with the situation in the way she would like. Males and females do not think alike and these conflicts illustrate one reason why I could never marry a slave.
The Wife/Mistress who wants her slave behaving like a husband sometimes and yet still showing her all the courtesies due from a slave is, I’m afraid, really asking for problems. What happens then is that the Mistress is constantly frustrated by the husband’s apparent lack of respect and adherence to the rules whilst the slave is totally confused, not knowing what is required or where he stands (or kneels)! What, for example are his instructions regarding eye contact? Should he ever be seated if the Mistress is not? What does he do if his Mistress enters or leaves the room?
All of these questions and countless others will be in the slave’s mind and he has to try to decide for himself which of the slave rules he must obey and which can be relaxed. But the slave is not used to making such decisions.
Indeed his Mistress will have trained him not to; he has simply to obey. That is after all his primary duty. I hope the reader can see that husbands and slaves are different animals and they cannot switch rapidly from one role to the other. I have discovered that most well trained slave/husbands feel secure and positive when they are kneeling naked at their Mistress’ feet and insecure and vulnerable when in clothes or when a different role is required.
One strategy that can work is to give the slave time off when he has freedom to behave as a husband. The time period allowed will obviously be determined by the Mistress and not by negotiation. This will give the slave security but the Mistress may well find that she is not after all so keen on the idea when she sees her husband not showing the slavish respect she is used to. However the remedy is simple and obvious.
Equally difficult to deal with and fraught with problems is the situation where the Wife/Mistress wants a husband for a majority of the time and a thoroughly subjugated slave for the remainder. The slave male is a simple soul and always finds it hard to switch roles. He needs guidance and the security of a situation which exists all of the time. He needs to be regarded much as one would a child and copes best with a rigid set of rules he must adhere to and boundaries beyond which he must not step.
The approach I recommend for married couples is to avoid dropping the Mistress/slave differential entirely. There is nothing to prevent the Mistress having a normal conversation with her ‘husband’ if he is kneeling or seated on the floor. There is nothing to prevent it happening if he is naked. There is nothing to prevent him watching TV with her if she wishes it though I would suggest it inappropriate for him to be seated on the settee beside her. He can sit or kneel on the floor or a cushion may be provided. He could rest his back against the settee whilst still being in a position lower than the Mistress.
Further more the Mistress will continue to receive the respect due from a slave. She will remain fully in control and he will know that all of the rules of his servitude still apply. She can ask him if she wants his opinion on matters and tell him he is free to say what he is thinking but his subservient role will be properly maintained as will his speech restrictions (see later).
What it comes down to is whether he is a husband or slave. He cannot in reality be both. He can be husband in name only and in reality a slave. Or it can be the other way around. A Mistress faced with this dilemma must decide which way it is in order to achieve the lifestyle she is seeking. If it is a slave then non consensual slavery is the only guaranteed route to success.
It may be difficult for some married women to grasp but if she wishes to have the services of a true non consensual slave then she needs to mentally divorce him so that what she sees before her is her husband no longer but her slave.
My advice to assist a married Mistress who may be experiencing pangs of conscience or doubts about treating her slave harshly is to put him in a hood.
This has the effect of depersonalising the situation, allowing the Mistress to disconnect from previous feelings and follow her natural instincts so far as training the slave is concerned. It is much easier to forget that the new slave kneeling before her was formerly her husband if she cannot see the details of his face.
Later on when the new relationship is well established in her mind the hood will not be necessary. When he kneels before her she will see only a slave.
Now her life can REALLY begin.
A sample declaration is included in the next chapter.
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SAMPLE DECLARATION
The slave known as....................
Hereby consents to full and unconditional
Non consensual slavery to
Its Mistress.............................
The slave agrees to its change of status of its own free will.
It is fully aware of the conditions implied in that change.
The slave understands that this change of its status is irrevocable.
..............................slave
..............................Mistress
Date.......................
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SLAVE APPEARANCE
Slaves come in all shapes and sizes, smooth or hairy, trim bodies or over weight. It is the Mistress’ prerogative to decide and dictate how her slave will look and therefore present itself in her service.
It is common though not mandatory for a slave to be totally shaved in the genital area. If he is to present himself hairless then he will know the consequences of the Mistress finding a hair on his belly and she will have a reason for punishment. The Mistress will not need to think about it but he will know she might check at any time and therefore be thinking about it every day.
Regarding a slave’s head hair personal choices vary considerably. Most commonly slave’s heads are shaved or very closely cropped. However there is one member of our group who likes her slave in shoulder length hair. And why not; it is her choice. For those of the cropped hair persuasion I suggest a weekly hair cutting session by the Mistress with the slave kneeling on the floor. This is not an onerous task and modern hair clippers can be easily adjusted to achieve the desired length. It is helpful in reinforcing control if this is done by the Mistress but it could be achieved by sending the slave to the barber if she does not feel competent to do it herself.
If the Mistress requires her slave's head to be totally shaved then it is best if this is the slave's responsibility. I recommend the 'head blade razor' which is widely available together with 'head lube' which is available in gloss or matt finish.
When it comes to clothing I feel there is little room for compromise.
Clothing for a slave is a privilege and slaves rarely get privileges. The only reason for having a slave in clothes is from necessity. The naked slave is vulnerable and at a disadvantage to his Mistress. The Mistress/slave differential is maintained.
Therefore the Mistress should never allow a slave to wear any form of clothing indoors. Failure to adopt this simple rule will give the slave ideas above his station. If the slave needs clothes to carry out a task the Mistress has ordered then it is his responsibility to deal with that.