Harvey T. Leathern also observes in THE SEXUAL VARIANTS…
"To the contrary, most married couples who practice wife-swapping-the act could be called husband-swapping as well-have extremely well-adjusted sex lives. It is this factor of being so sexually sure of one another that permits each to allow another person access to the partner's sexual favors-naturally, the couple must be psychologically sure of each other's love as well." (16)
Nor is wife-swapping restricted to persons of low moral fibre who lack the education to distinguish between right and wrong. Statistics tend to prove that the more educated a person is the more he is inclined to indulge in sexual experimentation.
In THE SEXUAL VARIANTS author Harvey T. Leathern notes…
"Most patients of mine, who have admitted to indulging in their organized or spur-of-the-moment trading of husbands and wives, are fairly sexually sophisticated-and better educated than the usual person. Wife-swapping is not in other words a low-call, low-morals activity, as many believe. It should not be forgotten, as Kinsey discovered, that the higher the level of educational attainment, the more prone a person is to sexual experimentation." (16)
Wife-swapping sometimes becomes a way of combating martial boredom. Some couples may be so well attuned to each others sexual responses that they no longer find the same thrill and excitement even though copulation or noncoital techniques may lead to orgasm. In such instances many husbands and wives claim that swapping has helped rekindle their desire for one another in a deeper and more meaningful way.
It is not always the husband who leads the wife astray. Most women realize that their husbands crave sexual variety and respond sexually to attractive women. Most wives find that their own desires are just as insistent. Many women realize that 'swapping' is a solution to the growing problem of martial infidelity. Since so much guilt is experienced by the transgressor in an extra-martial affair many husbands and wives find that swapping together relieves any guilt feelings they may have, while allowing their pleasures to be shared in each others presence as well.
Though wife-swapping has long been condemned as an immoral practice it does not seem to be harmful to a marriage that is mature and where a husband and wife are broad-minded concerning their own desires.
Concerning the active role played by the female in arousing a mate's interest in wife-swapping author Roger Blake notes in CASEBOOK: FEMALE BEHAVIOR.
"Mate-swapping has been called "America's Number One Sex Kick," and still goes more often by the title of wife-swapping. But like the control of consumer purchasing in the U.S., it is the American female who may be responsible ultimately for S0% or more of all the spouse-switching which goes on today." (17)
Let us take a look at the case history of Sabrina and Anthony Pruitt, a well-to-do young couple in their mid-thirties who seem to have the best of everything that life has to offer. Sabrina lives in a ten room brick ranch house surrounded by three acres of cultivated flower gardens and shrubs, a huge swimming pool which is surrounded by a high fence and many of the luxuries that indicate that Sabrina and Anthony truly belong to the 'upper class'.
Sabrina is a remarkably attractive blond, with a long aquiline nose and haunting blue eyes that sparkle with a strange sexual vitality. Sabrina's long flowing blonde hair hangs free adding to the aura of sexual vitality that seems to surround her.
Anthony is a man in his late thirties, who, despite the appearance of a firm paunch, presents an attractive and wholesome appearance to the world. Anthony is just short of six foot tall, he has wavy black hair slightly streaked with grey, and dark brown eyes. Anthony's lips are full and sensual, his hands both fleshy and masculine, testifying to the fact that he is a person of enormous sexual vitality.
Sabrina and Anthony have been married for eleven years. They have no children. Sabrina has a morbid fear of pregnancy and disfigurement which she feels would be the result of childbirth. Sabrina suffers from 'Maiensiophobia' which is the fear of going thorough childbirth. Contrary to the layman's opinion, however, Sabrina is not at all 'frigid' as will be amply illustrated by her perverse and polymorphous involvement in bizarre sexual escapades.
Neither Sabrina nor Anthony truly desire to have children. They are seemingly content in their world of polymorphous and plurisexual sex with their upper-class friends.
Sabrina and Anthony did not consult me as patients. There is little about their life-style or personalities to indicate any deep emotional conflicts centered around their sexual patterns. Sabrina and Tony have been life-long friends who have occasionally provided me with information concerning their swapping activities for inclusion with my psycho-erotic studies. Because of their high-charged sexual interests and because both Sabrina and Tony are very well adjusted and very much in love with one another I thought their case history might prove worthy of inclusion within this present volume.
"If you want.me to be entirely honest…," Sabrina admitted, with a quick flashing smile, "I'll have to confess that I got Anthony started in the world of swapping. My husband has some business interests that require him to be on the road quite a bit of the time. Anthony and I both have a sexual life that is remarkably free of hang-ups. By that I mean that we enjoy sex to the hilt. Our methods and desires are unrestricted and uninhibited. The only thing is that after eleven years of marriage even the ritual of sex becomes a bit monotonous. Anthony makes me have an orgasm almost every time but some of the fire and fury has gone from our relations!"
"I guess I'm spoiled by having the best of everything…," Sabrina smiled. "The only thing I lacked before was passionate sexual companionship. I've always known that my desires were stronger than Anthony's. After one orgasm Fm ready to climb my way to another, but then my husband is ready to sleep and he cannot be aroused to a second awakening!"
"I made the mistake of being unfaithful to Anthony one time…," Sabrina smiled. "It was with the young man who always delivered our whiskey once a month. Anthony has a standing order at one of the liquor stores. This youth, Mark, brings it around once a month. This guy is so well hung, flashing a perpetually stiff penis inside his tight blue trousers, that I found him irresistible. I guess Mark studies the way that I watched him and my interest in his sexuality because one day he made a pass at me while he was carrying the booze down into the cellar. I tried to resist at first but when he clamped those hot passionate lips over mine and when those thick virile hands moved up under my blouse I knew that I was gone. I'm an attractive woman and I guess the youth found me vulnerable. So naturally he tried forcing himself on me. He didn't have very much trouble either!"
"Mark had been driving by about once a week when he was delivering in our area…,"Sabrina noted. "One day Anthony came home and caught him. I was laying naked in our king-sized bed and Mark was dressing to leave. My husband came in cool, not one bit ruffled by the scene. He pulled out a twenty dollar bill, stuffed it in Mark's hands and told him he was 'fired'. Anthony changed his order and placed it with another store. After that we had a real serious discussion about our sexual lives and problems."
"It's not that I'm dissatisfied…," Sabrina related, "I consider our sex life to be nearly perfect. It's just that my desires are more insistent and demanding. That I find myself thinking of hot and violent sex at odd times during the day. Haven't you ever had the desire to be unfaithful to me once?"
"Of course…," Anthony softened, "but then I thought, men experienced these desires more than women."
"After talking it over…," Sabrina smiled, "we both admitted that our sexual desires were overwhelmingly strong. Anthony even admitted he had had an affair on the side once or twice. He confessed they were merely for sex, while his relationship was with me was strictly for 'love'." Anthony was the first to mention that we didn't need to cause a scandal by becoming adulterers publicly. When Anthony mentioned he knew some business associates who indulged in 'swapping' and had long been inviting him to join my heart skipped a beat."