Step 1: Massage
Your hands should be on either side of her outer labia (outer lips). Your thumbs should be on top of her mons pubis (above her vagina), and your fingers should be pointing downward to the ground.
Gently massage this area like you were massaging someone back of someone’s neck with both hands.
Start with your fingers at either side of her vaginal opening, and work your way towards the top (but make sure you don’t make contact with her inner lips! Only her outer lips).
Tip: Indirect Clitoral Stimulation with the Labial Massage As you massage her labia with both hands, what you can do is grasp the fatty tissue of her labia in between the index fingers and thumbs, and squeeze this fat together so it “pinches” the clitoris. (Don’t do this too hard! You don’t want to make it painful on her).
In the “pinched” position, move your hands down, and then back up, so in essence, you’re stroking her clitoris with her labia.
Step 2: Mons Pubis
Use your thumbs or finger tips and gently massage the area (remember to look for any small knots). You’ll feel her pubic bone. Work on top of it, and just above the pubic bone.
Finished!
Now, the massage is done! This massage process should take you anywhere from 10-20 minutes. There really isn’t a hard and fast rule for the amount of time you need to spend on each step of the massage. It really depends on her level of stress.
Basically, you want to make she she’s relaxed, you’ve worked out any knots, and that she’s really turned on.
Again, at this point, she’s:
1. Super aroused
2. Super relaxed
3. Ready (and probably begging) you to touch her vagina.
That’s where we’ll move onto next.
CHAPTER 7
Phase II: Sensation
Stage: Plateau
First, as you read this section, you’ll notice that the instructions leads into orgasms. If you remember from the Blueprint, the Orgasm is part of the next phase (Phase 3: Surrender).
I purposely added a section on orgasm in this chapter, because you’ll be going from stimulation to orgasm, and then back to stimulation again (in other words, multiple orgasms).
It’s just easier to follow the sequence if the Plateau and Orgasm stages stayed in one chapter.
However, the next section will dive deeper into the topic of orgasms.
Ok, now we’re going to get right into direct genital stimulation. But first, read the following before you begin:
“3 Before Me” Rule
The 3 Before Me rule basically says that you want to make sure she has 3 orgasms before she starts pleasing you. Why “3”?
• Most women don’t have an orgasm from intercourse (at least not right away). So what we’ll be doing is “setting her up” so that once you do have intercourse, it’ll be easier for her to orgasm. And even if she doesn’t have an orgasm from intercourse, because she’s already experienced 3 of them previously, she’ll still be satisfied!
• Reciprocation Principal-generally, this means that if you do something generous for someone, they’ll feel obligated to do something generous for you. In this case, you’re giving your partner the gift of female orgasms, and she’ll want to return the favor. What she reciprocates varies, but you’ll find that once it’s her turn to start sexually stimulating you, it’s going to be GOOD.
• You’ll probably be the only guy (ever!) in her life to give her 3 orgasms in one night. That will make you extra special in her mind! She’ll absolutely love you for it, and…she might even brag to her friends about you
• Once she has 3 orgasms, it really doesn’t matter if you can’t last long while having sex. She’s really not going to care if you orgasm too fast…I mean heck, she just had 3 of them.
• Make a note that this is really a loose rule. It doesn’t have to be 3 all the time; it could be 1, 5, or even 30. But the general principal applies: you want to please her FIRST before she pleases you.
The 3 orgasms are going to flow through the sequence of:
1. Clitoral Orgasm
2. G-spot Orgasm, and finally
3. Blended Orgasms
It’s important that you always start off with the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is very sensitive, and at first, it’s going to be the most responsive (and easiest part of the body to bring a woman to an orgasm). Also, stimulating the clitoris first actually “primes” the G-spot… in other words, the G-spot will be more responsive and easier to find after clitoral stimulation.
Once she has an orgasm from clitoral stimulation, you’ll move on to stimulating the G-spot (and giving the clitoral head a “break”). At this point, her orgasm should come faster than the first one. Also, the “feel” of the G-spot orgasm will feel different to her than a clitoral orgasm. It’ll feel deeper, and there will be more involuntary contractions.
Lastly, the blended orgasm, you’ll be targeting both the clitoral head AND G-spot. This will be the most intense of the orgasms…and…if she didn’t ejaculate from G-spot stimulation, she might here.
Orgasm #1: Clitoral Orgasms
Remember at this point after you’ve massaged your partner, she’s pretty aroused, and her clitoris might be erect by now. From here, we’ll move onto oral sex.
By far, the best tool to stimulate the clitoris is the tongue. But, you’re not going to feverishly lick her clitoris right away…you’ll go through a series of steps designed to intensify the pleasure once you focus on her clit.
Also, you’ll be using a little known technique that will let you use your fingers as a sort of “thermometer” to figure out exactly if you’re licking the right spot to bring her to an orgasm.
Before we begin, you have to be in the right position for oral sex.
There are many different ways that you can choose to enter into oral sex with your partner, but it really helps to know which are worth the effort. When it comes to getting yourself positioned, you need to be able to comfortably apply consistent, rhythmic pressure over an often extended period of time. She, on the other hand, has to be positioned so that she’s able to relax into her arousal.
Perhaps one of the biggest reasons that more of us men don’t go down on our lovers as often as they might like results from the physical strain and pain that stems from entering into oral sex from the wrong position.
Her Body:
• Flat on her back (not arched)
• Legs spread a comfortable distance apart (but not too wide-it’ll be easier for her to use her pelvic muscles)
• Legs bent at the knees
• Her vulva and labia should be pointed upwards, at an angle, towards your mouth
• She should be completely at ease and relaxed, with nothing to do but focus on the physical and mental pleasure you’re about to bring her.
Your Body:
• Position your body so that it is in a straight line with her body
• Your nose should be lightly buried in her mons
• Upper lip resting on the front edge of her pubic bone
• Your upper lip should be above her clitoral head
• Tongue should be able to rest on the vaginal entrance
