Female Ejaculation
Sometimes when a woman has an orgasm, she may actually ejaculate. This is especially true for orgasms as a result of G-spot stimulation.
This happens because of the Para-Urethral Glands, which is a female version of a man’s prostrate gland. The fluid the para-urethral glands produce is similar to that produced by the male prostate and, as in the male, passes into the urethra — and in some cases may pass into the vagina. The glands fill with fluid during sexual arousal and may be felt through the vaginal wall.
Many people who experience a squirting orgasm think that this liquid is pee, or even vaginal lubrication, but studies of the fluid ejaculated through the urethra have shown a different chemical composition than urine…it’s clear, and if you actually smell it, you’ll find that it doesn’t smell like urine at all! (Doesn’t smell like anything at all really).
To minimize the amount of urine that could possibly come it, have her urinate before you start your sexual activity.
Also, have some towels laying on the bed to soak up any fluids that come out.
Women sometimes will get the feeling that they need to urinate when their G-spot is stimulated. This is perfectly normal, however, the problem comes in when she becomes concerned and self conscious about wetting the bed.
This can drive her in a state of arousal and relaxation, to the point of stress and anxiety. If this happens, she may not be able to have an orgasm at all at this point. If she’s trying hard to hold it in, she’s not focusing on the sexual pleasure you’re giving her.
I can’t stress enough that in order for these tips to work, your lover needs to be relaxed and completely comfortable with you. This means that you’ll need a strong enough emotional bond for her to feel safe “letting go.” If she feels inhibited, she probably won’t be able to ejaculate Along with the precaution of urinating before any sexual activity, another key factor in female ejaculation (and orgasms) is relaxation. This is why the steps of massaging and having a relaxing atmosphere are included in this system.
She needs to be completely relaxed, and be perfectly comfortable if she does happen to ejaculate. If she gets the feeling that she needs to pee, let her know that she can “let it all out”. She won’t be peeing the bed, but it will still be really wet once the ejaculate gushes out.
If she’s still concerned, you can try stimulating her in the bathtub so any fluids that do come out doesn’t soak up the bed.
A trick you can use to “train” your partner into become more comfortable with “letting go” is to go with her to the bathroom whenever she’s urinating.
If she hasn’t urinated with you in the same room, she might feel anxious, and have a hard time urinating. Let her get comfortable with you to the point where she can easily pee while you’re there.
Once she releases her PC muscles and starts urinating, reassure her and comfort her by saying, “Good girl” (or whatever line you want to use). Associating the encouraging words along with your presence will allow her to feel comfortable enough to let go and urinate. Do this until she’s perfectly comfortable with you being there when she’s urinating.
Now, whenever you’re stimulating her G-spot, say “Good girl” (or whatever line you used in the bathroom). Because you’ve already trained her to the point where she feels relaxed urinating in your presence while you’re encouraging her, she won’t have the previously held inhibitions, and she’ll end up “letting go” and possibly ejaculating!
Lastly, another way to “train” a woman to ejaculate is by strengthening her PC muscles. Check out the Special Report “How to Guarantee Orgasms” where you’ll find a detailed guide.
CHAPTER 9
Phase IV: Reflection
Secrets to Getting Your Woman to Want to Have Sex with You All the Time
Physically, during this phase, her body is cooling down and returning to her normal, un-aroused state.
Her breast size, clitoris, inner and outer lips return to normal size, and the reddish “sex flush” is starting to go away… this is Resolution.
Psychologically she’s coming down to her normal mindset… but… it’s in her mind where you “seal the deal” and guarantee that she’ll be wanting more of you in the future.
Too many men get so caught up in the performance review of how many times (and how hard) she came that they lose sight of one of the most critical phase of a woman’s sexual response — Reflection.
And, for any of you that may believe otherwise — this isn’t an elective, its core curriculum. Women crave and require it. And men that understand this, and take advantage of it, have discovered a secret that we touched upon earlier in this book:
The pleasure and satisfaction during one sexual experience doesn’t just end after the point of orgasm. Smart lovers know that it can be continued on and lead to the seduction phase of your NEXT intimate encounter.
If, during the period after sex, the experience didn’t seem to offer her pleasure and satisfaction, she may not even desire to give you the chance for a “rematch”…in other words, if the sex wasn’t good for her both physically and psychologically, there’s no reason for her to want to have sex next time around.
To a woman, it’s during the space of time after you’ve cum that shows what you’re all about — whether you’re considerate, compassionate, intimate or romantic, or if you’re just a big selfish lug who, minutes after an orgasm, is already asleep and snoring.
When it comes to your post-climax activities, you’ve got about three ready options, each with their own consequences and rewards. Admittedly, each of these options has their own time and place, but when it comes to deciding which option you’ll choose to be your “norm”, consider carefully…
A tempting option, I know — especially if you’ve spent the last hour heroically tending to her sexual needs. But, before you roll over and sleep, you’d better weigh your options…
Rewards: Well, you get some sleep, and some relaxation, but that’s about it. Sure, there are times when it’s in order. After a real marathon, if you’re both spent, it can be ideal. But even when you do go this route, try to snuggle up a bit (if only for a few minutes) before you start really snoozing.
Consequences: When it comes to your lover, this is about the second worst route you can go. You definitely do NOT want to make this your normal routine. If you do, you’ll either lose her respect or her attentions.
Another option, though perhaps not as tempting as a good nap, is running off to “seize the day” within moments of your orgasm. To be fair, this response is associated with the way our chemicals and hormones react after we orgasm.
Once we cum, we’re finally able to STOP thinking about sex and get back to the more mundane things in life. And though it may help you get your goals accomplished, she’ll more than likely be left less than pleased.
Rewards: The ego boost of making your lover cum, added to the satisfaction of your own orgasm can be fantastic fuel to get out there and “Get ‘er done!” You’ll have a little extra bounce to your step and your mood will be greatly improved, but maybe not hers…
Consequences: Remember how I said that the last option, falling asleep, was the second worst option? Well, as far as your lover is concerned, this one is THE worst option.