2. Don’t feel afraid to get a little verbal. Quit biting your tongue or holding your breath. Let go and moan, groan or sigh if you want to. Don’t force it or get too theatrical, but the man in your life will love to hear the sounds of your pleasure escaping your lips.
3. If you find yourself constantly stressing over hygiene issues like scent or taste or cleanliness, try incorporating a bath or shower early on in your schedule to prepare and improve your comfort level. Even better if you can invite him to join you!
4. Strive to gain greater comfort with your body and what turns you on. Take initiative to learn what really drives you insane with desire and then learn to communicate those hot buttons to the man in your bed. What do you fantasize about? What really turns you on?
5. Learn to believe your lover when he tells you he loves to pleasure you and make you cum — he means it! And he’s also telling you the truth when he swears up and down that he loves to eat your pussy! There are few things in this world that will give a man a sense of accomplishment or satisfaction than making the woman he cares about cum…
The Oxytocin Factor
Oxytocin is one of many chemicals that play a significant role in orgasm and sexual response. It’s a hormone that is secreted by the pituitary gland and cases muscle contractions and sensitizes the nerves. While oxytocin plays a part in our orgasms too, it’s believed that it’s even more important in a woman’s sexual pleasure.
Not only does this hormone play a large part in the contractions that wrack a woman’s womb and vaginal walls when she cums, research has shown that increased oxytocin production in a woman contributes to more powerful, intense orgasms.
Oxytocin also plays an important part of a woman’s emotional state and stimulates emotional pleasure and feelings of intimacy. It’s often referred to as the “cuddling hormone” because it’s this chemical that initiates feelings of connection, bonding and intimacy with your lover.
Stronger orgasms and emotional fulfillment — it’s no surprise why this chemical hormone is so vital to a woman’s healthy sexual response!
In later chapters you’ll discover exactly how to release this chemical to make her feel more connected to you, and want to have sex with you more often.
Keys to Success in Action
I’m providing you with quite a bit of information. It’s all well and good if you can read and remember the techniques and concepts, but if you don’t apply them, you might as well not have wasted your time or money on this book.
Make a solid commitment to not only read this book, but to put the principles I share with you into practice in your every day sex life.
Team up with your lover and let her know what you’re reading up on. Ask her to work with you and convince her to agree to offer you honest feedback on the new things you’ll be trying out.
Believe me — she’ll thank you for it later!
CHAPTER 3
Female Sexual Anatomy and Other Erogenous Zones
In this chapter you’ll learn:
• Female sexual body parts that are crucial to sexual pleasure, and where to find them
• Other body parts vital to arousal
The female sexual organs comprise one of the most intricate and sensitive nerve networks in the universe, and it’s yours for the discovering. In this chapter, we’re going to get up close and personal with the ins and outs of the female sexual anatomy and response.
I’ll break it down two different ways: namely, the external anatomy (vulva) and the internal anatomy (vagina). We’ll begin with the external structures, since it’s here that we’ll find that amazingly sensitive clitoris. The key to, arguably, just about every single orgasm any woman has.
External Female Sexual Anatomy
The clitoris is a small, highly sensitive organ that is very important to female sexual response. You can almost think of it as a “mini-penis”.
There are 2 main parts to the clitoris (externally):
1. The shaft
2. The glans (or the clitoral head)
The glans is visible, sticking out like a small lump. The shaft disappears into the body beneath the clitoral hood, which is a layer of tissue that passes around the clitoris.
The clitoris varies in size for different women, much like penis size vary in men.
Women have been blessed with a sex organ with no reproductive purpose — it’s only function is receiving pleasure. It has over 8,000 nerve endings which are intricately networked with the nerves throughout the pelvic region.
Although I’ve labeled it as an “external” organ, most of the clitoris is actually hidden inside the body.
The shaft of the clitoris extends into the body, and then splitting into two legs form an upside down “V” (the clitoral crura) which lie on both sides of the vaginal opening.
But the key feature of the internal portion of the clitoris is the fact that the clitoris surrounds the urethra (the passage where urine exits the bladder).
What does this mean?
It means that the pleasurable sensations from stimulating the “G-Spot” (the area on the upper wall of the vagina, below the urethra) is through contact with the inner parts of the clitoris!
Also, this can explain the “vaginal orgasm” (orgasm through vaginal penetration), since the interior parts of the clitoris is stimulated.
The mons pubis is the fatty pad of tissue that’s covered by pubic hair. It lies on top of the pubic bone, and on top of the inner clitoral structures.
The labia minora are the fleshy hairless inner lips that lie on either sides of the vaginal entrance. The inner lips come together at the top forming the clitoral hood.
The outer lips are rounded pads of fatty tissue lying on either side of the vaginal entrance.
You’ll find it at the bottom of the vaginal entrance where the inner labia meet.
The perineum, more commonly referred to as the “taint”, is the area between the vaginal opening and the vagina.
Although she might disagree with you, the anus is a highly erogenous zone. But, to stimulate it doesn’t require penetration. The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, and can feel pleasurable when stimulated.
Remember though, that any anal play requires special attention to hygiene, as the anus and rectum contain (and can spread) bacteria.
Interior Female Sexual Anatomy
The vagina is a tube shaped organ where the penis is inserted during sex (we all know this one!)
But what you might not know is that most of the nerve supply of the vagina to the lower 1/3, near the entrance.
In other words, the most sensitive area of a woman’s vagina is near the front.
On the other hand, the deeper 2/3 of the vagina contains almost no nerve endings… so… it’s insensitive to stimulation (a woman can tell you that she’ll have feelings of deep pressure though).
What does this mean to you?
It means that, even if you have a short penis, you can still give pleasure to your partner while having sex, simply because the back of the vagina just isn’t as sensitive as the front.