The plateau stage is when you make direct stimulation with her genitals.
You’ll start off slow, and gradually escalate the pace until she’s reached her peak, and is ready to have an orgasm.
What You’ll See During the Plateau Stage:
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• Further increase in breathing rate and pulse rate
Breasts:
• Breast size increases further
• Areola (the darker circle surrounding the nipple) swells and becomes darker. It can lead to the appearance of the nipple flattening out
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• Increase lubrication
• Size of the vaginal entrance becomes smaller. It’ll feel “tight” as you enter her vagina. (But since the inner 2/3 of her vagina has expanded, it’ll feel like there’s a huge amount of space in there).
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• Clitoris retracts upwards into the body, hiding under the clitoral hood
• Labia swells even more, becomes thicker and changes to a darker color
Continuing the process, the “Surrender” phase is when a woman will have an orgasm. Now, I just want to make a note that because this system is designed to bring about 3 orgasms, we’ll be cycling through the Plateau and Orgasm stages three times.
Pre-Orgasm
The pre-orgasm is the moment right before the orgasm. You’ll learn what to do and what not to do to make sure that she’ll successfully have an orgasm.
The Orgasm
The orgasm is when all the sexual tension you’ve built inside of her is finally released.
After her first orgasm, she doesn’t have to enter into the Reflection Phase. Here’s why:
For guys, as you probably know, we enter in a “refractory period”. This is when, after we have an orgasm, where we can’t be sexually aroused (and usually want to sleep!) until an amount of time has passed.
On the other hand, women DO NOT have a refractory period, making it possible for them to have multiple orgasms.
IMPORTANT: Now, here’s the key strategy to the Blue Print… she’s going to go through all the steps and have an orgasm before you do, and then…instead of relaxing into the Reflection Phase… you’re going to bring her back into the “Plateau” stage and repeat the process again, giving her multiple orgasms (also, you can choose to have an orgasm during the “Multiple Orgasm Cycle”).
What You’ll See During the Orgasm Stage:
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• Sharp increase in heart rate and breathing rate
• Muscles contract throughout the body (including the pelvic muscles, arms, legs, thighs, back, buttocks, hands and feet)
• Toes may arch forward
• Panting breaths
• Uncontrollably shaking voice
• Her eyes are closed, nostrils are flared and she’s unable to speak
• She may make bold, steady eye contract with you just before she lets go
• She may look a little like she’s spellbound — soft body, droopy limbs
• Her orgasm will last about 15-20 seconds, and as a general rule, under one minute.
• She may begin sweating noticeably
• Breasts:
• Same as plateau stage
Genitals:
• Involuntary contractions of the uterus, anus and vagina (if you have your finger or penis inside of her vagina, it might feel like her vagina is “pushing” them out)
• She may ejaculate
The last phase of the Orgasm Blueprint is Reflection.
There are 2 important aspects to this phase: one is psychological (reflection), the other is physical (resolution).
Reflection:
The Reflection Phase leads back to the Seduction Phase of the next sexual encounter. In other words, what you do here will have an impact on the next time you decide to have sex.
Psychologically, you’ll want to reinforce the pleasure and satisfaction she just had, so when the cycle loops back into “Seduction” Phase, she’ll be thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want sex more often!
Physically, she’s coming down, and going through a stage of “Resolution”. This is when the body is physically returning back to its original state, and she’s coming down from the orgasm.
What will you see during the Resolution Stage? Basically, her body will be returning to its normal, un-aroused state, going through a reversal that has been built up during the previous stages.
As you can see, these four phases encompass the full process of the female sexual needs and responses. In our next chapter, we’ll get into what techniques to use during each section, and how to properly perform those techniques.
CHAPTER 5
Phase I: Seduction
The goals of the “Seduction phase” are two-folds:
1. Creating Attraction
2. Creating Sexual Desire
First, I’d want to touch on the importance of creating anticipation:
Creating Anticipation
Creating the anticipation for sex is an ongoing process.
You should work at it constantly, even outside of the bedroom. And learning to do it well can mean a whole lot more sex…
Creating anticipation can begin as soon as you wake up in the morning — whether or not you live together. It could be a quick early morning suggestive cuddle, leaving erotic notes in bound-to-be-found places, or sending kinky emails. Give her a call and offer a kinky thought for the day.
If you really examine your daily schedule, you’d be surprised how many opportunities to create anticipation and desire will come your way. A smart lover knows how to take full advantage of those options.
I think it’s important to interrupt for a moment to address those readers out there who are in long-lasting relationships: don’t think that just because you’ve lived together, gotten married or even started a family that it’s “okay” to devote less of your time and attention to this phase of your lover’s sexual response. It’s a route that can lead to all sorts of obstacles and road-blocks to a satisfying sexual intimacy.
Just because the lover in your life may have been sleeping with you for years (or even decades!) that doesn’t mean that she’s suddenly lost the need for the flirtations and sweet temptations that help build sexual tension and frustration (the good kind!)
The more worked up you’re able to get her BEFORE you head to the bedroom, the more eager and responsive your lover will be. Indeed, the longer you’ve been with your partner (and the more of your crap she’s had to put up with) the more important it is to be sure you’ve properly covered this base.
How to Create (Sexual) Attraction
The first step in the Seduction phase is creating attraction.
NOTE: Since I’m assuming you already have a partner that you’re having sex with, I’m not going to dive into the topic of “how to attract and date women” (you can find a few helpful websites in my resources section).