But the attraction tips I’m going to share with you can work on any woman, but is specifically designed for your partner.
The very first thing that draws your partners’ attention to you is eye contact. Her response to the right kind of eye contact is automatic: attraction.
The level of attraction can vary from women to women. Eye contact can simply spark a bit of sexual interest to full blown sexual desire where she’s physically aroused and wants to have sex with you.
Generally, making and holding eye contact with someone else shows that you’re at ease with the other person, and that you’re not intimidated. When your partner sees that you’re making and holding eye contact with her, she’s going to feel that you’re confident about yourself… and… the wheels of attraction are going to start turning.
Tips:
• What you want to do is look into her eyes whenever you’re talking, if she’s walking past you, or whatever situation is appropriate. (You don’t want to constantly look into her eyes while the both of you are watching a movie…that would be weird).
• When you’re holding the eye contact with her, don’t have a wide-eyed stare (you want to her believe you’re a confident man, not a creep!).
• Instead, you want to be gazing in to her eyes.
To do this:
1. Open your eyelids so that they’re about 75% open. If they’re open 100% (i.e. You’ve opened up your eyes as wide as possible), you’re going to have that scary looking stare. If they’re open too small, you’re only going to look tired, or even intoxicated. At the 75% mark is the right “look”. You’ll have that “seductive look” that you might see in the movies.
2. Tilt your head downward slightly, so that your chin is closer to your chest. This slight tilting of the head will communicate that you’re sexually interested…this will push her buttons, and she’ll start feeling this too! (On the other hand, if you tilt your head upwards instead, you’re expressing that you’re looking down at her, and she’ll think you’re a cocky bastard. Don’t do this.)
Here’s a few examples of the seductive eyes look:
3. Try not to blink too much. If you have to, blink very slowly. If you’re constantly blinking while keeping eye contact, that’s a sign of nervousness, and she’s going to feel that “vibe” from you. Once this happens, the attraction will be lost. No blinking or slow blinking is a sign of confidence.
4. Lastly, don’t break eye contact until she does! Subconsciously, she will think that you’re the one in control of the relationship, and that you are the “man”.
How to Create Sexual Desire in the Bedroom
With eye contact, you’re already creating sexual desire in her mind. In other words, you’ve started to get her to think of sex.
But I’m going to show you how to increase it even more by making some small changes in your bedroom.
The way the body responds to the environment (in this case, the bedroom) can have a huge impact on her level of arousal.
Also, the double benefit of the environment we’re going to create is relaxation. Remember from the keys to success, if she’s tense and not relaxed, it’s going to be almost impossible for her to have an orgasm.
There will be a little bit of preparation work for this, so you want to do this before initiating any physical activity.
3 main points we’re going to cover: lighting, sound and smells.
Love making in full light might be appealing to men (and some women), but for the sake of relaxation (and ultimately orgasm) the lights must be dim.
This can be accomplished with candles, but I personally prefer a simple bedside lamp with an incandescent light bulb (too paranoid something might catch on fire!) I’ve recently experimented with more fancy lighting devices, such as lava lamps, plasma lamps, and fiber optic lamps. They work equally as well (if not better) as a regular lamp.
Sounds and music have a distinct ability to invoke powerful imagery and emotion. If this is an aspect you’ve overlooked in the past, you’d be simply amazed at the potential results.
Work on creating a killer play-list of passionate, sensual music. I have the best results with ambient, meditative or natural tunes. Thunderstorms, rainforest rhythms, or even sounds of ocean waves have vast potential for bringing your lover to new heights.
Lastly, to add spice to your arousing atmosphere, you’re going to use fragrances.
This is a powerful (almost evil) secret when used properly… Pleasurable smells can change a person’s mood almost instantly (especially when combined with the dim lighting effects and the right music).
But… here’s the secret: What you want to do here is train your partner to get sexually excited whenever she smells a fragrance by associating a particular smell with orgasms.
What you want to do is build a “scent memory” of the experience. So, the next time she smells that fragrance, it will bring back memories powerful enough to elicit an emotional response… and send her libido flying through the roof… instantly!
IMPORTANT: Be sure that whatever scent you use, that you ONLY use it during love making. This way, it will be the only association she’ll have with the scent.
There are many ways to use scents, but the most popular ones are:
• Incense
• Candles
• Aroma Jars
• Scented Oils
• Room Spray
What type of scent do you need? At first, anything that’s not repulsive. If she’s disgusted by the smell, she’s going to be totally turned off, and her desire may go down the drain.
You might have to try out a few different scents at first, but as long as her response is generally neutral, it should be fine. Remember, we’re trying to “teach” her that whenever she smells the scent, it means orgasms!
Scents you can try:
• Vanilla
• Patchouli
• Coconut
• Musk
• Jasmine
• Lavender
• Pumpkin pie
• Black licorice
You can increase her desire for sex if she has a positive sexual experience with you earlier. In other words, if she had an orgasm with you previously, then she’ll want to participate in sexual activities with you more!
On the other hand, her desire can decrease if she has a negative sexual experience with you. She’ll want to have sex with you less if this happens. You may have already experienced this already (which maybe why you’ve invested in this book in the first place).
So, essentially what you want to do after you have sex is reinforce the positive sexual experience she just had, increasing her desire for sex in the future. We’ll cover the topic in an upcoming chapter.
CHAPTER 6
Phase II: Sensation
Stage: Excitement
The trick to helping your lover release her orgasm under your control is to first get her in a state of total relaxation. In essence, you’ve got to help her unwind.
Before you want to set about increasing sexual tension, you need to first eliminate any stress. This will free your partner to focus her attention on the pleasure you’re bringing her instead of the report her boss needs on Friday or the dentist’s appointment scheduled for tomorrow morning.