• The general rule for massaging is to massage toward the direction of the heart
• Ideally your partner should experience your massage as one long series of rhythmic strokes.
• Basic Massage Strokes
1. Gliding:
Keep your fingers together and glide your hands along the length of her body or limb. The pressure can range from feather-light, to firm.
2. Kneading:
Gently grasp the area with both hands and make a kneading action similar to that of kneading dough. This is a firm stroke used on a specific area to help release muscle tension.
3. Friction Strokes:
Whenever you come across a knot, you want to use this stroke. Using your thumbs or fingertips, make small circular movements (slowly) and apply firm pressure.
How And Where to Massage: The Steps
Ok, with the massage, first she’ll be sitting upright, and you’ll be massaging her scalp. She could be sitting on your lap, or in between your legs. You’ll be sitting behind her at this point.
Step 1: Scalp Massage
Start with the scalp, curling your fingers of both hands and using the pads of your fingertips to make small, soothing circular motions. Break contact with the scalp occasionally to run your fingers sensuously through her hair.
Step 2: Ear Lobes
Now, move to her earlobes, gently massaging the sensitive flesh with the tips of your thumbs and first finger. Once you’ve finished with her ears, gather her hair up into a bed-head bunch, trying to keep strands of hair off the neck and shoulders, where you’ll be using your massage oil.
Step 3: Neck and Shoulders
Now, have her lay down on her stomach.
When massaging the neck and shoulders, you should use a firm, kneading grip, applying more noticeable levels of pressure.
Start with the neck, then traps (the muscle between the neck and shoulders) and then the shoulders. As you begin to notice that the tension is draining from her neck and shoulders, you can begin to work her back.
Step 4: Back
For the back, you should begin with plenty of oil, which you should soothe into her skin with gentle, gliding strokes.
Once her skin is well lubed, you can begin the firm, kneading pressure. Begin from the top of her back, and work your way toward her lower back.
Step 5: Ass Tease
From her lower back, switch to the gliding stroke and lightly go over her buttocks. Each hand should be placed on a separate “butt cheek”.
Now, position yourself so you can see her vagina (remember to maintain contact with her body during the massage!). At this point, she should be pretty wet.
Make one or two large circles with the palm of your hands, firm enough to spread her cheeks…then…slowly glide your hands towards the inside of her thighs (narrowly missing contact with her genitals), and move to the back of her legs, down her calves, and finally toward her toes.
She should be getting pretty excited by now!
Step 6: Foot massage
Gently knead the meaty area between her heals and the balls of her feet. Start from the area closest to the toes, and work towards the heel.
Step 7: Back of the Legs
Before moving on to the back of the knees and calves, look for subtle yet noticeable strokes and brushes across her perineum or labia to build a feverish anticipation for the devoted attention of your mouth, tongue, fingers and hands.
When massaging the legs, work both of them simultaneously. Use your massage oil liberally. When attending to the back of the knees, use soft, light feathery strokes, but not quite to the point of a tickle. She should be pleasantly uncomfortable (a little squirmy, perhaps) but not rolling around laughing her heart out.
Apply a bit more pressure on the calves… they’re using a source of tension (especially if she’s standing or walking all day long).
Knead the back of the legs, starting from the calves, and slowly work your way back up toward the buttocks.
Step 8: Buttocks
You’ve already gazed her butt, and by now she’s probably wanting you to touch it.
Grab the oil, and slowly drizzle a bit of the oil all across her ass cheeks, letting drops slip down the crack of her ass, and sliding down onto her thighs. Watch the slight shudder that follows your teasing attentions…
Begin with gentle strokes, using the whole surface of your palm — fingers splayed, with heavier pressure on the heel of the hand versus the tips. Then begin gently, though more insistently, squeezing her bottom. If she responds well to this firmer pressure, you can use your knuckles — of your balled fist — for the kneading.
Next, have her turn over and lay on her back.
Once she’s on her back, position your self to her side and have your fingers and pointing towards her feet.
Step 9: Top of the Chest
Grip the chest muscles by placing your fingers into her armpit, and your thumbs on the top of her chest. With a slow circular motion of your thumbs, massage the chest. You’ll want to move from the area just under her collar bone, and work your way down
Step 10: Breasts
From here, you’ll continue to stroke and tease her breasts, saving her nipples for last. By the time you get there to kiss, lick, pinch or stroke her nipples, they’ll already be rigid with desire — and highly sensitive. You’ll notice that as you kiss, lick and stroke her breasts and nipples, her back will arch up, in hope of more. You may also notice that she’s reaching down to touch herself — don’t let her do it!
Step 11: Belly
From the breasts, glide your hands toward her belly.
Using the whole surface of your hand to rub up and down her abdomen, using medium to light-pressured strokes. Then, place your hands so that both of your thumbs are facing the center of the abdomen, rubbing upwards towards the ribcage, following with your cupped hands massaging up to the under-side of her breasts.
Step 12: Glide Down, and Back Up
Now, slowly glide your hands down toward her mons pubis, go around her pubic hair, towards her inner thighs, and go all the way down toward her feet in one smooth motion. You want to go past her genitals in order to tease her more, and build more anticipation.
Glide back up (you can add in some kneading strokes while you’re going up the legs, but I usually skip this) until your hands are on her inner thighs again.
At this point, your inside of your hands should be on either side of her labia.
Labial Massage
Once you’re here, she should be:
1. Sexually excited, her vagina should be pretty wet because of the “teasing” you’ve used during the massage
2. Physically and mentally relaxed.
Again, just like massaging her body, you’re feeling for knots. This time, it’s going to feel like there’s a small piece of rice embedded under her skin. These are tiny tension spots, and you’ll want to massage them out.
Regular latex condoms will break when combined with oil, so if you’re using massage oil on her genitals, you want to make sure that you’re using Polyurethane Condoms.