“I’m only attracted by women who are intelligent enough not to want me. Especially when they wear a red dress.”
50. 1970: Almost Dead
O holy mathematics, may I for the rest of my days be consoled by perpetual intercourse with you, consoled for the wickedness of man and the injustice of the Almighty!
— Lautréamont, Maldoror
I was so tired, so muddleheaded. I was in pain. I had the nauseating impression of reliving the same nightmare thirty-four years later. Rudolf, Oskar, me, and a walking corpse. In 1936, we were all together in the lobby of the sanatorium. But the gleaming elegance was gone, and time had substituted our small, dusty living room, which I no longer had the strength to vacuum. The participants had changed too: Rudolf had become an elderly stranger; Oskar, feeling his years, was struggling with cancer, all the while maintaining his usual dignity. I was no longer the same Adele from Grinzing. I was an old lady. In 1965, I’d been sent home from Naples following a “mild cerebrovascular accident.” Ever since, I had seen my body and mind crumble away. All my joints were swollen. I walked with difficulty. My last reserves of vital energy were running out. Unlike the young woman of 1936, anxious and in love, I no longer hoped for better days to come. I no longer felt indispensable. I was without power.
“You should have him hospitalized immediately, Adele.”
“He will refuse.”
“We must force him to go along with it. Even if we have to commit him involuntarily.”
“How can you think of doing that to your own brother? I’ve given him my word that he’ll never be locked up again.”
“The situation has changed. You’re no longer in a position to help him. You can hardly stand up!”
“You never liked me, Oskar.”
“This isn’t the moment to argue, Adele. Kurt will die if we don’t intervene. Do you understand? He’s going to die!”
“He’s already gone down this road before. And he’s come through.”
“At this stage, anorexia leads to death. And if he doesn’t die of hunger, his heart will give out. Not to mention all the crazy things he’s ingesting! I found digitalin on his bedside table! How could you let him poison himself like that?”
I hadn’t the strength to answer. They were carrying on as though it was all a new development, as though Oskar hadn’t seen his friend sinking day after day, as though Rudolf might not have suspected his younger brother’s state from reading his successive letters. I held fast to the curtains to keep my trembling legs from buckling under me. I was so overcome I could hardly breathe. Morgenstern, noticing how weak I was, came to my defense.
“Your brother has always done exactly what he wanted, Rudolf. No one can tell him what to do. I dragged him to the hospital a month ago. None of the doctors could convince him to eat. He even refused the operation on his prostate despite the pain he is in. Adele has done everything humanly possible.”
“He doesn’t trust doctors. He’s afraid of being drugged with narcotics or something of the kind.”
“He’s no longer capable of making the decision. Adele, I’m begging you, in the name of the affection we all feel toward him. Do it!”
“He’s going to hate me for it. He’ll accuse me of being like all the others. Of trying to kill him.”
“I haven’t told you because I didn’t want to cause you further worry, but last night on the telephone Kurt asked me to help him commit suicide. If I was truly his friend, I was to bring him cyanide and write down his last will.”
“My God! I don’t understand. Last week he went back to the office to work. He didn’t seem particularly depressed.”
“At this stage it’s no longer a question of simple depression. This is a psychotic episode. He needs to be fed intravenously and to receive appropriate care.”
I didn’t want to listen to any more. I let them plot with the doctor, summoned urgently that morning, and hobbled to Kurt’s bedroom. The room was dark and littered with books, papers, and medications. The windows were permanently shut; he now minded the stuffiness of his room less than his waking nightmares. His sleepless nights were peopled with marauders and white-coated demons bent on annihilating his mind. Finally he was asleep, overcome by the sedative injection that had been forcibly administered after hours of negotiation. I could hear them through the thin walls. They were talking about me.
“She has waited much too long.”
He had lost a great deal of weight in the last months. Perhaps I should have paid more attention to it, but he continued to work. Illness had never impaired his mental faculties in the same way it affected him physically. Morgenstern, learning of Kurt’s state, had contacted Rudolf to come to Princeton posthaste. He himself had not been able to convince Kurt to eat. What right had he to blame me for negligence? They weren’t managing to do any better despite all their knowledge and condescension.
That morning, I hadn’t found him in his bedroom. He hadn’t answered when I called. He wasn’t at the IAS. A neighbor looked everywhere for him in the neighborhood. He had disappeared. Oskar found him in the laundry room, crouching behind the water heater. He was haggard and wild-eyed. Terrified. He didn’t recognize me anymore and was convinced that his house had been invaded during the night by people wanting to inject his veins with poison.
When I was younger, I was afraid that some stroke of evil might fall on us like a war club. I bargained with fate to spare us, not realizing that the blow had already fallen. Misfortune isn’t so horrendous when it comes slowly. It anesthetizes you; it numbs your senses so as to seep in unrecognized. I hadn’t kept his illness from progressing; I had refused to watch the child grow up. Others say: “How that child has grown!” But for the mother, growth is barely perceptible, except when a pant leg is suddenly too short or, in Kurt’s case, when a suit becomes too big. In an intimate relationship, madness is invisible, madness is denied. It’s an insidious disorder that destroys a person quietly, in a long decline, until there has been one crisis too many and reality attacks your denial and takes from you everything you had thought to protect. And then everyone around you says, “Why didn’t you do anything?”
I spent a long moment watching his spasmodic sleep. He was curled up around his pain, his fists clenched against his stomach. I pulled up the sheet, which had slipped down over his wasted body. I hadn’t seen him naked for years. I looked at this once familiar body, its thin legs, its useless penis. Of the body I had loved, caressed, cared for, nothing was left but the structure. I could see the shape of his skull. The man was gone and all I could see was his skeleton; already I was looking at the memory of him.
There wasn’t a drop of courage left in me. I lived inside a fat, dried-out old woman. My entire being told me to give up the struggle. I was enormous, and he was transparent, as though I’d sucked up all his flesh. But it was in fact he who had worn me down, who had used me as an extra battery. These last years seemed to have gone on forever. I hadn’t had children. I would leave no work behind. I was nothing. I was only suffering. I couldn’t even show my weakness, or he would sink even further into depression. When I’d been admitted to the hospital, he had refused to eat. If I let go, he would let go. What was the point of going on like this? He never went out anymore. He gave appointments at his office but never showed up. He communicated with people only through a “safe” intermediary. No one was surprised any longer at the caprices of the reclusive genius. The only visits he tolerated were those of Oskar and his son. Young Morgenstern wanted to become a mathematician. Kurt liked to talk with him. How could he be a model for this kid? Who would want to end up like him? He hadn’t attended his own mother’s funeral in 1966. I’d had to go instead. Of all the ironies! “Why should I stand for a half hour in the rain in front of an open grave?” was his excuse.