And, as I say, she only gets lovelier. And has ever since she gave birth to Constance, our first child. It wasn’t that, like any woman, she sloughed off her pregnancy. No, she left the hospital slimmer, firmer, not just than when she went in but than before she got pregnant. And her features had changed, molded into gorgeous new Scandinavian planes and angles on her face. After Shelley gave birth it was as if she merely resembled Shelley, and don’t think it didn’t occur to me for a minute that, my God, what a place this is, they don’t switch the babies on you, they switch the mothers! I mentioned she’s taller? Here’s what I think happened. I don’t say this lightly. It goes against nature, and I’m enough of a scholar to know what God thinks about that sort of thing. I think her stretched-out belly not only snapped back into place and readjusted itself but was somehow recast in inches of actual height. Crazy, huh? Tell me about it. Because the same thing happened her second pregnancy!
And growing lovelier, always lovelier, and here am I, the humble Rabbi of Lud, a slave to my passions, married almost seventeen years to the same woman and practically a sex maniac, certainly a lunatic, taking what I take, accepting what I accept. All, I mean, the fair Shelley’s mishegoss and enthusiasms. Her obsession with playing the rebbitzin, for example, the rabbi’s wife. Of course we’re starved for community here, but some of the lengths Shelley goes to are absolutely potty. By nature she’s a warm and generous woman, compassionate and kind, but I grow fearful if I see her standing at the back of the room when I’m delivering a eulogy. I know that before I even began the service, that while the organ music was still playing and the chief mourners were gathering in the front benches to accept with their nods and all the authority of their grief the condolent, embarrassed sympathy of their relatives and friends, my Shelley has already been by to offer her solicitude on behalf of herself and her husband, the rabbi. If there’s anything she can do … she tells them, or invites them, transients in Lud, arrivals from out of town, people, many of them, bound for the Newark airport when they’re through at the cemetery, over to our house for “coffee and.”
Or there’s the business of the car pool.
Because there’s no school in Lud, Constance, who’s in the ninth grade at the high school in Fairlawn, is entitled to be bussed. Since it’s about an eleven-mile ride, it only makes sense to take advantage of what we’re paying taxes for anyway, but Shelley won’t hear of it. Shelley insists the kid should be driven in a car pool. As I said, I don’t see the sense myself, and neither, for that matter, did the other moms Shelley approached to share the ride. When they declined, Shelley volunteered to take their kids anyway, to drive both ways in fact, not twenty-two miles every day but more like thirty or thirty-five when you take into account the doglegs she has to make, the distance she goes out of her way each time to pick up or deliver the shirkers’ children. When I ask her why she goes to this trouble, she reminds me she’s the rabbi’s wife and it’s the duty of the rabbi’s wife to be useful. I’d say it’s got at least something to do with staying busy, with helping to keep her from going nuts. I’d say that, but she is nuts.
You need better evidence?
“Oh, Jerry,” she tells me after the stillbirth of our second child, a son, whose right leg would have been almost two inches shorter than his left, “Oh, Jerry,” she says, this beautiful woman in her late twenties who’d grown still another inch since the one she’d put on when Connie was born, “I don’t want to be tall if it’s to be at the expense of my children. Some of my height is rightfully the baby’s. I feel so guilty. I stole a piece of my stature from his poor little life. I’m not fit to be a mother. I must never allow myself to become pregnant again.”
She was serious, but I’m not so innocent in the matter myself. By now she was so beautiful I didn’t need anyone in the house who would make extra demands on her time or distract her attentions. I was too compliant. To my shame, I agreed. Sometimes I think I’m too uxorious for my own good.
You know she thinks she’s a frump? She actually believes she’s this dowdy, inelegant woman, some humble blind spot in her like the anorexic’s phantom weight. This is one of the reasons she stands by me, I think, why she’s the first to back off if we quarrel. I could take advantage here, never let on, cover the mirrors, keep her benighted, and I wouldn’t be the first, I bet, to withhold valuable information, but do I know my Shelley or do I know my Shelley? Every chance I get I’m all over her with the evidence, Johnny-on-the-Spot with the facts and the figures, Shelley’s advance man, Shelley’s flack. And I acknowledge up front I benefit from this, that Shelley believes I’m only being supportive and loyal. I even own up it could be some bread-on-the-waters, New Testament thing. So what if it is? Am I not supposed to do the right thing just because I stand to gain? I can just hear the disputations. “It depends,” says the one, “whether you do what’s right because it’s right or only because you stand to gain.” “No,” objects the other, “a world pleasing to God, a proper world, a good world, a successful world, is put together by piling right action upon right action.” Then a third puts in about intention and will. Another county heard from! Oh, please. I’m the rabbi, but you tell me, is it all religious? It makes my brains breathless to think of the possibilities. Let the Talmud stay put in the Talmud.
Anyway, I’m bringing all this in just to let you know what’s on the mind of a lowly man of God, a humble servant of the Lord, Yahweh’s instrument in New Jersey, as he ambles down Lud’s main drag of a beautiful Tuesday morning, fresh from his shower and his breakfast Shachris on his way to see Sal, codependent of Shull and Tober, Funeral Directors, and barber to the dead.
Sal’s is just about one of the swellest barbershops I’ve ever seen, the building itself in that neat Federal style, like a trim, salmon-brick Acropolis, three chairs, no waiting. There’s one of those heavy brass eagles over the entrance and a wooden barber pole next to the door like an antique in a restaurant. The minute you walk in you’re bathed in the sweet, crisp atmospherics of wonderful shampoos from the hair-oil orchards.
“Hey,” Sal said over the easy-listening station on the FM, “it’s Mr. G. What can I do you for, Rabbi?”
“I’m up for a trim, please, Sal,” I said.
“Take a chair. Any chair. Any chair at all,” he intones like someone setting up a card trick. I almost don’t have to hear him to hear him. It’s what he always says, a reference to his situation. Which is not unlike my own, for if I’m the Rabbi, then Sal is the Barber of Lud, la Figaro Figaro la, Figaro la. Because for all it’s one of the world’s swell barbershops, it’s only, like practically everything else in this town, a front. I’m not even certain it belongs to Sal. Perhaps Shull and Tober hold the paper on it, or Art Klein or John Charney of Lud Realty, or all of them perhaps, the whole entire complicated interlocking directorate behind the operation here. And except for myself and the pool Sal can draw from of maybe fifty or so people who live in Lud or work for one of the town’s businesses, he has no regulars. Sal is the contract barber for the two funeral parlors — he calls them “business parlors”—and tells me he doesn’t do badly. Not a soul goes into the ground, Sal says, until he gives them that final haircut. “I’m just like you, Father,” he tells me. “Here’s a mirror, see is it all right in the back.”