The sex guides that are available are no better. Delve into a book that covers fellatio, and you’ll find a predictable slew of material that tells you what you can do to your easily pleased man. But what you won’t find is a thorough, mindful investigation of men and sex—even sex guidebooks written by men are circumspect. The ones written for men are even more insulting, boiling sex terms into bite-sized chunks of sports euphemisms, as if they needed to “dumb down” the information into simple, digestible terms that men can understand!
This “dumbing down” in virtually all the guidebooks that cover male sexuality makes everything worse, perpetuating the instant-gratification myths that men must constantly cope with, and in an almost sinister way, hinting at the author’s own distaste for the material. It’s as if they wanted to get through it as quickly as possible—it begs the question about the author’s own comfort and judgments about men and sex. Most of these books are written from a heterosexual perspective, which makes me wonder if it’s a pervasive homophobia that causes authors to recoil from the subject. I’ve come to believe that including the gay perspective makes straight authors nervous, as if fuzzing the neat little boxes they’ve put men and women into would somehow ruin everything. Perhaps, for them, it would. So when straight authors cover fellatio, they do so quickly, they invent insulting names for techniques, and they never, ever get into the dirty details of how come tastes, or how to deep throat. They are also handicapped by a serious lack of understanding about male anatomy and how it responds to pleasure, and they omit or hurry through one important part of men’s sexual anatomy: the anus and prostate. Clearly, to omit the gay male perspective leaves out a wealth of information—gay male experience, books, and videos are rich resources for all women and men.
Nothing was left out of this book. This is where you’ll find everything you need to know to give incredible head, and more. This is where you’ll get honest information about male pleasure. This is where you can crash the gates of sex play and learn how to go down on a strap-on dildo. This book fearlessly slashes stereotypes, treads into forbidden pleasure zones. It doesn’t shy away from advanced techniques. Here is where you’ll find everything the other books left out: anatomy for pleasure, genital massage, shaving, a complete investigation of deep-throat techniques, flavored lubes, the taste of come, fellatio games, role-play, bondage, pairing anal play with fellatio, and much more.
So, sit back, relax, and enjoy this information-packed, sexy read. There are many fun tricks and techniques to try, adorable illustrations by Molly Kiely and steamy, explicit short stories by Alison Tyler to get you hot and bothered. May you enjoy putting this book into practice as much as I have enjoyed doing the research.
CHAPTER 1
More Than a Mouthful
Fellatio is a versatile and wonderful erotic art that you can use in any type of sex play with your male (or strap-on-wearing) partner. You can take him in your mouth during foreplay, in between your favorite sex positions, or when switching erotic activities; swap oral favors in a 69; or save fellatio for your last course, dessert. It can be a teasing taste of what’s to come later, a clandestine moment, a tit-for-tat trade, or the entire delicious menu. Oral sex can add intimacy to your relationships, and if you don’t already include it in your repertoire, going down on him can bring you both closer together. However you choose to incorporate it, whatever you like to call it—fellatio, blow job, hummer, giving head—the only limitations on how you can use it to enhance your lovemaking are in your mind. The possibilities are endless.
My husband and I like to pretend I’m a prostitute when I go down on him. It feels dirty and bad, and I like it.
This book is a terrific starting point for people who have never gone down on a man before. In these pages you’ll find all the accurate sex information you need to make your first experience safe, pleasurable, and successful. Or if you’re a seasoned pro, you will find plenty of new ideas to try with your favorite fellatio partner. Learning about his sexual anatomy from a pleasure perspective will give you a road map to guide your oral encounters, and you’ll see how his penis, testicles, and anus like to be touched. You’ll also learn about the stages of the male arousal cycle and what happens when men get turned on and when they orgasm—and how to read their body language throughout the process. The essential components of fellatio to orgasm are covered in detail, and you’ll learn how to use your mouth and hands in many delightful combinations. In addition, you will learn how to get off while you go down, get comfortable with deep throating, and layer oodles of tricks and techniques onto your own personal style of giving head.
So Nice to Get, So Nice to Give
The moment she started sucking, it was incredible. I still don’t know why it was so excellent. Part of it was because I was in love with her, and because I had been craving that she suck my cock. But there was a purely physical, sensual aspect to it, which was perfect—beyond anything I had experienced.
Why do men enjoy getting head? A soft pair of lips kissing; a warm and wet tongue caressing; a whole hot mouth wrapped around the center of his pleasure—this, for many men, is heaven on earth. Our mouths convey a sensation unlike any other and can easily stimulate a man to the point of no return. Hands, sex toys, vaginas, breasts, and butts all have their rightful places in the world of sex play, but fellatio combines these elements seamlessly for focused, powerful orgasms that include just as powerful visual stimulation for the recipient.
I love watching girls giving head.
When you go down on a guy, he gets much more than your velvety mouth and a pair of luscious lips wrapped around him. Men love the physical sensations that go along with fellatio, but some even get off on the peripherals—the visual and mental stimulation—more than the sensations. When a lover is between a man’s legs, he has a clear view of all the action, from beginning to end. He sees and feels everything you do. And because most everyone likes some form of visual stimulation, head can be one of the ultimate sex shows—starring him and you. Some men enjoy seeing it as a form of devotion in which they are being lovingly worshiped, adored, made love to. Others might get off on the feeling of power, relishing the notion of being “serviced” or even “taking” the pleasure you offer.
Many men who like oral sex see it simply as that: oral sex, nothing more than a wonderful variation on the menu of sex acts from which you both may choose. It feels good, it feels divine, it’s another fun thing to do with a lover. Another man may think it’s very special and intimate to have a lover who genuinely wants to make him feel good by going down on him. In this case, oral sex is a deliberately shared act that connects body and heart.