Learn the anatomy of his penis and what places are sensitive to stimulation. Generally, the head, the underside of the head, and the ridge running along the underside of the penis are the more sensitive areas, but you should find out if he has a preference for where he likes to be touched—and when he likes to be touched there. For instance, the opening to his urethra (the piss slit) may be too sensitive to touch when you begin fellating him, but as he gets close to orgasm, flicking it with your tongue could drive him wild. Some men may love having their balls gently tugged during fellatio, but only at the beginning, middle, or end of the session. To really find out what he likes, you’re going to need to ask specific questions. If you ask him if it feels good, he’ll most likely say “yes” no matter what you’re doing, and that’s not enough information to go on. Here are some suggestions for questions:
• Do you like it (gripped, squeezed, tugged, stroked, licked) like this?
• Do you like being touched here? Ask this as you touch a spot with your tongue. Then touch another, and ask if he likes it more than the first. Then another…Stop and linger where he really likes it, and note that spot for later.
• Do you want it stroked harder? Softer?
• Do you want me to go faster? Slow down?
• Do you want it sucked harder? Softer?
• What else would you like me to do while I do this?
Foreplay Games for Lovers
A playful—and often very arousing—game that works on any body part is the One to Ten game. This delightful game is actually a sneaky strategy to determine his desired levels of stimulation, and it can be used throughout your lovemaking session. Because your lover’s excitement levels change throughout the sexual response cycle, this game can be a helpful tool with a noncommunicative partner when you’re trying to figure out what he likes. Here’s how to play:
Tell him that you want to hear a number between one and ten when you touch him. The number one means he wants the lightest possible touch, and a higher number turns up the volume, ten being the top of the scale. When you begin touching or licking, you’ll probably be at one, and as his arousal increases, so will the volume—and his arousal may go up and down, so pay attention. Try this out on any appealing erogenous zone: neck, nipples, the tip of his penis, testicles, perineum, or anus.
Of course, you can turn the tables with this game to conduct additional “research.” Have him lick, kiss, nibble, and suck on various parts of your body, telling you what one is to him, and you can find out what a ten really means to him. This may require hours of research and a number of experiments to determine the precise levels of application.
Lovers in the beginning stages of foreplay can play a fun game that’s basically an adult version of the children’s game Red Light, Green Light. This game helps you determine where his erogenous zones are and can be used with any type of touch: fingers, lips (kisses), tongue (licks), face (nuzzling), or if you’re daring, a sex toy or penis. To play this game, tell him that you’re going to touch him in different places all over his body (and be sure to tell him with what) and that you want him to tell you one of three colors in response; red, green, or yellow. Red means “No, don’t touch there”; yellow is neutral (but doesn’t mean “Stop”); and green is “Yes! Right there!” Take note of what he likes and when, and you’ll gradually become an unforgettably attentive, and incredibly desirable, lover.
You might want to try playing a little game called Sweet Surprise that pushes the boundaries of playfulness, trust, and power. First, assemble a variety of items that produce various physical sensations: pieces of silk, velvet, fur, rubber, or leather; ice and a cup of hot tea; a feather (or feathers); a vibrator; and if you already play with sensation a little, a small whip, a slapper, or some clips. Finally, a blindfold, and you.
Tell him that he is going to be the blindfolded subject of a sensation experiment. You can choose to allow him to see the assembled items beforehand, or not. You also have the option of restraining his wrists and ankles, if he agrees that this will enhance the game. Then, once he is blindfolded and his clothes are removed, begin touching him with different things, going slowly, using one item at a time. Ask him to identify the sensations as you go along—having him describe them to you will give you clues about how he’s responding. Alternate between touching him with a piece of fake fur or velvet, and your mouth. Work your way all over his body, saving his penis and testicles for last. Gradually increase the number of kisses and strokes you give him as you incorporate his cock into the mix. Use the ice and hot tea to warm and cool your mouth alternately, if you wish. Tell him to keep describing the way your mouth feels when you are going down on him. For more about blindfolds and how to use them, see chapter 10, “More Techniques.”
Don’t Stop
by Alison Tyler
She’s got the strap-on in place, and she comes toward the bed in a blur. I see pale skin. Sleek leather harness. Hard, pink cock. Then my vision vanishes as the black velvet blindfold covers my eyes and she easily fastens the Velcro at the back of my head. Ariel’s always quick at these moments, her fingers moving with speed and finesse. There’s never a false motion, never a wasted gesture.
“Suck it, Davey,” she says now, but the words aren’t necessary. My lips are already parted, meeting her toy and bathing the length with the heat and wetness of my mouth. I run my tongue over the ridges, meant to represent veins, the rippling bulges, the bulbous head. The taste is oddly erotic, yet totally unreal, as I’m sucking plastic instead of skin. But the erotic movements, those powerful thrusts that seal her body to me, are all her. Sex in motion. At some point, the cock will become her, as well, and I’ll lose my recognition of where Ariel stops and the tool begins.
“Harder,” she says, but I’m already there, fiercely working my mouth along the length, drawing her in deep. I know how to do this, although I’ve never gone down on another man, never even come close. Instinctively, I just know how to suck cock. Probably because I like to have mine sucked.
I try hard to swallow her toy down to the root, and she groans the way I would in a switched position, and then murmurs encouraging nonsense phrases to me. Words that have no meaning at all, but keep me going in the same direction. Her hands stroke through my short black hair. Her fingertips cradle my face, skim my evening shadow, trace over the bones beneath the skin. She is rough and gentle at the same time, and I need it just like that.
“Don’t stop—”
Fuck, is it good. As I lie on my back on the bed, my lithe baby positioned on my chest, the smell of her cunt reaches me easily. I know she’s getting wetter under that harness, can actually feel the liquid of her arousal spreading down the split of her thighs to my upper body. Rich and sweet, the scent makes me yearn to taste her, but it makes me sad as well because it means that soon—too soon—we will have to move onto something else. Another phase of the evening’s entertainment.
When Ariel reaches a certain simmering point, she is simply unable to wait. The tool will come off and her pretty pussy will be pressed to my face so that I can fully please her. Or she’ll move so that we can 69, releasing my wrists from the cold metal cuffs so that I can touch her naked cunt, stroke her ripe ass, slide my fingers into her holes. Or she’ll make me roll over and the cock will find its slippery wet way between my ass cheeks. Wet from my own mouth, that tool will thrust hard. Thrust home.