I start by placing it near the back of my throat, and then by degrees, I swallow more. I find after awhile that I am able to bypass the gag reflex. It’s best not to deep throat him on a full stomach, also.
I’ve always found it works best with him lying down or leaning back, and to kneel beside him approaching him perpendicularly. I find that if I am sitting, I can’t get the angle right and have to be on my knees (unless he is really narrow, which makes it all-around easier). Sometimes it works better if I am facing the opposite direction pointing toward his feet—it’s all about positioning for me.
The best deep throat blow job I have ever received was when this girl hung her head over the side of the bed. I am over 7 inches and she took it all down her throat all the way to my balls. I couldn’t believe it.
Certain positions are conducive to opening up your throat, which makes deep throating easier. When you’re on your knees facing him, his penis is going to wind up pointing upward toward the soft palate in the back of your throat—right where it will trigger the strongest gag reflex. Angling his cock down your throat (not toward the top of your mouth) is the most comfortable way to deep throat and will make you gag the least. The best position is lying on your back, with your head tilted back and slightly off the edge of a bed or couch. Try it, and you’ll see how it elongates your neck and throat. Approaching the penis from above is also easier on your palate, and many people report that the angle of insertion is excellent for deep penetration. Another good position is 69 (reciprocal oral sex); you are essentially approaching from above, and the pathway down your throat is straightened.
Breathing , or remembering to breathe, is another essential component of deep throating (and not gagging). Time your up and down strokes with your breath. Inhale as you draw him in; exhale as you pull him out. It will almost seem as if you were breathing him in, a sexy notion itself. The best place to see breathing techniques in action is in porn; Deep Throat is a great example.
An Aphrodisiac for the Orally Fixated
People who deep throat may already have a handle on the link between their arousal and taking him all the way down—many find that deep throating turns them on like nothing else. There are two primary arousal sources stemming from deep throating: the physical stimulation, including the arousal hormones that are released, and the mental stimulation, encompassing the realms of fantasy fulfillment and desire. Some people find it turns them on so much, and so reliably, that it’s their favorite sex act, period.
Your mouth is an erogenous zone, no question about it—but in its entirety. The back of your mouth, tongue, palate, and throat have a different range and number of nerve endings than the sensitive front of your mouth, but they transmit messages of pleasure to your brain (and genitals) just the same. Sucking (suckling) and swallowing in an erotic context stimulates nerve pathways whose function is to build on your arousal levels, including increasing the production of the arousal hormone, oxytocin. We get physical gratification from oral stimulation, and we get it in spades when we swallow our lover to the root. The intimacy of the complete face-to-penis contact inherent in deep throating is overwhelmingly hot. This encompasses all the other stimulating sensory information, such as seeing him up close and smelling his skin and pubic hair. The physical eroticism of deep throating can’t be found anywhere else in the realm of sex. The physical sensory information is overwhelming, and it combines easily with the mental stimulation stemming from the act—physical and mental stimulation being required to work in tandem to produce arousal and orgasm. The reality of deep throating is right there in your face, and this is an incredible turn-on for many of us. Merely the fact (and realization) that you’re doing it is hot—you’re directly anchored to the moment, fully present. In addition, your fantasy life can be anywhere when you’ve got him in your throat. You can imagine that you’re in a roomful of people, in public, a porn star, or anything else that turns you on.
Taking Deep Throat Further
Now that you’ve got the technique in your bag of tricks, know all there is to know about how and why it works, and know how to use it to turn yourself on, take your technique as far as it can go. There are a number of tricks and twists on the technique that can help you to heighten the experience for both of you. You’ll likely come up with several of your own along the way, but here are some suggestions:
• When he’s in deep, freeze, and swallow.
• Instead of moving your head, constrict your throat muscles around his penis, making the rhythmic movement occur within you.
• Put him all the way in and vary your rhythm with long and short strokes: alternate short and deep for a few beats, then long and deep for a few.
• Swallowing the head of his cock, twist your head slightly and slowly from side to side.
• Experiment with extending your tongue out the front of your mouth. It will rub the sensitive underside of his shaft.
• When you exhale, moan to vibrate him in your mouth.
• To give your hands something to do, cup, fondle, or tug on his balls, stimulate his perineum with your fingertips, penetrate his anus with your fingers or a sex toy. You can also reach up and play with his nipples.
• Grab his hips and bring him into your mouth, ”forcing” him all the way in.
• Put his hands on your head. He can rest them lightly and enjoy feeling your head move in addition to the fellatio, or he can move your head as he likes. It might turn you both on to have him “use” your head and mouth in this way. An adventurous variation is for him to grab fistfuls of your hair.
Oral Authority
by Alison Tyler
“I’m going to teach you how to suck cock,” Audrey assured me after I confessed my lack of expertise in that particular sexual arena. I looked over at my beautiful blonde best friend, then let my gaze wander down to the crotch of her chicly faded 501s. She caught the glance and knew exactly what I was thinking. “Not on me, silly,” she explained, “on Duncan.” When I remained silent, she glanced up at me from her velvet sofa, her startling green eyes opened wide. “You do like Duncan, don’t you, Stella?”
Now, I blushed. Duncan was Audrey’s very attractive roommate. He had a regular spot on one of those beach-babe shows, and his body was just incredible. Tanned. Muscular. Perfect for the lifeguard he played on TV. Aside from that, he was actually an extremely nice guy. The thought of using him as a living sex toy both excited and terrified me.
“Why not start me off with a banana?” I asked, twirling one of my caramel-colored curls around my fingertips.