Ingredients
• locking collar
• leash
• leather wrist restraints with connector clips
• leather ankle restraints with connector clips
• your favorite sex toys, lube, safer sex supplies, and whatever else you enjoy in your usual sex life
Action
Read Chapter 3, How to Train Your Sex Slave, by Laura Antoniou, and Chapter 11, Stop, Drop, and Role! Erotic Role Playing, by Mollena Williams. Study up on these practices.
Install bondage attachment points on your bed in advance.
Agree that the collar symbolizes belonging and service. You may choose to agree to special names during this scene.
With gravity and adoration, put the collar on the bottom and lock it. Put the key within reach in a safe place.
Apply wrist restraints and connect them.
Apply ankle restraints and connect them.
Rotate the D-ring of the collar to the front of the neck and clip the leash on.
Commence sexing!
Use the leash to direct the bottom where you want him.
When you want him in a new position, change the restraint clip arrangement. Unclip all the restraints and connect them to the bed attachment points. Faceup or facedown, which would you prefer?
Sex some more.
Give aftercare deliciously.
OTHER BONDAGE BLOOPERS
Duct tape and similarly serious adhesive tape are nasty on the skin. They can rip off skin and hair. Some people even get rashes.
A few years ago a hot bondage scene ended in death when the top stepped away to let the bottom enjoy a mummified sensory deprivation scene. Something went wrong while he was gone, and when the top returned he wasn’t able to revive his lover. If the bottom can’t move well enough to correct problems, don’t leave them unattended. If you want to make the bottom think you left the room, that’s easy: blindfold the bottom, walk loudly out of the room with your shoes on, remove the shoes, and then tiptoe back into the room.
I’ll admit to this one. They’re just not as sturdy as they look. It’s really hard to find wood glue at 9 a.m., before checkout.
Bottoms, this one’s for you. Go to the bathroom before the fun starts!
What’s most important is that you and your partners have fun. As I say in my classes, “Don’t kill ’em, don’t harm ’em, don’t bore ’em.” As long as the mutual communication is clear and basic safety is attended to, don’t stress out about doing something wrong. Bondage is a form of pleasure art where, once you know the basics, the creative potential is endless. Now that you’re armed with information and ideas, go forth, explore, and have fabulous bondage sex!
CHAPTER 6
A LITTLE COCK AND BALL PLAY
HARDY HABERMAN
What starts as a playful little diversion can became a supercharged sexual romp with a little imagination and a few toys. I’m talking about a practice commonly called cock and ball torture, or CBT. Now, don’t let that word torture stop you. Most of what we call CBT is playful and fun, and it can be as wild or as tame as you and your partner desire.
A man’s genitals are both very sensitive and very resilient. This means they can take a lot of stress as well as be delightfully responsive to sensations both intense and mild. Add to this the emotional investment men have in the equipment between their legs and you get an ideal playground for a creative partner with a kinky streak.
Before trying any kind of CBT, it’s important to establish good communication with your partner. If you are a man playing with another man, you can use your own experience to gauge how sensations might feel for your partner, but remember that everyone experiences sensations differently. Just because you have a penis, you can’t assume your partner’s penis will react the same way as yours. Communicating about what is working and what is not working is important.
For a woman playing with a man, it’s even more essential to keep channels of communication open during the scene. It might not conform to your fantasy of what should happen, but for the first few times it’s better to have a good dialogue while the scene is going on. This will make future encounters easier and give you and your partner more confidence. Once you have this experience, adding more elaborate fantasy elements will be easier and more rewarding.
A cock and ball torture scene is something you build up to—not jump into. Now, if that sounds overly cautious, so be it. I never like to play recklessly with my partner’s genitals, since I usually want the opportunity to play with them again. Therefore, I err on the side of caution, even when I have confidence in what I am doing. As the person in control of a scene, it’s my job to be responsible for my partner’s safety and well-being. If you break your toys, you can’t play with them again.
Cock and ball torture, or cock and ball play, as I think it is more aptly called, requires nothing more than a pair of hands and a good imagination, but a wide variety of toys are made specifically for this kind of fun. Since you may not want to invest a lot of money in toys you might use once and find you don’t really like, I suggest the following for a beginner’s collection: a coil of braided nylon rope, some wooden clothespins, an elastic bandage (like an ACE bandage), and a toothbrush. With just these few items and your imagination you and your partner can explore almost all the basic sensations in CBT.
Nora had planned a special evening for Bob. They had been dating for many months and spent a lot of time talking about their fantasies, both sexual and otherwise. Bob had expressed an interest in letting Nora take the upper hand in their bedroom play and he told her some vivid stories of what he imagined could happen. She was not only attentive, but enthusiastic. Nora relished the idea of taking a dominant role with Bob during their sex play, so she prepared to make at least a few of his fantasies come true.
“Lock the door,” she told him in a breathy voice. She stood waiting for his compliance like a female drill sergeant, hands behind her back.
Bob paused for a second and then snapped into action. He picked up on what was going on and was eager to comply.
“Now, I want you naked before you go any further into my house!”
Bob couldn’t undress fast enough. Shedding his clothes with speed, he left them scattered around the entrance hall. When he had finally removed the last garment, his underwear, he stood before her feeling aroused and very vulnerable.
“You will not leave your clothes all over my house. Fold them neatly and bring them with you.”
She turned her back and moved away from the door. Bob did his best gathering up his stuff and at least made an effort to fold it into a single bundle. Then, like an obedient puppy, he followed Nora into the bedroom.