If you can’t keep up the pace, just deep throat him once in a while during your oral extravaganza. He’ll be thrilled!
Sex Gadgets
If your guy is a gadget-lover, he’ll flip when you unwrap a sex toy you’ve selected just for him—or for both of you!
These add-ons for hand- and blowjobs boost the sensations from your fingers, tongue and lips. The choices today are limited only by your own imagination.
Vibrators. I’ve yet to meet a guy who didn’t like the feeling of a vibrator at the base of his shaft or under his balls. Just pick up a little love egg (“bullet”) or cylindrical vibe and load it up with batteries. Then try these tricks:
Run it on and around his nipples during your blowjob.
Tickle the tip of his nose.
Glide it against his tender-spot, balls and taint while you kiss his penis.
Lightly run it along his shaft, from tip to bottom.
Gently touch it to the head of his penis for only a moment.
Use it interchangeably with your mouth and hand.
Place a love egg against your cheek while you give him head.
Run it along his taint and butthole. Use lots of lube.
Pick up two: let him play with one on you, too!
Penis Rings. These gadgets wrap tightly around the base of his penis to help him maintain a harder, longer-lasting erection. They’ll even give him a more intense orgasm, too. Try one that vibrates!
Note: Rings have a pleasure limit. Play it safe, and don’t let him wear it longer than 30 minutes at a time.
Penis Sleeves. For a refreshing change of pace, wrap him in a penis sleeve and glide this lifelike material up and down his shaft. Tip: If he’s extra large, you can use one as a safety guard to keep his penis from going too far down your throat.
Oral Vibrators. What will they think of next? These tiny micro-vibrators attach to your tongue and vibrate the tip as you work your magic.
Dildos. For backdoor play, just find the one that fits him best. And with so many materials to choose from—latex, silicone, plastic, g!ass—as well as hundreds of shapes and sizes, you’ll have fun just shopping! See Chapter 9 for more information on backdoor pleasure.
Edibles. Shape a piece of licorice over your teeth to blunt the sharp edges, and then go wild! It feels good to him, and it’s tasty for you. Or cover him in fruit-flavored lube and have a party!
9. HIS BACK DOOR (& MORE!)
It’s surprising how so many totally heterosexual guys will get squeamish if you even hint you’d like to try buttplay on them—especially since they’re always so gung-ho to do it to you!
Yet anal sex is now more popular than ever among straight men and women today.
If you’d like to try it, you’ll find everything you need in this chapter to get started—safety and securely. And the best way to start may be to calm his biggest fears:
“I tried it once and it didn’t feel good.” (It’s all about technique, lover.)
“It’s an exit, not an entrance.” (It can be both, safely and pleasurably.)
“It’s for gay men.” (Not when he’s naked with a ravishing woman like you!)
Do you know what convinces more and more hetero couples to explore the pleasures of buttplay? Is it intimacy? Passion? Curiosity? Excitement? More exotic, erotic orgasms? Actually, it’s all of the above.
Some guys love to be touched down there. Some like to be penetrated down there. And others want you to stay the heck away—although it helps to reassure them this doesn’t make them the least bit homosexuaclass="underline" every guy has a prostate, ready to provide many highly pleasurable, direct stimulation orgasms.
You can initiate buttplay by expressing your desires to your guy. But as always, be sure to respect his wishes. If he’s still not interested—even after you’ve enlightened him—that’s okay, too. And since this is one area where you can know exactly how your own touch feels, why not pleasure yourself there first to see how you like it!
Safer Sex Precaution: To fully enjoy the pleasures of buttplay, both of you should be totally monogamous and free of all sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). If you are recent lovers, or either of you engages in any high-risk behavior, read the tips in this chapter and the Appendix at the end of this book before trying any of these techniques to learn how safer sex will maximize your pleasure while minimizing your risk.
Magic Butt Tour
His Anus & Rectum
His anus (“butthole”) is the opening at the outermost edge of his anal canal. It’s loaded with nerve endings that make it ultra-sensitive to finger, tongue or vibrator stimulation. Even if you’ve never included his anus in your lovemaking, it joins in anyway, becoming incredibly sensitive when he gets excited, pulsating wildly every time he orgasms. But he’s never fully aware of these erotic pulsations until it’s being touched—so touch it!
Just inside his anus are two circular muscles called sphincters, designed to expand and contract. Even further inside, you’ll find the rectum, which delivers delightful sensations of pressure, but has very little sensitivity to touch (much the same as the inside of your vagina). To him, these rectal feelings of pressure and fullness may feel at first like he’s about to have a bowel movement, but assure him there’s nothing to worry about—it’s a passageway, not a storage area.
The Prostate
Your guy has a G-spot—although it’s not the same as yours. It’s the prostate, also known as the “P-spot”—and you can find it a few inches inside his anus.
The prostate creates and stores the ejaculatory fluid that ultimately carries his sperm to you. Since massaging the prostate can make his orgasms feel more amazing than ever, it’s worth feeling your guy out to see if he wants to be felt out.
The prostate is easy to find with a well-lubed index or middle finger. He may actually come from your finger action alone—but it usually takes lots of practice receiving prostate stimulation simultaneously with your hand- and blowjobs.
If he loses his erection while you’re rubbing his prostate, don’t worry—it happens to some guys. Just start him off inside, and finish him off outside.And when you’re done, be sure to remove your finger gendy—and slowly.
Play nurse! Perhaps a little “professional” play-acting will get him into the mood for buttplay. Tell him you’re a nurse, and you need to examine his buttocks. Have him lay down on his stomach as you begin your “exam.” Start with a light butt massage, and say that you need to go in deeper. Bring out your “instrument”—a finger or mini-vibrator-and complete your exam!