Just think of your hands as creative sex toys with lots of moving pleasure parts. And because your fingertips are flush with sensitive nerve endings, you can actually feel his excitement, too. For starters, be sure your fingernails are trimmed smooth and hangnail-free, and your hands are moisturized and naked of all rings and jewelry that can snag and scratch.And if your hands are cold, warm them under running hot water or by tucking them between your thighs.
Imagine. By the time you finish this chapter, you’ll know more about pleasuring his penis than he’s learned in his entire life!
The Basics
Let’s start with a few general pointers:
Rhythm. Good hand technique is like good music. When you find the right rhythm, you’re on your way to creating a masterpiece.
Pressure. A feather-touch can be too soft; a firm grip can be too much. But the instant you mimic real vaginal snugness, he’ll be putty in your hands. Try inserting a finger or two inside yourself to get a feel for your own snugness. Now you know how tight he may like it.
Angle. Do you only stroke your guy northward toward the belly button, never to points west, or even south? The angle changes the sensation, but be carefuclass="underline" some guys are strictly northerners.
Wetness. While soft, dry teasing can feel good for starters, a handjob really gets going the moment you pour on the slippery lube.
Triggers. No matter how well you master everything else, your big finish will come only when you glide your hand over his trigger points: the ridge, the V-spot and the head.
Listen. Tune in to your guy. His oohhhs and aaaahs speak volumes—just like his body language. So will his mouth, if you just ask!
Learn from the master. Who knows better what your guy likes—than your guy? Ask him seductively for a first-hand demonstration.As you watch him show you his favorite techniques, just wrap your hand around his and take it from there.
Revealing the Prize
Want to tease him mercilessly? Your sexy torture can begin right through his clothes. The light pressure of your fingertips pressing soft cotton against his growing penis will drive him crary. Just be sure there’s expansion room in his pants—it’s about to get crowded down there!
Now, for his grand entrance. Reveal his penis slowly, even if you’ve seen it a million times—he still loves when you first take it out. But be gentle. A scrape against a jagged open zipper can cost him his erection. So can an accidental ‘snap’ of his briefs’ elastic waistband. Oops!
Now trace one fingertip up and down the shaft. Or tap and tickle. Or lightly bounce it up and down. Every living cell in his penis is now screaming out for more of your touch.
Get Slippery!
He’s past light and teasing. He’s ready for hot and heavy. What better time than to bring out the lube?
Lube starter. To use your own natural lube, pool-up some saliva inside your mouth. Now cup your hand over your lips and quietly, gracefully, deposit it onto your fingertips.Then spread it all around the head of his penis for incredible sensations from the first touches of your slippery fingers.
Lube booster. For long-lasting slipperiness, have a good sex lube at-hand. You can drizzle some right onto his penis, or be a considerate lover and warm it up by rubbing it in your palms first.
Head’s Up
Just a few more pointers will turn a good handjob into a virtuoso performance:
Sensitive guy? Just like you may be ultra-sensitive to direct clitoral stimulation, he might squirm from over-stimulation of his head. See how he reacts, and if it’s over the top, try stroking him just beneath the ridge, and see if he wants you to glide over the head when he’s about ready to orgasm.
Uncircumcised? Remember that his foreskin is very thin and delicate, so don’t slide it down too far, too hard or too fast. You can gently stroke with the foreskin alone, but it’s always a good idea to apply lots of lube.
Tuckered out? What if the energy in your hand or wrist is finished before he is? Then switch hands! Or take a break and give him a long, wet, deep kiss—but keep caressing his penis.
Try These Positions
The better you feel, the better he’ll feel. Whichever position you choose, just be sure your hands can move freely, and you’re comfortable, balanced and warm.
The most common position for a handjob is to lie down right next to him, but these exciting variations will thrill him deeply:
You straddle his legs for bird’s eye view—or even wrap your legs around his.
You kneel on the floor while he stands in front of you.
You lie behind him, simulating his own masturbation motions.
He straddles your hips, so he can caress your breasts and enjoy watching you stroke him.
You each sit cross-legged facing the TV, twisting your torsos toward each other. Now watch an adult video while your hands work their magic.
The Grand Finale
His muscles are tensing, his breathing is accelerating, his penis is bulging and his balls are tightening. This is your cue to keep doing exactly what you’re doing—with the same consistent speed, rhythm and pressure. Don’t change a thing!
If he should suddenly veer away from his orgasm, try more stimulation to the head. Or less. Or add some lube. Or just ask him what he’d like you to do.
When he reaches that tantalizing point-of-no-return, don’t stop—ever—even if your wrist feels like it’s going to fall off! After the first orgasmic pulsations, begin downshifting your motions, because he’s starting to become extra sensitive. But don’t stop—keep stroking slowly and softly until his last orgasmic contraction.
For a true handjob masterpiece, remember: he LOVES to watch himself come. And he LOVES to watch you watching him.You will launch your guy into seventh heaven by inviting it out of him with hot, spontaneous passion, and then sending it where he can see everything. Right before he explodes, offer him your breasts, tummy, neck, face, arms or even feet for him to come on, and you will be worshiped like never before!
For a graceful finish, never race for the tissues or jump straight into the shower.Tell him how much he turned you on. Caress his penis very gently. Play with his come. Cuddle. Give him a nice deep kiss.Then give him an orgasm aftershock: hold his softening penis at the base, and bring your hand slowly up the shaft, putting light pressure on the underside, like you’re squeezing the last bit of toothpaste out of the tube. Aaaah.
Do unto others. How do guygasms feel? We’ll never know for sure, but it probably feels very similar to our own orgasms.After all, guys have the same ultra-sensitive nerve endings in the head of the penis that we’ve got in the clitoris. And our bodies react orgasmically in much the same way: involuntary contractions of the PC muscle after that delicious point-of-no-return.