After you have paced some unconscious response, you can begin to amplify or lead into some other response. I can pick out any portion of Bob's nonverbal behavior and do this. I can pace his pupil dilation by dilating my own pupils, and then, as I look at him, begin to defocus my eyes only as fast as he will follow me. Defocused eyes are a good indication of trance, because they accompany internal processing as opposed to focusing on something in the external world.
1 can match his eyeblinks and then gradually blink my eyes more often and more slowly until I get him to shut his eyes. I can mirror his muscle tonus and then slowly relax my own muscles to assist him in relaxation. When you pace and lead nonverbally, there's no need for talk. You just mirror to get rapport, and then slowly put yourself into an altered state of consciousness, making sure that the other person is following you.
Pacing and leading is a meta–pattern. It's actually a part of every other induction we'll be teaching you. You can use nonverbal pacing and leading either by itself, or as a part of another induction. I recommend that at some point you practice just the nonverbal portion. Without words, just arrange yourself in a mirroring position. Then you can very slowly—noticing how fast the person follows you—put your self into a deep trance. Be sure to have some way for you to come back out.
Overlapping Representational Systems
For those of you who don't know what representational systems are, let me explain briefly. We noticed some time ago that people specialize in the kind of information they process and pay attention to. If you divide experience into information in the different sensory channels, you have a visual chunk of experience, an auditory chunk, and a kinesthetic chunk. You also have olfactory (smell) and gustatory (taste) chunks, but those two channels don't generally take up very large portions of your experience unless you arc cooking or eating. In our normal state, some of us are primarily aware of visual experience, some primarily auditory, and some primarily kinesthetic. We call these representational systems, because they are the systems that we use to represent our experience. The words we use when we talk about our experience are an indication of which sensory channel we are consciously using.
Now the interesting thing is that if you ask someone to describe her normal state of consciousness and then to describe what it's like to be in an altered state, she'll often use a different representational system. For example, someone might describe her normal state as "having a clear, focused sense of who I am" (visual words), and her altered state as being "in touch with the universe" (kinesthetic words).
This means that when you find out what state someone is in normally in terms of representational systems, you have an excellent indication of what would be an altered state for that person—anything else. If someone comes in who is really in touch with her feelings and has a firm grasp on her life, you might want to take her to an altered state where she is primarily aware of visual images. So if she came in and said "Well, I just feel like I want to go into a trance, because I'm in touch with having a lot of needs, and I get irritated sometimes, and I want to feel relaxed and smooth out some of the difficulties in my life" I would have a subtle indication that her awareness is mostly kinesthetic.
Jan, would you come up here a minute? Tell me something you like about your house.
Jan: Oh, I love the view. I've got a place overlooking the ocean—it's just beautiful.
She is offering me visual information, so I know I'm safe if I begin talking about visual information. That will pace her experience. Remember, the meta–pattern is pacing and leading: matching what the client is already doing and then leading to something else. That "something else" is to go to systems which she doesn't ordinarily use. That will be an altered state for her.
I'd probably begin by asking for a context that is visually pleasing. I already know Jan likes the view of the ocean. Do you like the beach?
Jan: Oh, yes!
I would like to invite you, with your eyes open or closed, to follow along with me as I offer you a description of the experience … of being at the ocean. … If you were actually able … to go to the ocean … on a day like today … one of the first things that you can become aware of… is that as you look up … you see clearly … the distinctive lighting of the sky… . You may be able to see some clouds floating across the sky … and as you look about … you can enjoy … the clarity of the air … and you glance down and see … the surface of the beach … and as you stand there … looking down at the beach you're standing on … you can see your feet … and you can feel … the feeling … of your feet … on the beach… .
And when you look out across . , . the ocean … you can see wave … after wave … after wave … rolling from the horizon … toward you … each one having a unique form …a particular curl …a particular color as it splashes… . And as you look out at the waves … moving in … you notice … the wind is blowing some of the spray off the top of each wave as the breaker hits the shore… . And as you watch that spray, you can feel … the moisture in the air, . . as the breeze blows on your face… . And if you were to
now take … a couple of steps … into the water … and feel the coolness of the water swirling around your feet … and ankles … and you can really enjoy it. …
Now if you look up or down along the beach, you can see a familiar figure … someone you had not expected to find there … and you wave … and that person calls across to you … reminding you of another time and place … and something rather pleasant and surprising … that came from that experience … and enjoy the experience … and learn … from it … whatever might be useful for you… . And when you are prepared … and have enjoyed them … at your own rate … taking all the time you desire … come back.…
Now, what form of communication was I using?
Woman: You seemed to be using primarily visuals and a lot of going back and forth between those and kinesthetics. Did you reach a point where you decided to stay in kinesthetics?
I would have if I had continued the induction. When I go back and forth, I'm testing to find out if she can follow. Think of this as a verbal counterpart of breathing together. I breathe with her for a while and then I alter my breathing. If she follows, I now. have rapport; I have the lead and can continue to develop whatever kind of experience is appropriate.
How did I know that she was able to follow me, by the way? After I said the first few things, I knew immediately that she was able to go along with me. How did I know that? ' Man: Her head moved congruently with your instructions.
Yes. When I talked about looking up, her head moved up. When I talked about looking down, her head moved down. When I talked1 about looking out at the waves, she looked out at the waves. Her body responses indicated that she was having the experience I was suggesting. That is enough information to know that I have rapport. Now, the question is: do I still have rapport if I switch systems? Answer: try it and find out. So I had her look down at the beach. Then I said "And feel your feet against the sand," Jan: I did.
Woman: So then when you get her into another system, do you tend to stay there?
Yes. Then I would talk mainly about the sensations in her body. As she steps into the water, she can feel the swirling of the water … and the moisture inthear… as the wind blows against her face.
I first develop a visual image about where she is and then find a point of overlap between the visual image and any other system. So, in this case, if she looks down at the beach and sees her feet against the sand, then she can feel the firmness of her feet upon the beach. If she looks cut and sees the wind blowing spray off the top of the breaking waves, then she can feel the breeze against her face.