Kate Fox
Watching the English
WATCHING THE ENGLISH
The Hidden Rules of
English Behaviour
HODDER amp; STOUGHTON
Kate Fox, a social anthropologist, is Co-Director of the Social Issues Research Centre in Oxford and a Fellow of the Institute for Cultural Research. Following an erratic education in England, America, Ireland and France, she studied anthropology and philosophy at Cambridge.
'Watching the English... will make you laugh out loud ("Oh God. I do that!") and cringe simultaneously ("Oh God. I do that as well."). This is a hilarious book which just shows us for what we are... beautifully-observed. It is a wonderful read for both the English and those who look at us and wonder why we do what we do. Now they'll know.'
Birmingham Post
'Fascinating reading.'
Oxford Times
'The book captivates at the first page. It's fun. It's also embarrassing. "Yes... yes," the reader will constantly exclaim. "I'm always doing that"'.
Manchester Evening News
'There's a qualitative difference in the results, the telling detail that adds real weight. Fox brings enough wit and insight to her portrayal of the tribe to raise many a smile of recognition. She has a talent for observation, bringing a sharp and humorous eye and ear to everyday conventions, from the choreography of the English queue to the curious etiquette of weather talk.'
The Tablet
'It's a fascinating and insightful book, but what really sets it apart is the informal style aimed squarely at the intelligent layman.'
City Life, Manchester
'Fascinating... Every aspect of English conversation and behaviour is put under the microscope. Watching the English is a thorough study which is interesting and amusing.'
Western Daily Press
'Enjoyable good fun, with underlying seriousness - a book to dip into at random and relish for its many acute observations.'
Leicester Mercury
Also by Kate Fox
The Racing Tribe: Watching the Horsewatchers
Pubwatching with Desmond Morris
Passport to the Pub:
The Tourist's Guide to Pub Etiquette
Drinking and Public Disorder
(with Dr Peter Marsh)
WATCHING THE ENGLISH
The Hidden Rules of
English Behaviour
Copyright 2004 by Kate Fox
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To Henry, William, Sarah and Katharine
Introduction - Anthropology at Home
The Weather
Grooming-talk
Humour Rules
Linguistic Class Codes
Emerging Talk-rules: The Mobile Phone
Pub-talk
PART TWO: BEHAVIOUR CODES
Home Rules
Rules of the Road
Work to Rule
Rules of Play
Dress Codes
Food Rules
Rules of Sex
Rites of Passage
Conclusion: Defining Englishness
Epilogue
Acknowledgements
References
Iam sitting in a pub near Paddington station, clutching a small brandy. It's only about half past eleven in the morning - a bit early for drinking, but the alcohol is part reward, part Dutch courage. Reward because I have just spent an exhausting morning accidentally-on-purpose bumping into people and counting the number who said 'Sorry'; Dutch courage because I am now about to return to the train station and spend a few hours committing a deadly sin: queue jumping.
I really, really do not want to do this. I want to adopt my usual method of getting an unsuspecting research assistant to break sacred social rules while I watch the result from a safe distance. But this time, I have bravely decided that I must be my own guinea pig. I don't feel brave. I feel scared. My arms are all bruised from the bumping experiments. I want to abandon the whole stupid Englishness project here and now, go home, have a cup of tea and lead a normal life. Above all, I do not want to go and jump queues all afternoon.
Why am I doing this? What exactly is the point of all this ludicrous bumping and jumping (not to mention all the equally daft things I'll be doing tomorrow)? Good question. Perhaps I'd better explain.
THE 'GRAMMAR' OF ENGLISHNESS
We are constantly being told that the English have lost their national identity - that there is no such thing as 'Englishness'. There has been a spate of books bemoaning this alleged identity crisis, with titles ranging from the plaintive Anyone for England? to the inconsolable England: An Elegy. Having spent much of the past twelve years doing research on various aspects of English culture and social behaviour - in pubs, at racecourses, in shops, in night-clubs, on trains, on street corners - I am convinced that there is such a thing as 'Englishness', and that reports of its demise have been greatly exaggerated. In the research for this book, I set out to discover the hidden, unspoken rules of English behaviour, and what these rules tell us about our national identity.
The object was to identify the commonalities in rules governing English behaviour - the unofficial codes of conduct that cut across class, age, sex, region, sub-cultures and other social boundaries. For example, Women's Institute members and leather-clad bikers may seem, on the surface, to have very little in common, but by looking beyond the 'ethnographic dazzle'1 of superficial differences, I found that Women's Institute members and bikers, and other groups, all behave in accordance with the same unwritten rules - rules that define our national identity and character. I would also maintain, with George Orwell, that this identity 'is continuous, it stretches into the future and the past, there is something in it that persists, as in a living creature'.
My aim, if you like, was to provide a 'grammar' of English behaviour. Native speakers can rarely explain the grammatical rules of their own language. In the same way, those who are most 'fluent' in the rituals, customs and traditions of a particular culture generally lack the detachment necessary to explain the 'grammar' of these practices in an intelligible manner. This is why we have anthropologists.
Most people obey the unwritten rules of their society instinctively, without being conscious of doing so. For example, you automatically get dressed in the morning without consciously reminding yourself that there is an unspoken rule of etiquette that prohibits going to work in one's pyjamas. But if you had an anthropologist staying with you and studying you, she would be asking: 'Why are you changing your clothes?' 'What would happen if you went to work in pyjamas?' 'What else can't you wear to work?' 'Why is it different on Fridays?' 'Does everyone in your company do that?' 'Why don't the senior managers follow the Dress-down Friday custom?' And on, and on, until you were heartily sick of her. Then she would go and watch and interrogate other people - from different groups within your society - and, hundreds of nosy questions and observations later, she would eventually decipher the 'grammar' of clothing and dress in your culture (see Dress Codes, page 267).