Do you see? It is important to discover your mistakes and admit them. Look at them and recognize them without excuses.
Even if after this your spouse turns away and leaves, you will stop reproaching yourself, your conscience will be clear.
My husband then demanded that I confess everything to him. That was not easy. Ugh.
I blushed and turned pale while I read all this.
But he didn't send me away. He was still waiting for me to admit to cheating. “That didn’t happen, my friend. Never.
And you?"
By the way, this question worried me and worries me the least. It seems that when you are clean, you cannot be hurt.
Yes.
I have imagined his adultery several times, but I am neither cold nor hot. Well, maybe a little offensive, that’s all. Lately my love is so mature that I wish him happiness in any circumstances.
That evening (almost night) of October thirtieth, he picked me up and took me to his rented one-room apartment. I told the guys from whom I rented a place that I was going to a witch’s Sabbath so that they wouldn’t ask questions. They just laughed (it looked absurd)..
There in the apartment he was more sincere than ever. He asked me not to force things and to be careful at first. He promised to care and love as much as he could, so that I would not demand more than he could give now.
I agreed to everything.
There was sex. Slow and sad. I tried not to show that everything was very sad.
Later, of course, the sex got better and better until we started having fun, but more on that later.
That evening that was enough for me.
We slept together for the first time in two months. I rejoiced, as a child can do in a toy store, where he is allowed to do everything.
Of course, he immediately asked (he gave me an exact ultimatum) not to smoke, start eating right (otherwise I was exhausted) and cook delicious food.
Everything was done strictly.
So we got back together. I won. My persistence took over. Life taught me, and I learned this lesson like a diligent student. She didn’t give up, didn’t give up, didn’t become a victim. I won.
And what’s best is that I didn’t do it with whims, tears and manipulation like “now I’ll hang around with my friends left and right, drink, go for walks, find a new guy, he’ll get jealous, I’ll wait for him to crawl to me himself.” I wouldn't crawl. Not my man. Yes, and I'm not like that.
Therefore, my dear girls, no matter how “House Two” and other mind-bending shows teach you, never stoop to pathetic manipulations. Beautiful strategic cunning moves are permissible if you are confident in yourself and your love. Otherwise, I don’t even recommend them until you check yourself for the sincerity of your feelings for your partner. Remember, you can harm both him and yourself.
When I told this story to my sisters, they asked me to write a book for women.
I myself understand that there are few examples like mine, for the most part people just get divorced. However, there is, it’s just not all shared with the larger masses. I decided to open up to you, I hope I helped someone.
"Orgasm and frigidity, the search for marital sexuality"
So, next chapter. No less voluminous. Get ready for some revelations.
Sex is such a strange area that, in addition to gays and lesbians, there is frigidity and impotence. And there is everything together.
I could have an orgasm with self-stimulation, but not in the presence of a man.
After the reunion, my husband decided to get his way; he really wanted to see my orgasm. And I promised that I wouldn’t give up until he succeeded. I pushed the shame and discomfort further away to allow us to walk the path to my g-spot together.
There are a lot of courses on intimate gymnastics, on studying your genitals, erogenous zones, contracting and relaxing the necessary muscles, correct stimulation and the correct influence of your partner.
I took one of them three years ago. Not bad, but incomplete.
And we began to integrate my masturbation into our intimate life. And voila, after a couple of months everything worked out.
It turns out that if you give a man the right instructions and stop being nervous about his every mistake, then everything works out. Definitely no hands or nails in the vagina.
I'm talking about oral sex.
Well, judge for yourself, which parts of the body do not contain bones and other solid structures?
Penis — yes.
Language — too, yes.
You see how they differ from fingers, and even with nails.
When working with the clitoris in jewelry, a healthy sized penis will not cope, but our friend from the oral cavity will perfectly match our clitoris.
It is also very important what is happening in your head at this time. What are the thoughts about, and do they exist?
There shouldn’t be any problems at this moment, you only think about your partner. You admire everything his body is made of. Hair, skin, smells, those from a clean body, of course. The natural odor of sweat or other glands in its pure form is not disgusting, as if you add unwashed clothes to it.
Drive yourself crazy with sexy pictures of him, imagine how he would look in a movie in a sex scene, how other women would get excited seeing him so attractive.
You see. Get yourself going.
And then use it as you want. When a man desires a female orgasm, he is not against completely wild primitive things.
If your man doesn't care about your orgasm, then ask him if he would like to. Suddenly it turns out that he likes this idea. Then be bold and don't miss the chance. There is something to fight for, I assure you.
And if he already feels good, then try a couple more times and change your partner.
What? Do you also feel good without the endorphin rush?
It's true, I understand. I had this happen. Try to start a healthy lifestyle.
Uh-oh, you say you orgasm alone? Then you don’t care about sex with your husband, you don’t need him in principle, and soon the genitals, head, something else will begin to hurt, sex will become less frequent, and he will begin to experience impotence named Lola (or another name of his mistress).
Don't deprive yourself of pleasure. You are not incubators for the birth and education of new people, you have the same right to orgasm as men.
And if you don’t want to, then take care of your health so that you want to.
It happens:
— And if my gynecologist sends me to a psychologist, he says you have “vaginismus”? (for those who do not know, this is a pathological spasm of the vagina, in which a man cannot insert the penis for coitus).
— Then the answer is this: take a course in intimate gymnastics, remove the spasm from the vagina. In the meantime, learn: relax and have fun in the sixty-nine position with your partner. You don't need a psychologist, you don't need marijuana or sedatives.
You are healthy.
Rape, someone's dirty fingers and untrimmed nails in youth or sex under alcohol led to this spasm. There is no point in continuing to give them causality. You are the owner of your vagina, the cells there have already been renewed many times, this is your property. It is healthy and clean. Love it.