By late the next morning the storm had passed and another was blowing in. We left Leszek at Camp 2 and ascended back to Camp 3. By the time we arrived powder avalanches resembling cumulus clouds were being blown off the mountain at right angles by the wind.
We used our knives to cut chunks of snow for tea. The snow fell continuously all day with increasing intensity. We peered out of doorways into what looked like a milky vapor. In the lee of the wind, the snowbanks rebuilt themselves with alarming speed. We were all suffering variously from the cold. Nowakowski’s toes were dark blue. The nail of Kolesniak’s index finger was missing but he said the finger hurt, which was a good sign. Everyone was queasy, the fluid loss through breathing at altitude having wiped out our body salts. Our heads were metal doors that somebody was kicking with hobnailed boots. We shared our last big meal, a banquet of sardines and powdered potatoes and soup. Kolesniak poured the sardine oil onto his split fingertips to soothe them. Leszek reported by radio from below that his tent was getting buried so deeply that when he went outside there were no traces of the guy lines.
We were at that stage of the expedition in which home had begun to seem imaginary. Trying to plan meant wading in one’s head through a murky and drugged marsh. If some of us were going to press on to Camp 4 and then the summit, we would have to go soon. Our luck, such as it was, wouldn’t hold out much longer. A mountain like this was the apex of however many gigantic river valleys, all of which in winter were storm machines, sending their masses of evaporated water up its slopes at high speeds. The next morning made our decisions for us. Kolesniak’s headaches were so bad he could barely see. Nowakowski reported that he’d started to spit up blood. They both had to shed altitude, and quickly. They’d wait for us at Camp 2 or maybe even Camp 1. Jacek, Bieniek, and I would be the ones going up.
The four of us husbands and wives had stayed at that pub until five in the morning. We hadn’t even had enough cash to pay the bill, so Agnieszka and Krystyna promised to return the next day to settle up. “Where we’re going to get the money, I don’t know,” Agnieszka complained once the unhappy bartender finally left us alone.
The flight to Islamabad was leaving at eleven. Krystyna had taken to drawing patterns in the condensation rings on the table in order to manage her frustration, and Agnieszka every so often ran her hand through my hair, feathering it back and holding my eyes with hers.
“It’s just so weird to watch the world celebrate their selfishness,” Krystyna said. “I can’t tell you how many times some interviewer has said that there’s not an ounce of compromise in him.”
Jacek raised a glass in a bittersweet toast to himself.
“They all believe some version of ‘Hey, I’m doing something unbelievably dangerous here; all you have to do is look after the house and kid,’ ” she went on. She seemed so worn out with sadness that she was unable to look at him.
“At some point, the wife begins to get it,” Agnieszka said, her arms at her side. I could feel the absence of her hand from my hair. “Being away all the time just isn’t that hard for them.”
“Leaving you is the worst thing I do,” I said.
“Is it?” she said. She sounded genuinely touched that I thought this might be the case. “You know, you sign on for the ride, but then you wonder how long the ride can continue.”
“I have to piss,” Jacek said morosely.
“I never thought we’d be together this long,” Agnieszka explained. “I thought we’d either separate or you’d get killed.”
“Teresa Nelec always used to tell me that being a winter mountaineer’s wife meant always being ready for the funeral,” Krystyna said. “She told me that when her daughter was three, she asked why so many women came over to stay with her and cry. That was her reward for all the weeks he was off in Chad or the Himalayas and she was home with a baby and no car and no money.”
Jacek staggered off to the bathroom. The three of us just sat there. I helped Krystyna with her condensation rings.
“You always say you want to stop climbing, but on your own terms,” she told him once he returned. “And those terms always turn out to be one more gigantic mountain.”
“You know, when climber friends ask what you’re up to, everyone says, ‘Oh, I’m leaving for this’ or ‘I’m getting ready for that,’ ” Jacek said. “If you tell them, ‘Oh, I’m getting a job’ or ‘I’m just going to spend some time with the wife,’ you can actually see the respect leave their faces.” He looked at Agnieszka, who looked back.
“And it’s not an experience you intend to repeat,” she said.
Krystyna drove us home since she seemed the least drunk. I thought but didn’t say that the mountains seemed to us another chance, our attempt to understand ourselves and exorcise those aspects we detested. To become the sort of person we could begin to respect.
Back in our house we looked in on the babysitter, asleep with Wanda, and I negotiated my way to the bathroom with my pants unbuttoned and soon found myself on my back in the tub, where I conceived of other insights it would be important to impart to Agnieszka. Mountaineering was the only life for which I was fit. I understood her despair: we spent every particle of energy we had to get off the mountain alive and return to our homes, then couldn’t wait to go back. We returned to be nursed back to health so we could dally in our marriages and resume our fund-raising. The difference between us and addicts was that you never got us to admit that anything was wrong with what we loved to do.
Agnieszka appeared and shut the door behind her as if she’d heard me. She’d thrown on her gray sleeping shirt and shed her pants. She put a hand on each side of the tub and leaned over me. “Every morning when you were gone, Wanda and I would take down the calendar and cross out the previous day’s date,” she whispered. “Until we got to the day we were going to the airport.”
“You’re not wearing any bottoms,” I said. I sounded appreciative.
“I would cry, too, if I were you,” she whispered, and she pushed me back when I tried to get up and climbed on top of me in the tub. “When I think of the ten million things that could have happened instead of my meeting you,” she whispered, and I grew in her hands and she put me inside her. In her bedroom Wanda cried out in her sleep, and we both stilled for a moment. Then Agnieszka started moving again. “I can’t live without being part of the debate,” she finally whispered, easing us up and down. “With my options being either to support the team’s decisions or leave.”
“I love you so much,” I told her.
“I know. We should talk about that more,” she said. And then she lowered her face to me. We woke an hour before we had to get to the airport, only because Wanda was stirring in her bedroom again and calling for us.
After any prolonged stay above five thousand meters, the body begins to consume itself. Conditioning deteriorates. Fat disappears and muscle tissue follows. With each moment of acclimatization at altitude, strength decreases. Waking in Camp 4 is like waking in prison after having done something awful the night before. The wind seems to be ramming the tent’s nylon walls. I struggle to my knees and Jacek follows. We step out into the maelstrom.